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| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Would make sense IMO to provide an equal value waiver to those who take care of their kid rather than send them to childcare. Stay at home moms do not provide a less valuable service than childcare providers. This policy appears to disincentives children staying with their mother even when it is preferred. | | |
| ▲ | ryandrake 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | I just don't understand this mentality. My wife is a stay-at-home mom. We are lucky that we can afford to do this. Most of our kid's friends have both parents working and they pay for child care. If suddenly they were able to have that childcare paid for, that would be wonderful! It doesn't affect our situation at all. Why would we oppose it? I don't need to have my own "waiver" payment in order for me to be in favor of my neighbor's burden being lifted. It's like free school lunch. We pack our kid a lunch every day, but some families rely on the school-provided free lunch. It's never even occurred to me that we should get a $3/day payment because we don't take advantage of free lunch. Having free lunch available is unequivocally a good thing, regardless of whether we personally partake. | | |
| ▲ | vlovich123 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | There's two things I think you've overlooked. One thing is that politically it's easier for benefits to remain sticky if everyone benefits from it vs a subpopulation. That's why universal income has stronger support than welfare benefits. Additionally, when you don't have means testing, the bureaucracy is a lot more straightforward and politicians can't mess with it by effectively cutting the program by increasing the administrative burden. > We are lucky that we can afford to do this. This is the second piece. What about people who are on the margin who aren't wealthy enough to do this and the subsidy would hep them achieve this? The subsidy could help the mom stay home and maybe do part-time work from home even. The thing that's easiest to miss when you're well on one side of a boundary is only looking at the other side of the boundary instead of also looking at where that boundary is drawn. | | |
| ▲ | ryandrake 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | I addressed your second point in another comment. If voters thought there was a societal advantage to financially encourage stay-at-home parenthood with a subsidy, I'd be open to listen to the pros and cons of that, too, but that's kind of a separate issue. This one is about easing the burden for those who already pay for professional childcare, including those on the margin. The first point is just unfortunate humanity crab bucket mentality. "Others shouldn't benefit if I don't." I don't think there's anything we can do about that :( | | |
| ▲ | ndriscoll 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It's not a crab bucket mentality. Subsidizing one group that competes in the same markets (e.g. only dual income families, who compete with single income families for housing in desirable areas to raise kids) actually increases costs for the unsubsidized group. It doesn't just make them relatively worse off, but absolutely worse off. It shifts the margin of who can afford a single family lifestyle, all else equal. Since it's subsidizing specific behavior and not merely being poor or whatever, people will naturally look at whether they think that behavior ought to be incentivized, or whether the government should stay neutral. My wife is also a stay at home mom, and I've argued before that an increase in the child tax credit with a phase out for high income (so we might not qualify) makes more sense than a childcare credit/deduction for this reason. Then you're just subsidizing having kids, which seems fine to me (assuming we're subsidizing anything) since that's sort of necessary to sustain society. | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Yea, more dual-income families means: - Bidding up the price of housing - Fewer parents active in overseeing the schools, volunteering to fix up the community, etc. - Less general slack for parents to help each other out - Fewer mom friends around during the day, less social life for existing stay-at-home moms - Peer pressure and implicit societal pressure to work a career - Parents sending their kids to camps and aftercare, rather than having kids free-range around the neighborhood and play with friends, so fewer playmates for the non-camp/non-daycare kids. | |
| ▲ | gopher_space 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | The number of people in this thread workshopping their libertarian edge cases on an item of immediate importance strongly suggests the crab bucket. The comments don't reflect an understanding of the situation people are in or a grasp of the dynamics that led to it. | | |
| ▲ | ndriscoll 2 days ago | parent [-] | | How is advocating for a larger unconditional child credit libertarian? As someone else in the thread pointed out, it's effectively UBI for children. It's literally advocating for more people to receive government subsidies. It's not even a crazy proposal since we already have a refundable child tax credit, so it's a matter of making it bigger. | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Anything that might lead more towards decentralizing societal structure away from the state and quasi-state subsidized institutions back towards family units is considered "libertarian" on HN. Truly universal childcare "UBI" puts the power back into the hands of parents, rather than society taxing then lording over the head of parents as to which people are allowed to care for their children with it, just not funded in a libertarian manner. This is seen as a reduction in the power of the state which is a libertarian aim. So we've come to a crossroads where something profoundly un-libertarian is viewed by the anti-libertarians as libertarian because it incidentally achieves some of its aims. |
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| ▲ | slg 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > One thing is that politically it's easier for benefits to remain sticky if everyone benefits from it vs a subpopulation. That's why universal income has stronger support than welfare benefits. It is funny to say this in this specific conversation. The exact logic you are using to support rebates for stay at home parents applies to childless people. So why are you drawing the line exactly where you are drawing it and why is that a better place than where this policy is currently drawing it? | | |
| ▲ | ryandrake 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | If the logic was applied even more generally, it would read: "If any Group X gets Benefit Y, then everyone must also get Benefit Y." Applied universally, it totally defeats the point of subsidies. | | |
| ▲ | hellojesus 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Yes, but that should be the point. Public goods are defined as nonrivalous and nonexcludable. Subsidies fail these conditions. On what grounds should we delegate nonpublic goods/services be provided by the government and not the private sector? | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent [-] | | The argument is that producing children has massive positive externalities; there is value created for society that is not captured by the parent. In economics terms, all gains-from-trade for the child's future labor is a positive for society that the parent will not capture. Or for illustration, imagine nobody had any children. You would get to retirement age and find you could not buy food because there was no one to farm, you could not get healthcare because there were no more doctors and nurses or construction workers to build hospitals. Of course the tricky thing is that not all children produce positive externalities, some have massively negative externalities and a naive subsidy might encourage the wrong kind of reproduction ... Anyways, if you don't want any subsidies, one policy change is to eliminate general social security and simply have each retiree get the social security money paid only from their own children. Social security is not a savings plan or insurance, what it actually is is a socialized version of the current generation of children paying for their parents retirement. The non-socialized version is just the parents getting money of the kids that they raised themselves, and if you did not put in the work of raising kids, you don't get social security. |
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| ▲ | jmpman 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I’m unable to get the electric car tax credit for this year because my income is too high. However I’m likely to be laid off next year. Seems like I should get the benefit as my group status will change. | |
| ▲ | efitz 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Yes. |
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| ▲ | vlovich123 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Childless people are free to start businesses to provide services that can take advantage of those rebates. The argument you’re making in general is a valid one about subsidies, it’s a weird argument to make regarding children since having children is the only way society survives. Unless your claim is that we’re overpopulated but generally people in developed countries are not reproducing, and a meaningful part of that does appear to be the cost. So the answer is that this specific subsidy is net beneficial as we want to make it easier for people to have and raise kids, not least of which because it produces better adults when those kids grow up and makes society healthier. | |
| ▲ | hellojesus 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | This is a great point, and the obvious answer is the government should provide zero subsidies or welfare programs. Every single program creates moral hazard and deadweight loss. Iterate your question to conclusion, and you will arrive there. What the government should encourage is charitable donations, and when I say that, I mean the mere act of it. There should be no tax incentive for doing so. Where children are concerned, if anything, perhaps make the sales tax on child-related services zero, and increase sales tax on luxury goods associated with sink or dink households. At least that methodology provides the opportunity to forgo the penalties. |
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| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I dislike the perversity of taxing people than only giving the money back to them if they arrange their life in a way that policy-makers prefer (two income family). I especially dislike it when the subsidized choice of institutional childcare is more inefficient (paying for a lot of overhead), worse for the environment (extra people commuting), and worse for the kids (kids in groups that are classes that are too large for their age, taken care of by a rotating cast of minimum wage workers instead of by their own parent). And yes, I think parents who successfully home-school their children should be given the money that government schools would have cost them. | | |
| ▲ | libraryatnight 2 days ago | parent [-] | | This strikes me as part of the disease of thinking like a tax payer and not a citizen. It's about the service/resource availability, not the money. And your system seems to create more perversion than what you're reacting to - a bunch of people keeping score to make sure they get theirs. | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | In AZ we offer ESA to homeschoolers, vouchers to charter or private school kids, and then normal tuition free public schools. That way the service/resource is available to all children regardless of who the parent picks to provide it, according to what the family sees as their best option. It's not about who gets the money, just that the resources are available. I think very rarely does the state or society have a better view in aggregate of what is best for each family, particularly when you consider the asymmetry of millions of families having time and information to contemplate their circumstance vs voters or bureaucrats having complete inability to put any real thought on the child on a per-child basis. |
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| ▲ | harikb 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | +1 This whole mentality of voucher system is selfish. Even if we consider it as an "efficiency" problem, it is far cheaper for a person to be paid to take care of N children (where N is not too large), rather than have the have the mom, who is probably qualified in some other field, take care of just their children. | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It’s not any more selfish than wanting subsidy for childcare. A voucher system is about choice. Parents get to have some financial assistance to make it possible for them to stay at home and be with their kids, or to provide their children with experiences that aren’t just sitting in the daycare center’s room. If they want to do things differently, why shouldn’t they be able to? Why does providing assistance have to mean centralized control of what assistance looks like? > the mom, who is probably qualified in some other field Parents are plenty qualified to take care of their kids. And their qualifications in some other field doesn’t mean that working that field is better for them or their kids or the country. Having strong family structures and time together is pretty valuable. | | |
| ▲ | kelnos 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | If I as a taxpayer am going to subsidize someone else's activity, then why shouldn't I get a say in how they perform that activity? If it costs $100/child at a daycare facility, but $200/child for someone to be a stay-at-home parent, and you're asking me, a random taxpayer, to pay for one of those for someone else, from a financial perspective I will likely prefer to pay for the former. Now, I personally don't get to decide where tax dollars go, but I could easily imagine there are enough people with this preference that it could influence public policy. Having said that, if it's actually significantly better for a child to have a SAH parent, I might change my tune. (My mother was a SAHM, and I think that was great for us growing up.) | | |
| ▲ | kortilla 2 days ago | parent [-] | | The ask isn’t for more for the parents who stay at home, it’s for the equal amount. In your system you’ve created a messed up incentive where parents are better off just sending the kid to the daycare and having the mom sit at home and do absolutely nothing. |
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| ▲ | michaelmior 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > Why does providing assistance have to mean centralized control of what assistance looks like? I generally agree with you, but often the reason that these programs work economically is that those who don't choose to use them still contribute. There are (at least) three different categories: (1) caregivers who will care for their child themselves regardless of whether or not free care is available elsewhere, (2) caregivers who will find care elsewhere regardless of the cost, and (3) caregivers who will make use of free care if available, or otherwise, care for their child themselves. I think the group (1) has a tendency to be higher income. It's certainly not true of everyone in that group, but I would wager that a significant number of people in that group do not need the financial assistance. Those people not using the free resource, but still contributing to funding it is what makes it economically viable. | |
| ▲ | rrrrrrrrrrrryan 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Vouchers are just a bribe to get people to actually vote for higher taxes that fund social services that they themselves aren't going to use or benefit from. "Why should I pay for taxes that don't benefit me?" is an aggressively American view toward the social contract. People who make money pay taxes, those pay for things, and citizens (not taxpayers) get to use those things if and when they need them. | |
| ▲ | fragmede 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > Parents are plenty qualified to take care of their kids. Are they really though? I mean, I was raised by mine, and I've done well enough for myself, so that system can't be too bad, and most of the rest of humanity has also been raised by parents, for since... before there were humans. But if we look at this from first principles, it doesn't actually make sense. First, we let just about any random pairing of two humans, one of which has a uterus, can be a parent. Think of the most average person you know, then realize that half of everyone is dumber than them. Then put them with someone else that's just as dumb. Now give them a baby. And then add sleep deprivation on top of that. Seriously, it's a wonder that the human race has managed to survive this long. Experience is another thing. Even the most talented brilliant person needs to practice to reach their full potential. Raising a child as a skill is no exception. So we're gonna have absolute amateurs each raise a child, and then, most likely, throw all that learning and experience they did away and not have 10 more. Practice makes perfect, so let's not do that. What sort of training do we give parents before and during their parenthood? Before we send people off to do a job, non-stop for 18 years, how much training do we give them? Four dedicated years of college with plenty of lab and field work? Not in the slightest. Parents are expected to fund their own education for this job. Finally, the incentive structure is misaligned. Children don't make any financial sense, since the passage of child labor laws. Don't get me wrong, those laws are a good thing! But from an economic intellectual standpoint, it doesn't make sense to fuck up your life like that. Birth rates in the developed world reflect this. It's obviously a problem though, because children are our future and without them, humanity dies out in a generation. So omg holy shit, have kids. Societally, we need them. Society's only allegiance is to it continuing, and it doesn't without kids. Unfortunately they can't show an ROI in a single quarter, so we'll have to figure out a better mechanism for it, but for something so important, our future, shouldn't we want our best and brightest people on the problem? Yet we don't spend rationally. In the US, the school shooting industry (what schools spend on security in response to school shootings) is a multi-billion dollar industry. That money would be better spent on counselors and on the teachers. But back to my point, we'd rather have unpaid amateurs raise children on their off hours, instead of hiring professionals to do it? And make them pay for it as well? Make that make sense! The failure modes are known. Children get molested, abused, killed. Raised wrong. Those are corner cases, for sure, but I wouldn't argue that those parents are qualified to raise kids. Still, that's how we've always done it, and holy shit kids are cute, and you love yours, so of course we think parents are qualified to take care of kids, but we don't actually do any qualification except in the worst cases that we know about. Everyone knows somebody that knows somebody that had a bad childhood and didn't get the government called on them though. Children being raised by parents we assume are qualified is how we always done it, so the system works well enough, because humanity hasn't ended. But if you were designing a system, you wouldn't do it that way. |
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| ▲ | aeternum 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Good government policies generally avoid step functions otherwise you get perverse incentives. For example, if you lose too many benefits when you get a job, it can easily make getting a job yield negative expected value, this is bad because often it stunts future career potential. There may be families that cannot quite afford to be a stay-at-home mom even though they want to. Providing the waiver also increases the overall fairness. In rural areas there are generally far fewer childcare options, so this becomes a benefit that accrues to those that live in cities. Not very fair. | | |
| ▲ | slg 2 days ago | parent [-] | | My house has never been on fire, should I get a tax rebate for never needing service from the fire department? Government services exist to help people who need them. The idea that government services need to have the same net effect on every citizen is unusually popular in the US and is part of the reason we have worse government services than our peer nations. | | |
| ▲ | aeternum 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Fire protection is generally widely supported because almost everyone shares in the benefit, the protection is a benefit whether or not you need service. The reason we have worse government services is because there's no attempt to make them fair, the benefits are almost always highly skewed along partisan lines and thus usually not passed. | | |
| ▲ | slg 2 days ago | parent [-] | | >Fire protection is generally widely supported because almost everyone shares in the benefit, the protection is a benefit whether or not you need service. The same is true for things like childcare and education. Improving outcomes for the next generation doesn't only benefit them and their parents, it improves the entire society. >The reason we have worse government services is because there's no attempt to make them fair, the benefits are almost always highly skewed along partisan lines and thus usually not passed. You're just debating whether "everyone gets the same" is a better definition of "fair" than "everyone gets what they need". The only way for the government to satisfy the former without UBI (which I would support) is for the government to offer extremely limited services. That's the situation we're in. Because as I have said in another comment, the same argument that applies to stay at home parents applies to childless people so offering any childcare support is unfair according to the "everyone gets the same" definition. | | |
| ▲ | aeternum 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Need is ill-defined. People have all kinds of different ideas for what they need. I think it's worth considering what has significant majority support. For example I believe it's something like 80%+ support some kind of childcare subsidy or tax credit. Some childless probably make up the 20% just as some would prefer not to have a fire brigade. At that level of support just pass the subsidy / tax credit and let the families figure out how to apply it (paid daycare or homecare). |
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| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | This is more like saying you'll get a tax rebate if you move from your family home you built with your bare hands into a megacorp built condo complex of equal value and fire risk. | |
| ▲ | pcthrowaway 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > My house has never been on fire, should I get a tax rebate for never needing service from the fire department? If you live in a city, there's a good chance your house hasn't been on fire because of the work of the fire department. |
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| ▲ | czhu12 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Isn’t the idea that many families want to have a stay at home mom, but can’t afford to and are forced to work. Therefore a waiver would help with this? | |
| ▲ | somenameforme 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | In most of those other households, it's highly probable that they wish they could have a stay-at-home-parent but can't afford it. A small payment can help nudge people over the line where it suddenly becomes financially viable. A voucher type solution would also work great for families that would also prefer to e.g. hire a private nanny instead of sending their child to daycare. | |
| ▲ | notahacker 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Also, stay at home mums often like to sometimes be able to use child care facilities. I doubt they feel cheated that they don't use it on the majority of days they prefer to spend with their kids... | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent [-] | | But why not let them go to child care on those days, get those reimbursed, but also use the funds for other things (like supplies for raising kids at home, or to pay for other activities you take them to that aren’t just daycare)? | | |
| ▲ | notahacker 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Because the point of subsidising care is to remove cost barriers to parents getting back into work or dealing with other stuff or socialising kids in a day care environment, not to turn parenting into a profit centre | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Why would providing vouchers turn parenting into a profit center? That’s a cynical way to portray one side of this when you probably don’t take the same harsh view of the other side. The point of subsidizing care isn’t to get parents “back into work”. It’s to help people raise children. That’s it. You’re gatekeeping what this is for as a way to justify unnecessary centralization and a lack of choice where choice is possible. | | |
| ▲ | notahacker 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Providing vouchers to pay for daycare doesn't turn parenting into a profit centre. Providing parents with $12k per child per annum which they can either spend on daycare or anything else they want if they don't need daycare does (and has the opposite effect of the current policy: it keeps the opportunity cost of daycare the same and lowers the relative value of going back to work) | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I'm still lost as to why it's OK for daycares to be taxpayer subsidized profit centers but it's bad for a parent to receive the subsidies instead because some other parent may hypothetically be turning a profit on the kid if they just feed them pork and beans and stuff them into a closet. | | |
| ▲ | notahacker 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I'm still lost as to why you think taxpayers need to pay people who don't need free stuff for not using the free stuff? I mean, if parenting during the daytime is so unpleasant or expensive parents need a $12k subsidy to stay at home, they can just use the daycare... right? | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | So your position is what, the people who currently weren't getting free daycare don't need it because they were already getting by? You went straight to what people "need" but then ignored the whole schtick we're discussing was NM going from means-tested to universal childcare even for people that don't "need" it. I'm willing to accept that position, I'm not necessarily for free childcare, only believe that if childcare is to be free it should follow the child. I don't see at all how a mom taking care of a child "needs" the money less than a daycare worker/company taking care of the child. What you're proposing is just yanking the money away from them in a tax, then lording it over them that they have to take the latter if they want the cash back -- trying to track to which caregiver the money goes instead of just providing the resources for the child and let the parents decide what works best for their family. | | |
| ▲ | notahacker 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > You went straight to what people "need" but then ignored the whole schtick we're discussing was NM going from means-tested to universal childcare even for people that don't "need" it. Nope, I'm the one explicitly not ignoring the major rationale behind providing universal free childcare, which is that it removes a massive disincentive to using childcare (it's expensive), with the result that parents are less likely to work or take on other responsibilities some of the time and less likely to take their kids to nurseries to help socialise them. People who mostly look after their own kids still benefit from the free care when they do need it, and those who would prefer to look after their children 24/7 regardless are essentially unaffected[1], unless of course they are the sort who upon seeing others enjoying a free lunch, become preoccupied by the thought the food supplier should probably pay them for having a full stomach. [1]I mean, someone's paying a little more tax at the margin, but that's spread over a lot more people and the stay at home mums barely feature... > I don't see at all how a mom taking care of a child "needs" the money less than a daycare worker/company taking care of the child. You don't understand why daycare centre employees would like to earn a living? Or you don't understand that paying some trained professionals to look after your kids in a big building might cost a bit more than staying at home with them and maybe buying an extra meal or two? I mean, if there is some stay at home parent that finds looking after their own children during the daytime such a burden they "need" an extra $1k per child per month to do it... they should probably just use the free childcare. > What you're proposing is just yanking the money away from them in a tax, then lording it over them that they have to take the latter if they want the cash back Nope. Actually, when it comes to yanking money and telling people they can get the cash back if they do something (have an infant kid and quit their job to look after it) that sounds rather more like your proposition of giving indiscriminate cash handouts to parents. I am pointing out that subsidising the amount of third party childcare parents actually want to consume requires considerably less tax money to be yanked away and has a different set of incentives. | | |
| ▲ | kortilla 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > I mean, if there is some stay at home parent that finds looking after their own children during the daytime such a burden they "need" an extra $1k per child per month to do it... they should probably just use the free childcare. The fact that you argue for daycare workers to be paid but not parents is honestly astonishing. “No, we will not give you $100/day for your kid but we will happily give $100/day to BabyCorp to watch your kid” is a really fucked up policy stance unless you explicitly want to break children apart from their families. If that’s the goal, just explicitly say it. | | |
| ▲ | notahacker 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > The fact that you argue for daycare workers to be paid but not parents is honestly astonishing. I think it's even more astonishing that you are arguing that it's normal for parents to have so little love for their own child they should bill the government for time spent with them. If my stay-at-home mum was like that, I'd definitely have preferred the full time daycare. It was even possible for her to send me to daycare some of the time without breaking the family up! | | |
| ▲ | mothballed a day ago | parent [-] | | They are arguing the exact opposite, that parents love their kids enough they might move mountains to take care of the kids themselves if only they get get a bit of the taxes the state is sucking dry from their family back, enabling it to economically happen. |
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| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | >Nope, I'm the one explicitly not ignoring the major rationale behind providing universal free childcare, which is that it removes a massive disincentive to using childcare (it's expensive), with the result that parents are less likely to work or take on other responsibilities some of the time and less likely to take their kids to nurseries to help socialise them. The major incentive for providing childcare subsidies to everyone but stay at home parents (who now have net negative in this whole scenario post-tax) is to disincentive stay at home parents. If the idea was just to aid with childcare the aid with go with the child. You're purposefully excluding stay-at-homes from the definition of childcare, which is false and disingenuous. >You don't understand why daycare centre employees would like to earn a living? Or you don't understand that paying some trained professionals to look after your kids in a big building might cost a bit more than staying at home with them and maybe buying an extra meal or two? No I don't understand why daycare employees would want to "earn a living" any more or less than anyone else. I also don't understand why the fact their expenses are higher means a larger value was provided. If I dig for gold for 10 hours with an expensive machine and you dig for 1 with your bare hands, and we both end up with the same amount of gold I haven't created more value than you. >I mean, if there is some stay at home parent that finds looking after their own children during the daytime such a burden they "need" an extra $1k per child per month to do it... they should probably just use the free childcare. All well and good until you have men with guns showing up to tax the cash and force that incentive, the same men magically saying it is childcare when anyone that the parent does it. Goal here is clear, destroy the family unit as equal playing field in consideration of what is considered childcare, and put childcare corporation on a pedestal instead. >Nope. Actually, when it comes to yanking money and telling people they can get the cash back if they do something (have an infant kid and quit their job to look after it) that sounds rather more like your proposition of giving indiscriminate cash handouts to parents. I am pointing out that subsidising the amount of third party childcare parents actually want to consume requires considerably less tax money to be yanked away and has a different set of incentives. This is essentially the argument against taxation -- I actually 100% agree with you here and it's part of why I'm an ancap who is staunchly against this yanking. It is the argument for eliminating all child subsidies / welfare / public schooling which I think would be the absolute best thing for children we could possibly do. However if we have them, I'd like to see them apply equally rather than just payments to places like your proposed "profit-centers" of childcare corps. I will say you've handily played into the hands of the intertwining of the rich business owners with government to enrich themselves at the expense (via threat of violence of armed revenue collection agents) of stay at home moms. | | |
| ▲ | notahacker 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > The major incentive for providing childcare subsidies to everyone but stay at home parents (who now have net negative in this whole scenario post-tax) is to disincentive stay at home parents. If the idea was just to aid with childcare the aid with go with the child. You're purposefully excluding stay-at-homes from the definition of childcare, which is false and disingenuous. The objective of providing free childcare to anyone that wants it is to enable people to avail themselves of free childcare. Just like free firefighting and police services; it's not "false and disingenuous" that I don't get to define myself as emergency services and invoice the government for my services if I manage to keep my home crime and fire-free without their assistance. Nor is my tax bill and other people getting their fires put out at taxpayer expense a disincentive towards using a fire extinguisher if I think I can handle it myself. > No I don't understand why daycare employees would want to "earn a living" any more or less than anyone else. I also don't understand why the fact their expenses are higher means a larger value was provided. If I dig for gold for 10 hours with an expensive machine and you dig for 1 with your bare hands, and we both end up with the same amount of gold I haven't created more value than you. Value is also determined by the fact that stay-at-home mums are willing to look after their own kids for free, and childcare professionals are not. I'm not sure why a self-professed ancap is having such a great difficulty understanding that markets enable people and companies to charge to look after others' kids (with or without government intervention), but do not enable people to charge for looking after their own. As for parents who want to earn a living as much as childcare staff, now they can go and earn that living without having to pay most of their salary to someone else to look after their kids... > All well and good until you have men with guns showing up to tax the cash and force that incentive, the same men magically saying it is childcare when anyone that the parent does it. Goal here is clear, destroy the family unit as equal playing field in consideration of what is considered childcare, and put childcare corporation on a pedestal instead. In between the tedious cliches, you seem to be ignoring the fact that childcare that costs $1k per month isn't on a "level playing field" with childcare that doesn't. It's not putting something on a pedestal to remove the bill. Makes it easier for parents to decide to work if they want to, but I thought ancaps liked that sort of thing... > It is the argument for eliminating all child subsidies / welfare / public schooling which I think would be the absolute best thing for children we could possibly do The absolute best thing we could do for children is to ensure that those of them who have low-earning parents stay at home on their own with no daycare and no education?! Sorry you managed to complete nearly two whole posts of pointless nitpicking in the guise of being pro-family and then you hit me with this!? I mean, I get the people that think it's so important to incentivise stay-at-home parenting or to avoid any child being even slightly poor that the government should pay every infant's parent at least as much as daycare centres currently cost... that just happens to be very expensive. Don't get self professed ancaps who freely admit they don't care how/if the kids get looked after arguing the system that costs the taxpayer significantly less and doesn't disincentivise participating in labour markets is a worse one than the alternative of handing out max_childcare_costs to every parent... | | |
| ▲ | mothballed a day ago | parent [-] | | >The objective of providing free childcare to anyone that wants it is to enable people to avail themselves of free childcare. The objective of excluding the parent from that has been made pretty clear at this point, which is a deliberate choice to destroy the family unit. >Value is also determined by the fact that stay-at-home mums are willing to look after their own kids for free, and childcare professionals are not. The free market value of taking care of 1 child under some arbitrary standard of care is not meaningfully impacted by the fact an arbitrary person might do it for free, anymore than the fact I might be willing to search for gold for free reduces the value of gold. It will have some effect in aggregate, but that effect would impact the whole market so is meaningless in the context of differentiating a universal payment. >Makes it easier for parents to decide to work if they want to, but I thought ancaps liked that sort of thing... It indeed does make it easier to decide to work if you're now getting taxed to cover $12K per child of every child in the whole state going to daycare, and you get none of that for your own kid unless you put them into daycare yourself because magically your own childcare doesn't count. >The absolute best thing we could do for children is to ensure that those of them who have low-earning parents stay at home on their own with no daycare and no education? I said from the beginning I wanted a waiver. i.e. reduction of taxes. I would put taxes at 0% and free up lots of jobs and returned tax money to low-earning families so they could afford more for their children, which I think is the best thing possible for them. With the added effect they can spend that money freely rather than having a state lord over them what one public school they can spend it on or lording over them with their own stolen money what childcare provider they can use. The reason why I would argue for equal subsidies if they're provided is I believe either no tax, or equal subsidies is the most liberty minded solution. The solution where the state forcibly taxes and then lords the money over you depending on whom provides the childcare is the lowest-liberty solution of all of them. That is why I'm a temporary ally of the policy alternative I reference. | | |
| ▲ | notahacker a day ago | parent [-] | | Got it, family units are destroyed by kids spending some time at nurseries. Free market values aren't determined by what the free market actually pays for services (absolutely nothing for parenting your own kid, potentially a lot more for looking after someone else's) but by weird analogies to gold (children of course also being a commodity). Parents are of course, famously transactional in their relationships with children, with the key priority being maximising how much the government spends on their care. If daycare is subsidised absolutely everyone will claim the maximum amount (just like the alternative you propose!) because otherwise all the burden of paying for it will fall upon stay-at-home mums (I dunno, maybe the income tax on their massive parenting salaries?) and not spread across the wider taxpaying base, the highest paying segments of which generally aren't parents of infants. Putting up taxes is bad, but putting up everyone's taxes much more to subsidise -checks notes- people who enjoy looking after children so much they'd prefer it to free daycare is better. But the best possible thing for low-earning families is for them to have to lose all benefits and pay for care, schooling, medical bills etc, because if there's anyone that pays more into the system than they get out of it, it's low income families... Not gonna lie, if it requires this much compounded nonsense to construct an argument against childcare vouchers, the case for it is much better than I thought :) |
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| ▲ | hellojesus 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | The act of subsidizing childcare doesn't only help stay-at-home parents work, it forces everyone in the market to work more to maintain their same standard of living. Flooding the market with new labor increases the supply
Against a fixed demand, this lowers wages. So everyone not getting the subsidy feels pressure from stagnating wages plus the increased tax burden. Let's assume that all those new laborers get paid and therefore demand also increases, moving the equilibrium so some of the wage stagnation pressure is dampened. It's still not going to offset the effect of new labor and taxes. All this does is modify the equilibrium of supply and demand in the market such that those not receiving the subsidies (or evem those not receiving as much subsidies as others) are negatively impacted through lifestyle discrimination. | | |
| ▲ | notahacker 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > Let's assume that all those new laborers get paid and therefore demand also increases, moving the equilibrium so some of the wage stagnation pressure is dampened. It's still not going to offset the effect of new labor and taxes Let's not make the absurd assumption that parents continuing their careers and more daycare centres in operation must be net negative for economic growth. Even if that was the case, the alternative proposal to subsidise parents equally large amounts whether they use it to pay for childcare or not would result in a larger tax burden paid for from a smaller economic pie. |
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| ▲ | angmarsbane 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Because processing reimbursements and extra record keeping is exhausting and adds to the mental load for Moms. Keep it simple, safe, and reliable. |
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| ▲ | tempfile 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > We are lucky that we can afford to do this. > It doesn't affect our situation at all. Why would we oppose it? This is rather noble of you, but the reason is obvious. If the playing field were "levelled" then you wouldn't have to be lucky. It is all well and good that you are lucky, but there is a certain population who want to emulate your choice but are unable to, because they are missing precisely the marginal amount that the childcare provision costs. It is a political choice to say that those people should not be able to pursue home-care of the children in order that we can avoid giving out a rebate. | | |
| ▲ | ryandrake 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I never said I opposed a subsidy to encourage stay-at-home parenting. By all means, we should propose it and study its pros and cons. But the lack of that subsidy should not cause someone to oppose a paid-childcare subsidy. | | |
| ▲ | tempfile 2 days ago | parent [-] | | >> Would make sense IMO to provide an equal value waiver to those who take care of their kid rather than send them to childcare. > I just don't understand this mentality. I don't understand. Wasn't your original comment opposing an equal value waiver? |
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| ▲ | erikgaas 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Right. I agree, but I think you are appealing to generosity when it works just as well if you appeal to greed and selfishness. If I'm a parent who does not intend to take advantage of the program and therefore not to get any benefit directly, and I assume the program is done well and not rushed, I could reasonably expect: - More parents able to be in the work force (immediately)
- Better metrics for the young children entering. Especially for at risk.
- Savings from less crime in the future.
- Higher attainment of students when they enter the work force later.
- Higher birth rate??? (probably not but this one is interesting regardless) My understanding so far is that this leads to spending savings in addition to QOL of life improvements. And that's just for me. I want to live with less crime and less tax liability. Asking for additional waivers imo just increases the cost in areas that will not as directly achieve the benefits of the program as stated. The only reason to ask for it is as a negotiation tactic. I think the most important thing is to focus on the quality of the program and make sure the resources are there. And to make sure opportunities persist to prevent "fade out". I think that might have been the difference between Oklahoma's success in pre-k vs a program in Tennessee. | | |
| ▲ | Izikiel43 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > Higher birth rate??? (probably not but this one is interesting regardless) Why probably not?
Childcare before primary school is a huge expense in the US, I think the largest for a healthy kid, around 24k$ per year where I live, so basically every other child is another 24k$ to the budget, or one parent not working. With this approach, having 2 or 3 children is more feasible, and the money saved from universal childcare could be in part invested for college or the child's future. | | |
| ▲ | hellojesus 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Let's go with this (I pay a little more than $24k/yr/kid for care now). Does the influx of gov mandated childcare centers reduce the annual expense for parents?
If so, it does so at the cost to the current workers by reducing their salaries. If not, now you've put every taxpayer on the hook for 24k+admin_expenses per child per year.
That is an immediate blow to everyone except those benefiting more than their increased tax burden. The benefit is lower wages for those competing against the new laborers and likely higher government tax inflows? | | |
| ▲ | Izikiel43 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > If not, now you've put every taxpayer on the hook for 24k+admin_expenses per child per year. That is an immediate blow to everyone except those benefiting more than their increased tax burden. Sure, you have that short term impact, but it seems NM society has chosen to take on the burden for this. Long term impact for this measure however is worth it, as the state children will be better educated, and will commit less crimes, at least that's what research says. So long term you will have more taxpayers, and maybe hopefully have to spend less in security. |
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| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Why wouldn't you want your friends to better be able to afford what you have, by getting an equal value stipend to stay at home if you're for universal childcare? There are many families that might be only one or two tuitions away from being able to stay at home with their child like they had wished, and assigning the waiver/voucher to the child instead of to the daycare can make that happen. And no it's not a free lunch. If stay-at-home in a family isn't reimbursed, they are actually worse off, because now they have an additional tax they are paying that they did not have before. So now even more people like you who wanted a parent to stay at home are driven out of it because their family budget comes upon this tax. | | |
| ▲ | stickfigure 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Let it go. Everyone gets some tax benefits that others don't. Childless people get many fewer social benefits than people with children. We don't need to quibble over microgrievances. | | |
| ▲ | hellojesus 2 days ago | parent [-] | | We shouldn't provide any welfare services. Then we will all be equal. For as much as you Elsa folks quible about people being against giveaways, what is so harmful about not giving thigs away involuntarily? |
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| ▲ | ryandrake 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I'm not sure I follow, but I'm open to being wrong. The point of this subsidy is not to encourage people to move from paid-childcare to stay-at-home. That's a totally separate economic decision. The point of it is to ease/eliminate the burden of those who require paid-childcare. If we think there is a societal advantage to financially incentivize parents to stay-at-home with a subsidy, I'd be open to looking at the cost/benefit, but it's a different issue. And I am not significantly worse off if my neighbor's childcare burden is lifted. Not every tax dollar I spend needs to come back to me in the form of a benefit. | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > And I am not significantly worse off if my neighbor's childcare burden is lifted. This seems like an unrelated consideration though. You may be significantly worse off. Maybe the government that provides this raises taxes considerably to make this work. Or maybe they take on crippling debt. Maybe their credit rating goes down. |
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| ▲ | omarspira 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | So if I pack my kids lunch but other kids get a "free" lunch I'm worse off? Yes there is no "free lunch" I'm paying a tax for something I don't need. The comment you are replying to already anticipates this. How is it not the same argument? Your budget comment also puzzles me. What if my existing family budget is put under stress by the "free lunch tax" so now I'm even further away from being able to pack my own lunch? How is it different? Because it's a "new" tax? You can make the same argument for any tax then. At the end of the day are your children better or worse off if their future fellow citizens are growing up under roofs that can't afford childcare or healthcare or food? For someone that seems to know enough about costs and incentives and tradeoffs you seem to have quite a constrained view. Also, I'm curious about your waivers claim re costs because I would think given the scenario you laid out that would make the program more expensive. Your taxed for things other people use more than you. That's what society is. The point of the comment you are replying to is that people obsess over this as if they are being personally violated when really it is often just greed in the face of the common good. | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It's very convenient that it is greed when the stay at home mom wants an equal voucher, but not greed when a mom joins a capitalist for-profit enterprise for whatever wage she can avail herself of with the childcare bill footed by everyone else. Which is precisely what we are discussing. | | |
| ▲ | pempem 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Your argument smacks of insincerity due to its limited scope of viewing SAHMs as moms providing childcare. 1/ You haven't mentioned how that SAHM must get a cooking credit, healthcare, retirement or house management credit or anything else in the litany of jobs required outside of immediate childcare and costs incurred by simply existing as a woman. Just a voucher for the hours, I assume, at which childcare would be open and none of the other hours 2/ A SAHP (thats stay at home parent) should be incentivized by raising wages and allowing life to be more affordable but your argument seems to be very focused on "moms" and "capitalist enterprises" and does not consider the reality that when SAHMs were more economically viable, it was not viable for all families. | |
| ▲ | omarspira 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Make it a progressive tax then? The point was many people can afford to help others to make society better for all. But you only want to pay taxes for what you're personally interested in? If you think stay at home needs to be prioritized in some way, as another comment mentioned, that's a separate argument. You are also relying on scenarios that don't even sound plausible. If someone can barely afford stay at home and this tax makes it that painful for them, then make it more progressive. Then again I'm not sure they are equivalent. At the end of the day a majority deciding something like this is in the common interest and you having a problem because you won't personally take advantage of it sounds like greed to me. No one should be going broke because of this tax. If you think capitalist mommy is making too much while you foot the bill then wouldn't the remedy be to tax her more? Are you worried about people who can't afford the tax or do you just resent some people for getting societal benefits while also making more than you? | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I'm not talking about "prioritizing" stay at homes, I'm talking about just giving them the same thing the company/entity that would be taking care of their kid would get paid for doing it. I'm speaking of removing the prioritization for commercial childcare. | | |
| ▲ | omarspira 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Semantic games. At the end of the day if x is prioritized more than y and you want x and y to be equal you do want a relative boost in the priority of y. So fine. As I said I'm not sure they are equivalent or how this specific objection can't be applied to any other tax in a way that feels implausible. Should I get a voucher if I pack my kids lunch? Why are we "prioritizing" commerical food preparation? | | |
| ▲ | varnaud a day ago | parent [-] | | >Should I get a voucher if I pack my kids lunch? Yes. And no. The gov gives the child X$ per week/month/year. The child parents use that money to take care of the child. Society benefit from children that are well taken care of. Mechanisms to ensure that they are well taken care of are needed. Well funded daycare centers are one of the mechanism. A well funded household with a parent/grand parent/uncle is another one. In both case, an agency is in place to ensure the wellness level of the child. |
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| ▲ | jrflowers 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > I just don't understand this mentality. It is bad faith reasoning. If you imagine a person that does not want women to participate in the workforce but wants to express that in a way that doesn’t sound repugnant, it is pretty easy to see how someone would come up with that. The way you can tell that it’s bad faith is by looking at the context that “pay women to stay out of the workforce” gets brought up. In this case it is framed as an alternative to providing childcare, but those two ideas have nothing to do with each other. As a society we could do both. The “pay women to stay out of the workforce” or “pay for childcare” dichotomy is completely made up, and folks that engage in that particular type of make-believe are either profoundly intellectually lazy or being intentionally disingenuous. | |
| ▲ | throawayonthe 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | because your wife (and in turn your household yes) deserves to be compensated for the socially valuable labour first of all? | |
| ▲ | prepend 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > It doesn't affect our situation at all. Why would we oppose it It affects you like if your neighbor got a $5000 tax credit and you didn’t. It’s community money paying for it so it impacts you because it is your tax dollars being spent. | | |
| ▲ | KittenInABox 2 days ago | parent [-] | | If my neighbor already gets a $5000 tax credit remodeling his bathroom or installing a new/greener boiler. Should I get $5000 for not remodeling? | | |
| ▲ | jtbayly 2 days ago | parent [-] | | You have demonstrated the point of the policy. What is it that is being incentivized here? Leaving your children and working all day. | | |
| ▲ | pempem 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | No. Are men "leaving their children and working all day"? Should we not pay them to stay home? This view is either fully gendered or assumes that all families are made up of two people and one person's wages should support a family. Neither are the conversation on this table. The conversation on this table is:
Our current economy, in nearly every state and for every metro requires more than minimum wage to rent not own, an apt and live, not save for the future. Childcare has gone up 30% in the last few years alone and wages, as you have likely experienced, have not. We cannot continue to expect people with choices to have children given this economic situation. Trust me. You want people to continue having children, and you'd prefer them to be positive additions to society, for your own well-being in old age. | | |
| ▲ | jtbayly a day ago | parent | next [-] | | Sorry if I wasn’t clear initially. The point is that women should not stay home. Yes, this is “fully gendered” because reality is fully gendered. Far and away the majority of childcare is performed by women. Always has been. Always will be. The emphasis on jobs over children as where we want women’s energy, time, and attention to go is what is being demonstrated by this policy. We will pay you to leave your children with others. We will not pay you to take care of your children. Why anybody thinks this will result in more children being born is beyond me. Sure, it might make it “easier” in some sense to have children, but what it teaches is job > children, and that is going to result in people learning to deprioritize children. As intended. | | |
| ▲ | pempem a day ago | parent [-] | | "We want women's energy and time" seems to indicate "not women" want women's energy in time. If you will not pay "women" to take care of "their children" rather than, say..."the future of society" or "our children" then women will not have a child. And that is exactly what you're seeing happen. Women worked in all times. Every single time period you can think of. Population is dropping because a/ we have rights as women and are outstripping men on every measurable term within just a couple generations of access b/men are not stepping up to create something more equitable Men have been offered the chance to step up and change the current (and yes its current, not a "natural state" of affairs) dynamic. The idea that you're striking on is defining my life for me and quite frankly, with your benefit in first position. That's not going to work. |
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| ▲ | hellojesus 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > Childcare has gone up 30% in the last few years alone and wages, as you have likely experienced, have not. This is a major statement, and I don't think it's fully qualified. Why have childcare expenses imcreased by 30% in the past few years? There should be an arbitrage opportunity if costs have stayed fixed. If costs have increased, is it due to general economic pressures or increased regulatory burden? If the former, wages should catch up (and flooding the market with additional labor likely will exert downward pressue market wages). If the latter, then why on earth are we passing such nonsense regulation? In either case, moving out of a major metro is always an option. | | |
| ▲ | pempem 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Hi Jesus According to a quick google and the census:
|| Approximately 3 in 4 Americans (or about 86%) live in a metropolitan statistical area (MSA), with the percentage of the U.S. population in these areas reaching an all-time high. As of 2024, nearly 294 million people—or about 86% of the total population—resided in a metro area, a trend that continues to grow. If we think the wage differential will keep up in less populated areas, that is no longer occurring either. We do not live in a perfect capitalist system and many trades, activities and services are given benefits and protections for a variety of reasons. There are other places - outside of the US - that have provided this tax credit. Its not shameful to learn from other countries and adopt things that are going well and are beneficial both to the freedom of people and the economy. |
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| ▲ | Izikiel43 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > What is it that is being incentivized here? Getting all children early education, which has been shown to have huge effects later on in academic performance (better) and criminality (less). Let's say college is optional for the individual, as the child/teen decides. Why is primary/middle/secondary school free and public, but daycare/preschool not? The child can't decide for itself, and there is data showing that having early education benefits everyone. | | |
| ▲ | jtbayly a day ago | parent [-] | | Does this provide education or care? Being in childcare in and of itself is not correlated with better outcomes. Only high-quality care produces such results, and greater hours in non-family-member childcare results in long-term negative outcomes in for example impulsivity and risk-taking, regardless of the quality of the care. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2938040/ |
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| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Exactly. If the incentive was to take care of children, the money would go with the child whether they are taken care of by a stay at home or someone the state can tax income from. | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent [-] | | 100%. This is also why it makes sense to have money move with the child regardless of whether they’re in public schools or home schooled or at a private school. |
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| ▲ | KittenInABox 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | If I'm already benefiting from a new boiler, I don't need another new boiler just to get the $5000 tax credit. This is silly. There are benefits to being a working parent vs a stay at home parent and if you have access to stay at home care you simply don't need it. This is like getting mad that my workplace offers pet insurance when I have no pets so I demand the money anyway. Or demanding a trophy for not participating in a competitive sport. |
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| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Of course it affects your situation. It’s paid for from taxes so it takes away from other things you as a taxpayer could have, right? But also if the goal is to incentivize raising children, someone who wants to raise their child in a family centric way rather than outsourcing it should have help too right? But leaving those arguments aside, I also think that only subsidizing daycare is too one size fits all, just like with public schools. If people want to raise their kids differently, they should be able to get assistance. Like if I want to not have a single daycare provider but want to instead take my kids to a few different activities during the day (like to a museum and then a swim class and then baseball or whatever), why shouldn’t tax funds be made available to offset the costs of those things? | | |
| ▲ | ryandrake 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > It’s paid for from taxes so it takes away from other things you as a taxpayer could have, right? I don't expect every tax dollar I spend to come back to me in the form of a direct benefit. > Like if I want to not have a single daycare provider but want to instead take my kids to a few different activities during the day (like to a museum and then a swim class and then baseball or whatever), why shouldn’t tax funds be made available to offset the costs of those things? I would be 100% open to this sort of taxpayer-funded educational enrichment for families who can't afford it themselves, depending on the usual criteria, like how well-run/efficient it is and so on. |
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| ▲ | Aurornis 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > Would make sense IMO to provide an equal value waiver to those who take care of their kid rather than send them to childcare. This is a great way to kill a policy. It would technically be most fair if every parent was given the same amount of money per child, period. Then they could do what they needed or wanted with it. But doing so would not only increase the costs dramatically (by a multiple) it would give money to many parents who didn’t need it for child care. That’s great in a hypothetical world where budgets are infinite, but in the real world they’re not. The more broadly you spread the money, the less benefit each person receives. If you extended an equal benefit to parents who were already okay with keeping their children home, it’s likely that the real outcome would be reduced benefits for everyone going to daycare. Now you’re giving checks to parents who were already doing okay at home but also diminished the childcare benefit for those who needed it, which was the goal in the beginning. | | |
| ▲ | ceejayoz 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > The more broadly you spread the money, the less benefit each person receives. But this is true in the other direction, too. Means testing costs money, time, and ensures some needy folks fall off the program. For example, Florida did drug testing as a condition for welfare benefits... and it cost more than they saved. https://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/18/us/no-savings-found-in-fl... | | |
| ▲ | hedora 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | It’s a red state, so the goal was probably to waste as much welfare money as possible, while also reducing benefits. They’re doing this on the federal level now. Most popular government programs have been cut or sabotaged, and as a result the debt is increasing by $4T. | | |
| ▲ | pbhjpbhj 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Well, it's not wasting money when you redirect it to a drug-testing company your friends own. |
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| ▲ | alach11 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > Florida did drug testing as a condition for welfare benefits... and it cost more than they saved It's more complicated than that. Of the 6352 people who applied for TANF, 2306 dropped out during the process. Then of the 4046 TANF applicants remaining, only 2.6% tested positive for drugs. The vast majority of media coverage focused on the 2.6% being less than the ~8% drug-use rate in the general population. What we don't know is of the people who dropped out, was this due to unintended reasons (privacy concerns, the inconvenience of the drug test, missing deadlines) or due to the intended reason (people self-selecting out because they knew they would test positive and become ineligible for 12 months). We'll never know the real breakdown, but it's misleading to say "it cost more than they saved". | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | The state tries to take kids away from people who use drugs, so I would expect custodial parents to be below the average drug use of the general population. | |
| ▲ | ceejayoz 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Nah, the article addresses that theory too. > An internal document about Temporary Assistance for Needy Families, or TANF, caseloads stated that the drug testing policy, at least from July through September, did not lead to fewer cases. “We saw no dampening effect on the caseload,” the document said. |
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| ▲ | harikb 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Please read the article. Since 2019, they had a program that was means tested. The new proposal is to expand it to all parents > With Monday’s announcement universal child care will be extended to every family in the state, regardless of income. | | |
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| ▲ | non_aligned 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > But doing so would not only increase the costs dramatically (by a multiple) it would give money to many parents who didn’t need it for child care. And while no-strings-attached payouts appeal to rational geeks, they usually lead to public perception problems. If you give a voucher for childcare to a parent struggling with addiction or a gambling habit, they will probably send the kid to childcare. If you give them cash, they probably won't. It's a minority that might not be worth fixating on from a rational policy-making point of view, you bet it's the minority that will be in the headlines. Selfishly, I'd like cash in lieu of all the convoluted, conditional benefits that are available to me. But I know why policymakers won't let me have it. | | |
| ▲ | mapt 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | If you give a no-strings attached cash payment for childcare to a parent struggling with addiction or a gambling problem, they will probably not send the kid to childcare, and instead take the cash. If you give a no-strings attached cash payment for childcare to a parent struggling with a paying their rent problem, they will also probably not send the kid to childcare, and instead take the cash. And then everybody's rents will go up because families with children have more capability to pay. Nothing is ever a perfect system, but there are many more things wrong with the current system than concerns about the equity BETWEEN different working class families in different situations. Some of those dysfunctions will happily consume most of an incrementalist policy solution to an arbitrary problem. Direct provision or vouchered provision of necessary goods and services has a lot of minor problems, but it happily mitigates our ability to let one problem eat an unrelated solution. | |
| ▲ | _mu 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > rational geeks Geeks are as emotional and irrational as everybody else. They are even worse in fact because they can rationalize their behavior even harder. | | |
| ▲ | mc32 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It’s referencing rational geeks and not all geeks or geeks who believe they are rational but just actual rational geeks. | | |
| ▲ | _mu 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Oh, oh okay, okay, wow, well, that's an important clarification then. |
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| ▲ | gamerDude 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | In Poland, they have a "universal child benefit" that pays a stipend for every child you have. They do pay for it and it is expensive, but apparently it made a large reduction in child poverty, so that's a win. From my understanding, it also reduced women in the workforce and reduced investment in childcare infrastructure since more mothers were then taking care of children at home. So this is possible, it just depends on what you want to incentivize. | | |
| ▲ | voidfalcon 2 days ago | parent [-] | | The US has a similar thing with the child tax credit. It looks like Poland pays out the equivalent of about 220 a month while the child tax credit pays the equivalent of $180 per month. If you only count the refundable portion it is $140. Relative to the cost of living its worse, but the concept seems similar. | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent [-] | | There are also state-level subsidies in virtually all states, depending on things like your income. |
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| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > The more broadly you spread the money, the less benefit each person receives. If you extended an equal benefit to parents who were already okay ... By your own argument, this policy dilutes the value New Mexico / Feds were prior giving to the poorer parents who met the means testing New Mexico used before, then, no? Because this isn't the beginning of "free" childcare in NM, they are just expanding it beyond the prior poverty-line times 'X" means testing. Ergo per your logic "real outcome would be reduced benefits" to the poorer parents who already had subsidized childcare. Edit: accidently switched "childcare" to "healthcare" a few times, flipped back | |
| ▲ | giantg2 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | "But doing so would not only increase the costs dramatically (by a multiple) it would give money to many parents who didn’t need it for child care." And that's the argument against many of these policies - removal of the needs based testing. Odd to see you defend the policy on the very basis others attack it on. | |
| ▲ | jmpman 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I would very much be considered someone who doesn’t “need” the funding, but when deciding between having a 3rd child or just sticking with 2, I wasn’t comfortable enough to afford 3 in daycare and helping 3 through college. However, I expect my offspring to be significantly greater economic contributors to society than the average. It would have made sense for society to fund my childcare to incentivize me to populate the earth. | |
| ▲ | ericd 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | >Now you’re giving checks to parents who were already doing okay at home but also diminished the childcare benefit for those who needed it, which was the goal in the beginning. They're the ones who are basically paying the vast majority of the cost of this program, what's the problem with a small fraction of it coming back to them? Especially if it reduces the bureaucratic overhead of running it? | |
| ▲ | qaq 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | "it would give money to many parents who didn’t need it for child care". Looking at data like 77% of US workers would face financial difficulty if a paycheck was delayed by just one week. I would imaging % of people with kids who don’t need it for child care is fairly tiny. | |
| ▲ | koolba 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > But doing so would not only increase the costs dramatically (by a multiple) it would give money to many parents who didn’t need it for child care. This exists. It’s called the Child Tax Credit. If the children have any parent that is working, whether it is one or two, by definition they need more money. | |
| ▲ | jtbayly 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | The real reason this is “bad” is because the policy actually being implemented is, as the GP comment demonstrates, to get women into the workforce. This requires the goal to be getting them out of the home away from their children. Thus, you must relatively penalize mothers who stay home and care for their children, which is what this policy does. Of course, it is worse for children, worse for families, worse for mothers, worse for just about everything except “business.” Edit to add: It is only better for the business and the economy short term, because ultimately it results in a lower birth rate and below replacement level fertility is the main problem we currently have for the near-future economy | | |
| ▲ | stickfigure 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | You're reading waaaay too much into this. Nobody is getting penalized, this is a crab bucket mentality. | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Yes they are. If you stay at home you now pay an additional tax on top of everything else. | | |
| ▲ | stickfigure 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Nobody's being targeted for additional tax. But correct, benefits aren't being spread evenly across the population. That's how pretty much all social benefits work. Hell, think about how childless people must feel about this. Or the child tax credit. Nothing is "perfectly fair", but sometimes public policy is good enough. | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Childless people are getting the best deal of anyone. They get new social security payers with a better invested upbringing, all for paying out a pittance and offloading most of the cost onto parents -- all the meanwhile having their social security payout almost completely untied to making the investments needed to get their payment. Childless people basically get their cake and eat it too under the social welfare scheme of most western countries, getting the benefits of children without having to deal with much of the drawbacks. |
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| ▲ | xorcist 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | s/women/men/g and do you still think your argument holds? |
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| ▲ | Pxtl 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Literally what Canada did under Harper, and then grew substantially larger under Trudeau. End result is that Canada's child poverty rate was cut in half over the aughts. https://x.com/trevortombe/status/1100416615202533377 And yes, it hit the same political hurdles you'd expect. A Liberal-party aide helped lose the 2006 selection by saying parents would burn it on "beer and popcorn". He's still around as a consultant and professional trash-talking commentator. This is ironic considering how the party championed it's success after they (rightly) expanded the program. https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/liberal-apologizes-for-saying... | |
| ▲ | itake 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I guess Youre not a fan of UBI? | | |
| ▲ | ian-g 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | That feels like an entirely separate policy. This one is about making sure small children have care, not whether or not people deserve a minimum guaranteed income | | |
| ▲ | Pxtl 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | This is basically UBI for parenting, so it's hard to see it as "entirely separate". | |
| ▲ | itake 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | A core tenant of UBI is the universal part: everyone receives the benefit. High income, low income, rich, poor. If you remove the cost of regulating a benefit, then there will be more money available for people to get this benefit. |
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| ▲ | mcbobgorge 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I'm not the user you're asking but the same logic holds true for UBI, yes. The societies with the most effective social welfare programs do it via a robust and de-stigmatized social safety net. I think most of the common criticisms of UBI (it will make people lazy, its not fair, it will cause inflation etc) are silly, and I also generally support universal programs over means testing or exemptions. Still, I will be a skeptic until I see a somewhat large scale successful rollout of a UBI program beyond just studies and pilots. | | |
| ▲ | bongoman37 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Many of the Persian Gulf GCC nations essentially had a form of generous UBI since the early 80s. It has certainly made people far less enterprising and productive. Inflation hasnt happened since they import the vast majority of their requirements. It has led to increased religiosity etc since people are freed up to engage in religious activities all day long and don't necessarily have to develop skills like social competency or engage with others. | | |
| ▲ | vladms 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Many north African and middle eastern states tried to switch to democracy and that did not go as planned either, would that mean that democracy does not work? Any policy (UBI or others) must take into account the state and potential of the country. Based on the Gulf state UBI example (if correct, I did not check) it would mean that with their initial conditions UBI will not result in developing skills (although, thinking of it, maybe their purpose of giving UBI was close to the one observed, their ruler don't strike me as very progressive). | |
| ▲ | scoopdewoop 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | In a world where we produced so much that we have caused climate change and mass extinction, I can't imagine people being less enterprising and productive being a truly bad thing. | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | A weird side-effect of this is UAE/Dubai, and to a lesser extent some of the other gulf states, have become far more open to relative free trade and immigration as a result now that the citizen's cake is assured and immigrants are not much a threat. Now Dubai is a burgeoning hub of relative "free trade" and international commerce, with pretty lax visa rules for people from surrounding more trade hostile countries to run a business in a more business friendly environment, in a region that prior was fairly impenetrable. |
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| ▲ | bombcar 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | There are many things that may be better overall, but because they're not financialized, they don't show up on GDP and so are deemed "worthless." Breastfeeding doesn't move money around, but formula does; things like that. Cooking your own meal doesn't raise GDP beyond the cost of supplies, but door-dashing from a restaurant does. | | |
| ▲ | rml 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | In the book 'Double Entry' the author explains that the guy who created GDP was actually in favor of having family caregiving and household activities accounted for in GDP. If that had happened, different world | | |
| ▲ | bombcar 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | This actually DOES occur at the margins, in some cases. If you have a severely disabled child (who is on SSA), you often can get certified by the state and get paid as the caretaker. Then the action appears on the GDP. | |
| ▲ | toomanyrichies 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Thanks for mentioning this book. I just bought it, looking forward to reading it. |
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| ▲ | ch4s3 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | More realistically here, there’s a limit to the funding any individual state can come up with to fund benefits. Tradeoffs have to be considered and increased workforce participation increases the tax receipts that fund these programs. It’s not much more complicated than that. | | |
| ▲ | xp84 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | It's sometimes surprising to read a comment like this, which applies just common sense, basic math, and logic, instead of the typical online comment mixture of hysteria, panic, and portraying one's non-favorite "team" as a bunch of mustachio-twirling cartoon villains. | | |
| ▲ | ch4s3 2 days ago | parent [-] | | You read a lot of books about economics, history, and political science and suddenly everything starts to look like it's complicated. The recent trend of commentators shouting "it's actually not complicated" is troubling. I try to present commentary with some nuance and humility. I have a perspective, but I endeavor to leave room for the possibility that I don't have a full understanding or that my model of the world doesn't fit every set of circumstances. | | |
| ▲ | bombcar 2 days ago | parent [-] | | The key I realized is that there is always complexity, but the "simple" understanding is still "mostly" right. No complexity can make a $1 billion expense able to be paid with $1m of revenue. | | |
| ▲ | ch4s3 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > but the "simple" understanding is still "mostly" right. I rarely find this to be the case for anything big or important. |
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| ▲ | giantg2 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I find it dubious that adding the people who don't find it financially feasible to use childcare to cover working hours will generate tax revenue to cover this due to the low income and low tax nature. Not to mention the addition of the cost from all the current paying families. | | |
| ▲ | motorest 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > I find it dubious that adding the people who don't find it financially feasible to use childcare to cover working hours will generate tax revenue to cover this due to the low income and low tax nature. You can actually think through your belief. The announcement provides a concrete number: $12,000 per child. Do you generate $12k in tax revenue? Note that this means direct and indirect tax revenue, not only from your job and what your employer earns from your work but also with your own expenses that you can cover by having a job. | | |
| ▲ | giantg2 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Yes, I understand that and still don't think that adds up. Things like SNAP for a family of 4 would be less than $12k per year. And that increased tax revenue would have to offset the currently working and paying families that will now use the program. We would have to wait for the experiment to conclude to see what the increased earnings for participants will be. |
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| ▲ | ch4s3 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > generate tax revenue to cover this due That's not the claim I'm making. Someone entering the workforce has tax implications for a local government far beyond their individual tax receipts and will increase their future earning potential. | | |
| ▲ | giantg2 2 days ago | parent [-] | | You imply an overall net netral to net positive. I find it hard to believe that would total $12k per year. If there are complicated n-order effects, then perhaps you should call them out instead of saying it's not complicated. | | |
| ▲ | ch4s3 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > I find it hard to believe that would total $12k per year. Again I didn't claim that. The tradeoff is generating some percentage of X benefit in economic activity vs some much lower percentage of X while X is also much larger. | | |
| ▲ | giantg2 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I fail to understand what value your initial comment holds. The grandparents of that comment was talking about financial feasibility of the program in the context of a proposed waiver. This necessarily implies that on-topic responses to that should be weighing financial feasibility of the program with and without the waiver. Your most recent comment seems to just be clarifying that your initial comment is just the same generalized explanation for the current expansion - expanding the benefit to the currently working higher earning parents where the return is unclear and logically dubious, thus providing some much lower percentage of X while X is much larger. The only way to claim what your comment is trying to is to also display some evidence that this current expansion will provide economic activity benefit beyond the previous program that had 4x poverty level means testing. Otherwise, it's simply "some much lower percentage of X while X is also much larger" vs the same thing with X being even larger. | | |
| ▲ | ch4s3 2 days ago | parent [-] | | The idea of extending the program to pay people who aren't using the benefit directly sounds nice in theory but would cost way more and incentivizes people to not work. This necessarily makes the broader version of the program even more expensive than it appears at first. A working parent using a daycare voucher necessarily pays taxes back into the system and so does the day care. This offsets the cost a little. Giving essentially cash payments to people who stay at home has no such offset. So it is much more expensive and disincentivizes people working which might slightly offset the cost. > Would make sense IMO to provide an equal value waiver to those who take care of their kid rather than send them to childcare There is no way this is affordable to New Mexico. They're estimating the cost at $600 million a year, of about 6% of their total budget next year. | | |
| ▲ | giantg2 2 days ago | parent [-] | | "A working parent using a daycare voucher necessarily pays taxes back into the system and so does the day care." This assumes the value of the parent working is greater than the value generated by the alternative consumer spending. "and incentivizes people to not work" This would only incentivize low income individuals to not work, which could actually be beneficial as it could drive a living wage increase in that labor segment if employers had to compete against the benefit. | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | >This assumes the value of the parent working is greater than the value generated by the alternative consumer spending. I don't think the benefit is even contingent on the parent working, and it definitely isn't contingent on the value of their current and discounted future earnings appreciation being greater than the cost of sending the kids to daycare. From what I can tell you can put the kid in daycare then lay on a beach if there is anything of that sort in the New Mexican desert. I'm open to the argument that by certain measures "free" childcare leads to increased economic output, but they've certainly not crafted the program in a way I would expect someone with that aim to do it. |
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| ▲ | motorest 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > There are many things that may be better overall, but because they're not financialized, they don't show up on GDP and so are deemed "worthless." I think you're confusing GDP with a measure of worth or quality. It is not. Just because you can earn money doing double-shifts in a coal mine that doesn't make it better than spending the same time at a beach doing nothing. | | |
| ▲ | bombcar 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It's a confusion the whole world seems to have, even if you ask everyone and they'd deny it. GDP of a country is flat for 10 years, but everyone is happier and healthier and feels better? Bad country! GDP is soaring for ten years, but everyone is depressed, suicidal, deep in debt, overweight, and dying early? Good country! |
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| ▲ | zamadatix 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I'm not sure there is equal value, in economic terms at least. A stay at home parent caring for 1-2 children comes at the opportunity cost of a full time worker, which would typically be a lot more than 12-24 thousand dollars this is saving them in childcare costs. On the flip side, a childcare worker in NM can care for the children of ~6+ such stay at home parents (depends on randomness of ages and number of children each had). None of that is a statement that it wouldn't be nice for everyone to be able to be paid as a full time parent, just that the economic value is not necessarily equal with a waiver. | | |
| ▲ | mguerville 2 days ago | parent [-] | | and these $12-24k are net dollars so the parents needs more like $20-40k of gross income to pay for it, but now they can have a small job or small business that nets them even as low as $15k and still come out ahead |
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| ▲ | carlhjerpe 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | In Sweden we value equality and everyone working. If someone is wealthy enough to have a stay-at-home parent it's their choice to do so, we shouldn't subsidize the rich. It is good for children to go to a place where they learn to interact with others early. We give 480 days off to the parents to share (90 "mandatory" per parent), then they go to childcare. Individualism breeds privileged shits, if you want your kid to be one of those then you pay out of your own pocket. We subsidize childcare so everyone can afford to work. | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | You don't subsidize the rich, yet you subsidize rich child care corporations (or high-level bureaucrats in the event it is public) at the expense of not subsidizing stay at home moms. You don't want people paid for taking care of their children, but it's OK if other people are paid for taking care of their chidlren. None of this makes sense. Especially not this false dichotomy that either you send your kids to daycare or they don't learn to interact with others early. | | |
| ▲ | carlhjerpe 2 days ago | parent [-] | | We live in different societies, yours is extremely on the individualism spectrum and ours is on the "common good" spectrum. We don't subsidize the childcare corporations here, we do what's best for society. | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I might be wrong, but I believe in Sweden salaries are able to be publicly found. Find some high level people in the public or private childcares in your nation who are beneficiaries of these subsidies and then tell me how rich they are compared to the average stay at home mom. | | |
| ▲ | carlhjerpe 2 days ago | parent [-] | | There are barely any stay at home moms because it's socially detrimental, the ones who are are either social outcasts by lack of capability or religious oppression. We should not subsidize stay at home moms or dad's because it's bad for society, if they can afford to do it or stretch their economy to do it for other reasons it's their bad choice, and we allow free choice even if it's bad, that's why cigarettes are still allowed. I don't know who to look up, but if you have some suggestions I could look it up through ratsit.se | | |
| ▲ | mothballed 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I appreciate your honesty, there are not many willing to admit it's really about viewing stay-at-home parents as morally deficient. I have no interest in refuting the argument, it might be true, merely to point out I think why we're having so much trouble getting straight answers is that the underlying motivation is going unspoken. |
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| ▲ | dzink 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Depending on how they structure the childcare, women who want to stay with their kids can be childcare providers at one of the centers, so they take care of not just their kids but also others. Similar to the Israeli Kibbutz system. | | |
| ▲ | bluGill 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | One of the reasons to care for your own kids is you can give them individual attention. Unless you have so many kids that you are only caring for your own anyway your plan diverts their attention away to other kids (or those other kids get less attention) | | |
| ▲ | jjk166 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | The argument is that stay at home parents should get the same credit as childcare providers because they perform the same service to society. If you're only caring for your own kids, you are providing significantly less to society than those caring for many kids. You want to focus on raising your own kids, that's fine, but do it on your dime. | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > If you're only caring for your own kids, you are providing significantly less to society than those caring for many kids. I disagree with this. Perhaps caring for your own kids produces much better kids (and eventually, adults). And that may be more of a benefit to society than a large number of people being incentivized to create large number of kids whose care is just outsourced to childcare centers where they receive less attention. > You want to focus on raising your own kids, that's fine, but do it on your dime. Is this really an argument for anything? One could just say “if you want to raise kids you can’t afford, do it on your own dime” and undermine your perspective. | | |
| ▲ | jjk166 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > Perhaps caring for your own kids produces much better kids (and eventually, adults). And that may be more of a benefit to society than a large number of people being incentivized to create large number of kids whose care is just outsourced to childcare centers where they receive less attention. We're not talking about some vague value to society of kids. We're talking about the concrete value of the service being provided - an adult physically present in the vicinity of children to take care of issues, freeing up adults for other, more productive utilizations of their time. A stay at home parent who looks after only their own children does not free up any adults. > Is this really an argument for anything? One could just say “if you want to raise kids you can’t afford, do it on your own dime” and undermine your perspective. That doesn't undermine my perspective at all. Again the argument is that division of labor is more efficient. It costs society less to have one person raise multiple kids than it does for lots of people to raise their own kids. Even if you say only those who could afford to stay at home and raise their kids should have kids, they should still be utilizing this system to reduce total cost. If they choose not to participate in the cost reduction, they ought to shoulder the burden of the higher costs on their own. Recognizing that society kind of needs kids for the whole survival of the species thing, selfish actions that reduce cost savings for everyone ought not to be incentivized. | | |
| ▲ | ndriscoll 2 days ago | parent [-] | | If you're trying to be efficient, you could also put 100 kids in a room with an adult to do whatever as long as the adult can keep them alive, but most people would recognize that the services are not equivalent. It's not more efficient; it's lower quality. | | |
| ▲ | jjk166 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | That's literally the exact same argument. 100 being too many doesn't mean 1 is ideal. No one is saying there isn't some threshold beyond which quality drops, just that the threshold is higher than 1. | | |
| ▲ | ndriscoll 16 minutes ago | parent [-] | | Your characterization of the service provided is "adult physically present in the vicinity of children to take care of issues". That sounds to me like a lower quality "service" than what e.g. my wife provides, which is actually raising them, teaching them, giving them emotional support, taking them on errands around town, etc. Even with your own kids it's way more difficult to give them as much attention when there's 1 vs 2, so I find the assertion that quality of care doesn't drop after 1 to be dubious as well. |
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| ▲ | vidarh 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > Perhaps caring for your own kids produces much better kids (and eventually, adults). In places with universal childcare provisions, one of the arguments is often that children in childcare tends to benefit from the extra socialisation. I don't know to what extent that is supported by hard evidence, but it's at least by no means clear that caring for your own children is a net benefit for society even direct economic arguments aside. |
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| ▲ | pbhjpbhj 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | >you are providing significantly less to society than those caring for many kids And getting paid considerably less. You're almost certainly providing proportionally more for your pay. A childcare provider can register and only look after 1 child, usually, but wouldn't because they want/need more income. Presumably nannies (careworker for children from a single family) are registered childcare providers where you are; would a nanny be subsidised able to get paid with a subsidy? | | |
| ▲ | jjk166 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It is cheaper per child to care for multiple children at the same time. It's basic economies of scale. Nannies and childcare providers that only look after a single child ought not to be subsidized, at least not nearly to the same extent as those who provide care more efficiently. | | |
| ▲ | somenameforme 2 days ago | parent [-] | | In an economy of scale, the quality of your product does not decrease. But when one person is looking after ever more children, their quality of care does decrease. So you're not incentivizing more efficient care, but simply worse care. It's akin to education - the general goal is to minimize the number of students per teacher, not maximize it. | | |
| ▲ | jjk166 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Yes, if you had one caretaker looking after thousands of children, quality would be poor. But that doesn't mean the optimal number is 1. A professional caretaker looking after a manageable number of children can certainly outperform an amateur looking after one or two, and a facility with multiple specialized caretakers can outperform the single professional caretaker. You don't want to minimize students per teacher, you want a healthy number of students per teacher. Class sizes are not optimal at 1. Below some minimum class size (which varies by age group) there is no benefit to further reduction, and sufficiently low numbers can be harmful. That's to say nothing of the additional cost of that labor to achieve such faculty ratios. | | |
| ▲ | somenameforme 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | You've gone from efficiency and economies of scale, to a "professional" outperforming an "amateur." Raising a child is not like making a widget. Endless studies [1] demonstrate that more early non-parental care leads to worse outcomes in just about every single way - worse behavior, health, attention span, long term higher likelihood of police encounters, and much more. An interesting one is that children who spend extensive time in daycare even end up less socially competent which is quite interesting since it runs contrary to one of the typical arguments in favor of daycare. But it's also not surprising if you think about it, because at home a child is getting vastly more attention and interaction than he would in daycare. And this is especially significant because that's just speaking aggregately. Obviously not all parents are created equal, but it turns out that even bad parents tend to be better than non-parental care, especially early on. If you isolated it only to active, highly involved, parents - the results would be exponentially better than they already are. [1] - https://search.brave.com/search?q=long+term+outcomes+of+dayc... | | |
| ▲ | jjk166 5 hours ago | parent [-] | | > You've gone from efficiency and economies of scale, to a "professional" outperforming an "amateur." These are one in the same. Economies of scale work because of specialization. > Raising a child is not like making a widget. Endless studies [1] demonstrate that more early non-parental care leads to worse outcomes in just about every single way - worse behavior, health, attention span, long term higher likelihood of police encounters, and much more. You didn't link to any specific study but that's the exact opposite of what the search results say [1]. The results suggesting that daycare has negative effects all seem to be from the Institute or Family Studies [2] which is a conservative think tank promoting traditional gender roles. If you have credible sources that state otherwise, please share them directly. > Obviously not all parents are created equal, but it turns out that even bad parents tend to be better than non-parental care, especially early on. Yeah, you're gonna need a specific source for that claim. [1] https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/children-youth/learning-deve... [2] https://ifstudies.org/blog/measuring-the-long-term-effects-o... |
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| ▲ | ndriscoll 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Amateurs regularly outperform professionals in schooling (they seem to perform somewhere between "at least as good" to "decently better" on average), and studies in the 80s found that 1:1 tutoring with mastery learning is wildly more effective than normal classes (with the average tutored student performing at the 98th percentile of control students). | | |
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| ▲ | hedora 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | One reason to send your kids to daycare is so they can socialize and make friends. Also, the daycares typically have structured programs that are fun and helpful for toddler development. |
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| ▲ | makeitdouble 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I don't know if that's what they had in mind, but "stay at home mom" is probably not just men/women who solely watch their kid all day long. A full remote worker keeping their kid nearby would probably fit the same criteria, especially if the couple is both remote and they can split dealing with the chores. |
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| ▲ | motorest 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > Stay at home moms do not provide a less valuable service than childcare providers. I don't know how can anyone arrive at that conclusion. > This policy appears to disincentives children staying with their mother even when it is preferred. This assertion is baffling and far-fetched. There is only one beneficiary of this policy: families who desperately needed access to childcare but could not possibly afford it. With this policy, those who needed childcare but were priced out of the market will be able to access the service they needed. I don't think that extreme poverty and binding a mother to homecare is a valid incentive cor "children staying with their mother". | | |
| ▲ | bluGill 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > With this policy, those who needed childcare but were priced out of the market will be able to access the service they needed. And the rich parents who can afford childcare are also given a subsidy. A married parent who wants to stay home but can't quite afford it is forced to work. Is this really what you want? If it is the poor your care about why not subsidies just them? | | |
| ▲ | motorest 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > And the rich parents who can afford childcare are also given a subsidy. That's fine. > A married parent who wants to stay home but can't quite afford it is forced to work. I don't get what point you think you're making. Do you believe that not offering universal child care changed that? | |
| ▲ | afthonos 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > A married parent who wants to stay home but can't quite afford it is forced to work. I’m confused; how does your preferred policy solve this problem? | | |
| ▲ | bluGill 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I don't have a stated preferred policy here. I'm questioning if the post I replied to really preferred this policy. Policy is a constant battle of unintended consequences. I clearly understand that nothing isn't immune from those consequences, and so I'm constantly adjusting my preferred policy trying to find the least bad compromise. |
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| ▲ | fridder 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | This isn't a perfect solution. If you want the most equitable then you go the UBI route. Otherwise you have to do fixes like this in order to make things better. Also you have to do the ROI on means testing |
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| ▲ | crazygringo 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > This policy appears to disincentives children staying with their mother even when it is preferred. It does no such thing. If you could afford to be a stay-at-home mom before, this isn't going to make any significant difference to that. Think of whether it would make sense if you applied your logic to other areas -- do public schools disincentivize people sending their kids to private schools? That would be absurd to say. Creating choice where there wasn't any before doesn't "disincentivize" anything. It gives people options to make the choices that are best for them. | |
| ▲ | clickety_clack 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I totally get the reasoning behind that, but the majority of women are not stay at home moms, and most families don’t have the resources to make it happen. Society is just not oriented to family creation, and both women and men (to a lesser extent) take a hit when they decide to start a family. The entire world is in a fertility crisis now that could easily endanger the very society we live in, with all the ideals and principles we take for granted, and that calls for solutions that may not end up being absolutely fair to everyone in it. If the tradeoff is between childcare that actually works versus a watered down version because we are also paying people who don’t avail of it, I think the former option will do most to support families. | | |
| ▲ | rpcope1 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I agree with you except the part about the policy making a dent. Scandinavian countries have all sorts of "universal childcare" and benefits, and their TFR is still going straight into the shitter. All this talk about expanding the GDP and going towards total workforce participation IMO is why family formation is slowing to a crawl (I mean look at South Korea, where it's all about being a workaholic and they basically will cease to exist in maybe 50-100 years, literally). If we want to continue as a nation or entity of people, I believe the people and the government are going to need to put their thumb on the scale in a way more aggressive way, including both childcare credits for all, paying stay at home parents a salary, major cultural changes (including our own version of the Soviet Mother Heroine/Order of Parental Glory that carry real status with them, perhaps), and economic and cultural pushback on being a DINK or similar. We have no future the way we're going, and these sort of policy interventions have been tried elsewhere and they don't do shit. We really have got to rethink a lot of things, in a way that's probably painful or irritating to the readership here, otherwise we're basically done. | | |
| ▲ | lotsofpulp 2 days ago | parent [-] | | You don’t want just kids, you want well raised kids. Badly raised kids are easily a net negative, so just paying people to be parents isn’t going to work. The only thing that might incentivize people to think about the long term is getting rid of all old age benefits (including continuous bail outs of broad market assets by the federal government by sacrificing the purchasing power of the currency). Right now, we take productivity from people who sacrifice to raise kids well and give it to those who don’t raise kids well, or not have them at all. This obviously leads to an arbitrage opportunity (as evidenced by DINK lifestyles). I do not see any other way other than to remove this arbitrage opportunity. Which probably will not happen in any democracy due to old people’s voting power. | | |
| ▲ | seanmcdirmid 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I beg to disagree. In Switzerland, a lot of emphasis is put on assimilation to a Swiss identity via pre-school and school. Now this eventually raises the bar for parents to raise their kids, but it also acts to Swissify immigrant kids quickly as well (and 25% of the residents in Switzerland are not born as swiss, many of those are refugees from African countries that America has problems dealing with). America's DIY hands off parent-focused system consistently has the worse results of all the world's developed countries, and is proving to be worse than even developing country systems. | | |
| ▲ | lotsofpulp 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Switzerland has not achieved a replacement rate TFR since 1970. https://www.macrotrends.net/global-metrics/countries/che/swi... Any sustainable policy would obviously result in a TFR of at least the replacement rate. | | |
| ▲ | seanmcdirmid 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I have no idea what TFR has to do with anything here. So Swiss people aren't having kids like they were before, that is not relevant to education outcomes, maybe they are just really good in teaching sex education. | | |
| ▲ | lotsofpulp 2 days ago | parent [-] | | A sub replacement rate TFR leads to extinction, not to mention wreaks havoc on government policies that have long been dependent on growth. | | |
| ▲ | seanmcdirmid 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Switzerland has a high immigration rate, so they aren't going to be hit by this in the short term, and in the long term I don't think they are going to sweat some population loss. |
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| ▲ | TulliusCicero 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > Would make sense IMO to provide an equal value waiver to those who take care of their kid rather than send them to childcare. From the government's point of view, they want more people out in the workforce, so it probably doesn't make sense that way. | |
| ▲ | thinkingtoilet 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Sure. Right after I get all my tax money back from all the userless wars we've fought in the last 20 years because I was against them. | | |
| ▲ | ndriscoll 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Weird to assume people who support an increased child credit aren't also against devoting resources to pointless wars. | | |
| ▲ | thinkingtoilet 2 days ago | parent [-] | | That's clearly not the assumption at all. The idea that we can pick and choose what we pay taxes for is not a reality. That's not how this works. There are tons of subsidies, pork, and other ways my tax dollars get used that don't benefit me at all. Just because you don't have a kid or choose not to use the new system, doesn't mean you shouldn't pay your share of taxes, just like everything else in this country. | | |
| ▲ | ndriscoll 2 days ago | parent [-] | | No one said they're not going to pay taxes. They advocated for what they consider to be a better policy. What you're saying is like responding to someone who thinks we shouldn't start random wars with "we don't get to choose what we pay taxes for". Uh, yeah, we do get to advocate for and vote on how the government spends our money. We can and should point out that starting pointless wars is bad and we should encourage others to support a policy where we stop doing it. Arguing against specific uses and for other uses of taxes to build consensus for your point of view is exactly what people are supposed to do in a democracy. |
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| ▲ | patrickthebold 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I agree. Ideally we could just increase the tax credits so it's large enough to cover the childcare expenses (and other necessities), and let the families decide what is best. And yes, some people are going to do a bad job taking care of their kids and spend the money on something else. But my understanding is that it generally works well to just give people money, rather than pay for specific things. | |
| ▲ | jvuygbbkuurx 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | This is how it works in Finland, but with some adjustments based on family income. You are eligible for up to 500€/month if you take care of your child. The other option being childcare costing up to 300€/month. | |
| ▲ | angmarsbane 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I see benefits for stay at home Moms, universal childcare means she has somewhere safe to drop her kid off while she goes to her own doctor appointments, or when she needs a break, or if there’s a family emergency she needs to attend to or even if she’s going into labor to bring kid number 2 or 3 into the world. There are a lot of stay at home parents that don’t have family near by or a reliable sitter and this can help plug some gaps. | |
| ▲ | forbiddenvoid 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | In what way does this disincentivize anyone? If you want to stay home with your kids, stay home with your kids. This is literally not preventing anyone from being a stay at home parent. | | |
| ▲ | programjames 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Lots of two-parent working families do the maths, and realize they would pay more in childcare than the income from a second job. This incentivizes one of them to stay at home. Here, the incentive is gone. This is worse for the economy and probably the family. | | |
| ▲ | macintux 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I can see arguments that it's worse for the family, but why is it worse for the economy to have two parents working? | | |
| ▲ | programjames 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Suppose childcare is $15k/year and you work minimum wage making less than $15k/year. Then there's less wealth to go around, just more in your pocket. But actually, you probably don't take home all the wealth you create, so it can actually still be better for the economy. It is still worse for the economy, but not for that reason. Probably because labor has a backward-bending supply curve, and most people are already working more hours than is optimal. As another commenter said, it would probably be better for the economy to make a 30 hour work week. |
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| ▲ | onlypassingthru 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Your taxes pay for the public service whether you use it or not. Take a look at your property tax statement and I bet you can find all sorts of things you may or may not use: parks fees, library fees, health/hospital fees, schools, etc. Should everyone who reads but doesn't use the public library get a book voucher? I'm a stay-at-home-reader, why shouldn't I get the government to subsidize my reading? | |
| ▲ | daveswilson 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | As a resident of New Mexico I can tell you that it is a miracle that we can afford to launch this program at all. Perhaps when the long-term economic benefits begin to pay out, we'll be able to pay people to support their personal preferences. As it stands, while I don't have kids at home anymore, I can see the long-term economic benefit to the state, and am very pleased that my tax dollars are helping to get this done. | |
| ▲ | mattmaroon 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I don’t get a voucher for not receiving medicaid or food stamps. Fairness is a concept meant to tame unruly preschoolers, let’s just solve problems. | |
| ▲ | hereme888 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Absolutely. Nothing is free. This means less resources for something else, marketed as "compassion". Mothers generally take much better care of their own children than childcare. Childcare was already previously available for low-income families. To incentivize women to work when they can afford to care for their children is very bad for a country in the long term. | |
| ▲ | eirikbakke 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Norway does this. Kindergartens are nearly free ($120/mo), but with a "cash-for-care" benefit for parents who choose to stay at home with the child ($750/mo). https://www.nav.no/kontantstotte/en | | |
| ▲ | magicalist 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > You can receive cash-for-care benefit for children between 13 and 19 months, starting the month the child turns 13 months, up until and including the month the child turns 19 months. You can receive cash-for-care benefits for a maximum of 7 months. so, no, extremely limited compared to what's being discussed. | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I wonder why they don’t have the same allergy to a voucher program that is prevalent in the US on the political left. For some reason, letting people exercise their agency and do things their own way is seen as a threat here. | | |
| ▲ | OkayPhysicist 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It's not an allergy to vouchers. It's an allergy to diverting tax payer dollars away from public schools and into subsidizing religious indoctrination centers. There are good religious schools: I've been largely impressed by the Jesuit-run schools I've seen. But most religious private primary and high schools in the US are run by weird little cults that fundamentally fail to meet muster in the whole "not being thinly-veiled excuses for indoctrination" side of things. Americans are stupid enough without stripping them of what little education we do offer them. | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > It's an allergy to diverting tax payer dollars away from public schools and into subsidizing religious indoctrination centers. All schools are indoctrination centers. Some very progressive cities push a lot of political programming into their curriculums. Why does it matter if someone wants their child’s education to have THEIR flavor of religious indoctrination? The money follows the child. The money for kids staying in public schools stays with them. So it doesn’t divert anything away. |
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| ▲ | Pet_Ant 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > Stay at home moms do not provide a less valuable service than childcare providers. They are strictly less efficient than commercial daycare because the adult-child ratio is much higher. How many women would be of out of the work for if they were taking care of children? Also, it prevents trickle down and the lifting of the poorest in society. | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Less efficient? No they aren’t strictly less efficient because they provide MUCH better quality of care. | | |
| ▲ | Pet_Ant 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | To less children. Even if the area under the curve was the same (and I suspect that there very much are diminishing returns) they have a very negative effect on the Gini coefficient and that is a negative externality that should not be incentivised. If your position is that people should not be compelled to contribute to overall society and the lifting of the boats of others, than there isn't enough alignment of values for a meaningful conversation. | | |
| ▲ | tomrod 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It does offer a potential backdoor to UBI while also encouraging desirable outcomes -- increased birth rate for wanted children, more people willing to foster, optionality for women to enter workforce, etc. I suspect there will be some fraud (I have 30 kids, wheee!) as well as foster/adoption abuse -- probably AZ's experiment with paying parents to home school would be instructive. |
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| ▲ | tomrod 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | At the median: probably. At the tails: probably not. |
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| ▲ | orthoxerox 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | However, they provide superior level of childcare. |
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| ▲ | jimbo808 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | While true, social policies do not need to provide an equal benefit to everyone. People who can afford to stay home with the kids are not the ones who need this sort of policy. | |
| ▲ | jrflowers 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | This makes sense. If something objectively good happens, it is not actually that good if a completely different good thing did not happen. | |
| ▲ | koolba 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I’m sure people will find creative ways to scam the system where I watch your kids and you watch mine, and both of us get paid for it. | |
| ▲ | arathis 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Nonsense. Absolute Fucking nonsense. |
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| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | because it will show how much an economy can grow when women are allowed to work to their full potential. Disagree. Everyone needs to realize that having two parents who both have "greedy jobs" is a path to misery. Giving out childcare does not change the situation. One parent will always need to step back from their career or there will be misery, I've seen too many cases. Even if both parents are comfortable putting their kid in daycare 9 to 11 hours a day (to cover both the workday and the commute), which they should not be, they still have to deal with many sick days, needing to be out of work by 6pm every day, not going on business trips, teacher's conferences, school plays, PTA meetings, not getting a good night sleep because baby or toddler is having a sleep regression, etc. etc. There is no world where you provide everyone universal childcare and now both parents can "work to their full potential" and "give the economy their best." The reality furthermore is that there are few non-greedy jobs that are non-subsidized/non-fake and that contribute to the economy enough to be of more value than childcare. Subsidizing childcare, so the second parent can get a non-greedy job as a neighborbood coffeeshop owner, or working as a strict 9-5 government lawyer, isn't really a win for the economy. | | |
| ▲ | benterix 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Not sure about your point. I live in Europe, and State pays for the first 1 year or two. Then you get your kid to preschool which is either paid or free. In this way the mother (who usually has more burden related to breastfeeding etc.) can finally breathe freely. Can she go to work? Yes, and in some Europaen countries she has the right to ask for part work with the current employer, and they can't refuse. A few years later the kid goes to school (again, paid or free) and parents can decide how they organize their lives based on their needs an expectations. If your kid is sick, you can stay with them, and I always assumed this is normal and civilized way, I can't imagine otherwise. | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent [-] | | The post I was replying to said that free parental leave would allow parents to "give their best to the economy" and reach their "full potential" at the career. To me that implied American work culture and "greedy jobs." (Google the term, there has been a lot of commentary on it). From what I understand, most European countries optimize for something like "cozy economic conditions" rather than "maximizing economic potential" so neither my comment or the comment I was replying to would apply Europe. What I have seen in the U.S. is misery resulting from two parents working greedy jobs, like one is a high-powered lawyer, the other is engineer at a startup and then having a baby or 1 year old or two year old in daycare. One is a sales rep, the other is working a political campaign. What do you do when baby is sick and dad has to make sales quota and mom has a deadline for engineering documents that the entire construction project is bottlenecked on? What do you do when both parents need to stay late at the office, one to finish the legal docs big deal, the other to make a product launch deadline? Stress and fights over whose job is the most important results. What if baby is sick and waking up at night every 30 minutes? Who gets to be sleep deprived? Then you get your kid to preschool which is either paid or free. In this way the mother (who usually has more burden related to breastfeeding etc.) can finally breathe freely. Can she go to work? Yes, and in some Europaen countries she has the right to ask for part work with the current employer, and they can't refuse. A few years later the kid goes to school (again, paid or free) and parents can decide how they organize their lives based on their needs an expectations. If your kid is sick, you can stay with them, and I always assumed this is normal and civilized way, I can't imagine otherwise. I am curious though, would this job that mom goes back to actually be more "productive" than taking care of a four year-old and two-year old human child? | | |
| ▲ | benterix a day ago | parent | next [-] | | > I am curious though, would this job that mom goes back to actually be more "productive" than taking care of a four year-old and two-year old human child? Actually, any job she likes? In this case, it's not for the baby, it's for her. Being with a child 24/7 has its toll, and people are social animals, they like being with others. In this case, work - especially white collar - is a kind of rest for parents. At least this is the attitude of many fresh mums (and dads) around me. | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig a day ago | parent [-] | | Taking care of a baby can be very social ... as long as the other mother's aren't all at work. And what exactly are these jobs that are a rest compared to taking care of a baby? Are they actually economically productive or are they bureaucratic fake jobs? I have noticed that many of my peer parents make parenting more stressful than it needs to be, and don't invest enough in learning techniques to make it less stressful. Like, some parents don't even invest in baby-proofing and then they are constantly chasing their toddler around. But, the first year of baby is always going to be stressful because everything is so new, just as the first year at a brand new job is always going to be more stressful than a job one is highly experienced at. |
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| ▲ | fragmede 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > Who gets to be sleep deprived? The live-in nanny. A high-paid lawyer and a sr software engineer together make, let's presume they make $500k/yr combined. They should take some of that money and hire someone else to do it for them. The question shouldn't be to compare one mom's job vs taking care of two children, there should be a team of professional adults taking care of a cadre of children. Amortized over that, the numbers look a bit better. | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig a day ago | parent [-] | | > there should be a team of professional adults Look up how much housing costs, and how much professional nannies cost, in a location where the software engineer and lawyer are making $500k combined. And you'll need at least two nannies, one overnight, one during the day. I don't think the math is going to work out very well. Also, there are a lot of greedy jobs that don't pay nearly as well as $250k, especially early in career. |
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| ▲ | Chinjut 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Family is not the point of life. Family is a chore we put up with to get to the point of life, maximizing profits for employers. | |
| ▲ | tempfile 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I was with you til the end, so now I need to ask what you really mean by "greedy jobs". I took it to mean jobs that are all-consuming, no fixed hours, high pressure, high stress. If that is what you mean then I seriously doubt your claim that there are few non-greedy jobs that contribute to the economy. The vast majority of jobs are non-greedy by this definition, unless the US has really regressed so far from Europe as to be unrecognisable. | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent [-] | | If that is what you mean then I seriously doubt your claim that there are few non-greedy jobs that contribute to the economy. What I said is "that contribute to the economy enough to be of more value than childcare" Picking up trash or painting houses are important jobs that contribute to the economy, but they are not more valuable than caring for children nor do they pay more, so there is little point in a second parent going back to work as a house painter and then paying for daycare, or having the state subsidize daycare. In a medium cost-of-living city in America, two kids in daycare will cost $40k-$45k. There aren't many non-greedy, non-sinecure/subsidized jobs that will pay enough after taxes and commute costs to make entering the workforce worth it. And I don't see the point in actively subsidizing the childcare versus giving all parents some assistance and then letting them choose the more economically efficient path. |
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| ▲ | bryanlarsen 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | 1 greedy job + 1 non-greedy job + daycare is surely better for the economy than 1 greedy job + no job, isn't it? If the economy is what you're trying to optimize for. | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I don't want to optimize for the economy... but if I did ... Instead of having the second parents work the non-greedy job painting a house or what-not, and then third-parties working in the child care industry ... just have the second parent take care of their own children and the third-parties painting the houses or what not. Your equation leaves out that the parent taking care of their own kid frees up the workers from the daycare industry to do something else. So their is no net loss in output. It only is a net loss if daycare is so much more efficient at taking care of kids that one day-care worker can free up multiple parents to work non-greedy jobs, but when you look at the all-in costs of daycare including administration and facilities and floaters that is not really the case. | | |
| ▲ | bryanlarsen 2 days ago | parent [-] | | That only works if you have at least 5 kids. Otherwise the ratio of kids to caregivers is higher at the daycare than with a stay at home parent. | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent [-] | | No, because you have to count all the employment going into running and supplying the daycare, which includes facilities, equipment, administration, extra staff, etc. You have to look at the all-in cost. | | |
| ▲ | bryanlarsen 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I've never seen a daycare with more than 5% of staff doing admin. Either it's a small daycare with a handful of workers and everybody doing care, or it's a large one with one person doing admin. | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It all adds up. On average, daycare in USA costs $18k a year per child ( https://www.care.com/c/how-much-does-child-care-cost/ ), which is the best measure of the total resources that it takes up, all-in. Median income for a 30yo man is $55k and for a woman $45k. So even with just two kids, the lower earning parent with the non-greedy job is not clearing much if anything over the cost of the daycare. |
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| ▲ | apwell23 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | i just got laid off 1 week after coming back from paternity leave. | |
| ▲ | swed420 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Agreed. We should have been freed a long time ago: https://harpers.org/archive/1932/10/in-praise-of-idleness/ Unfortunately late capitalism made sure we went in the opposite direction. |
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| ▲ | lenerdenator 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | There are more important things women - and other people - can do than simply grow the economy. One of the reasons you must have a two-income household to be economically middle-class in most American metros now is because two-income households became the norm. When I was growing up 25-30 years ago, that made you comfortable. Then people realized that there was "untapped" value in that extra income and raised prices accordingly. If you're looking to buy the things that make up the "American Dream", you are now competing to buy against people who are willing to throw two incomes at the problem. Now that there are two incomes, the only way to grow is to start shedding other things that keep people from creating more value for their employers. Kids, home improvement, community involvement, all are - or have been - going by the wayside. | | |
| ▲ | orthoxerox 2 days ago | parent [-] | | If I'm not mistaken, Elizabeth Warren has literally written a book about this problem, so it's not some reactionary desire to keep women in the kitchen. |
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| ▲ | dzink 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | This would solve a lot of Republican’s problems as well. Israel has the kibbutz system and they have the highest birth rate of developed economies. They also have amazing tech and women participation and excellent contributions even in the military. If you raise the country’s children well, you get more GDP and less prisons and less need for policing, and less need for welfare programs. Plus you get quality workers for those american-made factories. | | |
| ▲ | ch4s3 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Only about 1-2% of Israelis live on a kibbutz, and unsurprisingly that number has recently fallen.
You actually see the elevated birth rates even in Tel Aviv. There’s a broader cultural expectation that would be impossible to recreate elsewhere. | |
| ▲ | ajcp 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Israel's current birthrate has more to do with the ultra-Orthodox and Arab communities and nothing to do with the kibbutz system. The ultra-Orthodox communities are also exempt from those "excellent contributions even in the military". While female ultra-Orthodox participation in the workforce is around 80%, that's largely due to males not participating (50%).[0] 0. https://www.timesofisrael.com/haredi-mens-employment-growth-... |
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| ▲ | colechristensen 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | The problem with more people entering the workforce is that the people never end up better off. Prices just go up and people end up working more for the same result. Changing the definition of full-time hours to 30/week would do far more for families and children than giving free childcare so mothers can work more. Making mortgages with a > 20 year term illegal, putting limits on the total principal allowed to loan as a multiple of income, and barring entirely non-human (i.e. any business entity) ownership of single family homes would do far more for families and children by removing the burden of ridiculous housing costs by removing the ability for people to compete for ridiculous housing prices. | | |
| ▲ | 9rx 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > Changing the definition of full-time hours to 30/week would do far more for families and children than giving free childcare so mothers can work more. You want to change what now? The dictionary definition does not specify any particular time. There is no legal definition for full-time. The IRS uses the term full-time, but they actually use it exactly like you wish: 30 hours per week. People out on the street often casually use full-time to refer to 40 hours per week. I anticipate that is what you are referring to. But that usage is simply used to refer to how many hours they are working. 40 hours under that usage is an observation, not a commandment. | | | |
| ▲ | Loudergood 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | That last part is just going to make more housing cheaper for landlords and force more people into renting. | | |
| ▲ | colechristensen 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | No I think there should be extreme limits on anybody owning a single family home that they don't live in. With enormous tax penalties for those who do. Don't let people get 30 year mortgages. Don't let people own houses they don't live in. | |
| ▲ | orthoxerox 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Not if the tax rate is base_rate*phi^n where n is the ordinal number of property the person owns. |
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| ▲ | palmfacehn 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Worker productivity has consistently increased, yet workers are struggling to support their families or delaying having a family, because they cannot meet the cost of living. Instead of looking towards the inflation of the monetary base as a driver of price inflation, families are supposed to let the state raise their children. Pricing parents out of the house and into the workforce is instead marketed as "liberation". Liberty implies that a choice is given. Mothers or fathers should have the ability to choose to stay home and benefit from the increases in productivity. Citing GDP growth is cute, but as nothing has been done to address the underlying drivers of price inflation, we can reasonably expect that socialized child care will become an economic necessity. Any potential benefits of productivity gains will continue to be eaten by those who are first to drink from the monetary spigot. While GDP and hours worked may increase, living standards may not. | | |
| ▲ | throwawayqqq11 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | And what choice do you have regarding rising cost of living? There are many public services we already rely on and there are many countries that offer free child care already in some form. What you call (forced) liberation is just societal specialization and not bad per se. Focusing on fiscal/wage issues is a big and important topic though. I bet over time, budget hawks will reduce this public service like others and like in many other countries too. We are so many humans on our plentyful earth, we could achieve many things, yet, "we" lack money. | |
| ▲ | janalsncm 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I’m 100% on board that GDP is increasingly becoming a poor proxy for well-being. That being said I can’t really think of many other things a state can do. The trends you are describing are national if not global. Also “having the state raise your children” sounds dystopian until you realize the alternative was them not being taken care of in many cases. Handing a kid an iPad is not raising them. |
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| ▲ | chongli 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I appreciate your optimism but I’m skeptical. I dated someone who worked in child care (with a degree in ECE). She was quite miserable caring for a dozen screaming babies all day. I think the burnout and turnover for such a job (which requires a degree but still paid minimum wage) is likely to be extremely high. The other thing that doesn’t make sense to me is the economics of it. The pay for the staff is very low but the cost of service to parents is very high. That means so much of the cost is overhead which would make the whole thing quite unsustainable, even when ostensibly covered by the government. I live in Canada and a similar issue is occurring with our universal health care system. The costs are skyrocketing even as wait times are increasing. | | |
| ▲ | ardit33 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | This is some weird logic. "I dated someone that didn't like to work on child care and therefore I don't think universal childcare is a good idea". Yeah, I dated someone that was a teacher and didn't like her job. Doesn't mean that we shouldn't provide education to kids. | |
| ▲ | nemomarx 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Burnout and turnover for teachers are also like that, so it's what you'd expect? maybe they can unionize like teachers though | | |
| ▲ | hedora 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | It sounds like she was a poor fit, or the child care center sucked. Try to find one that has long average tenure (10+ years, if possible). | | |
| ▲ | chongli 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Sure, if the place paid everyone a lot and had much higher staff:child ratios then everything would be great. Except it would cost an absolute fortune for parents thus even less viable under a government program. Government programs almost universally have higher overhead and more waste than private businesses. There is no incentive for government employees to improve efficiency, reduce budgets, or cut costs. | | |
| ▲ | hedora 2 days ago | parent [-] | | We didn’t notice a positive correlation between teacher tenure and cost when we looked around. If anything, there was a negative correlation: The big corporate ones had high teacher turnover, more levels of administration, and turned a healthy profit for ownership/shareholders. They were priced to match. Also, government run programs usually are less expensive (take pretty much any privatization program anywhere as an evidence). The government programs don’t have to pay money to shareholders, and aren’t siphoning resources for expansion, marketing, etc. If government leadership is corrupt as we see in the US right now, then, of course, prices skyrocket, though that usually comes hand in hand with outsourcing/subcontractors/privatization. It’s hard to collect bribe money from civil servants… |
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| ▲ | duxup 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I feel like unionizing really hasn't done much for teachers. They're paid poorly, the conditions are still poor, they don't seem to get much help. Yay teacher's union? | | |
| ▲ | no_wizard 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Teachers union(s) are some of the highest profile anti union targets in the US as well. There’s also issues on a structural level that leads to poor compensation for teachers vs other government positions. Really school funding and public education in the US in general is in a very strange place across the board and has been for decades | | |
| ▲ | duxup 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Maybe I'm missing something but I haven't seen a lot of teacher unions being broken so I'm not sure what you mean. The results for a given teacher are poor no matter what the reasons, it's a bad "hey get a union" rallying cry IMO. |
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| ▲ | lbschenkel 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Twelve is a quite high ratio of children to carer. In Sweden what is considered a healthy ratio is 5:1, and many places do meet that rate or are very close to it.
10:1 would be considered a very poor daycare, and most people wouldn't want to put their children on it — only if they have no other choice. Regarding pay being bad this happens over here as well, unfortunately. Teaching in general is not paid as much as it is worth. | |
| ▲ | LgWoodenBadger 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | What sort of huge overhead is there that dwarfs the pay for low-paid staff? | | |
| ▲ | chlodwig 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | - Extra-staffing of floaters to be able to give staff breaks or handle staff sick days or workers quitting
- Taxes
- Insurance
- Administrative staff to handle billing and compliance
- Facilities -- Rent, maintenance, HVAC. Adding to this, the facility might have to use expensive first floor space because the regulation requires them to be able to easily evacuate kids who can't down stairs on their own.
- Profits/Owner-operator salary (anyone who can own and operate a successful high-quality day-care with five classrooms could command 6 figures salary on the private market) | |
| ▲ | kubb 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Most likely profits of the daycare owners + pay for the magagement (the director or whatever) + rent for the location. |
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| ▲ | ambicapter 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Maybe babies aren't meant to be cared for a dozen at a time? But no, we have to "scale" child-rearing, just like we have to scale everything for greater growth numbers. \s | | |
| ▲ | papyrus9244 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Babies, just like adults, are extremely social animals. And they absolutely need to interact with a bunch of other people their age, even more than us. Daily, and for a long period of time. An hour at the park doesn't cut it, and being all day with a sibling doesn't either. So beyond everyone going back to a Neolithic way of life and living in a bunch of straw teepees all bundled close together, daycare is the best solution I've found to this need. Just as an example, my oldest has been besties with another kid since they were both 7 months old. | | |
| ▲ | ndriscoll 2 days ago | parent [-] | | As a counter-example, neither of my kids really acknowledged other kids in any way at that age (and other infants ignored them right back). A quick Internet search suggests it's normal for them to not interact with other kids until after 12+ months. This was a point of contention with my wife and MIL because my MIL would complain we weren't "socializing" our oldest enough when she was an infant despite clearly never having looked up anything about childhood development. That and we did take her out all the time. She just wasn't in daycare. The thing about stay-at-home parents is they don't literally stay at home all day. |
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| ▲ | undersuit 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I would expect larger groups of young children to require more even ratios of care takers. I don't know if 3 care takers per 12 children is enough for instance, but I've got a feeling 9 care takers for 36 children is not enough. | | |
| ▲ | j_w 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Depends on the state. My state is 1:3 for under 2, 1:6 for 2-3, and then 1:10 for 3-5. Presumably after that you're out of child care and into school. Ratios get more complex when it's a mixed group, but most childcare centers are going to have children separate based on age. These ratios seem reasonable to me. Much better than the 1:25 in elementary school. |
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| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > because it will show how much an economy can grow when women are allowed to work to their full potential This feels like the wrong goal. Why does it matter how much an economy can grow? Is that worth not having a parent raise the child? In my opinion, it’s important for kids to spend more time with their families not less. Having one parent at home is very useful for bonding, development, etc. And frankly no childcare, even one with good ratios of workers to children, can substitute for it. I think the notion that “if the children are taken care of” is perhaps not recognizing that there are different levels of “taken care of”. | | |
| ▲ | gwbas1c 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I stayed at home with my mom until I was old enough for school. My wife and I sent our kids to daycare. Our kids are fine. Turns out kids need a lot of time with other kids. | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It turns out that kids raised by their parents still get a lot of time with other kids though. Their parents don’t just keep them at home. They meet with friends. Go out and play. Their parents take them to classes and activities. Your view is “our kids are fine”, but most parents may say that about their own kids without knowing what the alternative could be. I’ve experienced both situations myself and also observed it as an adult. I think most childcare is a lot more of a free for all than parents think, rather than some sort of well designed experience. If you reduce the ratios significantly by having two kids per worker, maybe the quality improves to approach what a parent can provide. But that’s a lot more expensive. |
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| ▲ | shafyy 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > I hope they succeed and there is no abuse or other issues, because it will show how much an economy can grow I know you are meaning well, but while the economy growing can be a nice side effect of this (and probably is), I always find it a bit sad when economic profit is used as a reason to justify to create a more fair and equal society. It's similar with those studies showing hiring a diverse workforce is actually good for your business. It might be, but, like, it's also the right thing to do to not discriminate against minorities. | | |
| ▲ | bialpio 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > I know you are meaning well, but while the economy growing can be a nice side effect of this (and probably is), I always find it a bit sad when economic profit is used as a reason to justify to create a more fair and equal society. Unfortunately, this is how some people think, so phrasing things in this manner is a way to win them over ("paying a bit more in taxes is actually going to benefit you"). |
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| ▲ | fragmede 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | There will obviously be abuse and other issues. The question is, does New Mexico give up at the first sign of trouble like a bunch of losers, or do they push through, because of, or despite all the voters. It just takes one shitty person, in just the wrong place, and not enough good people fighting against him or her no matter, (or especially)
how righteous he or she thinks they're being, to fuck it up for everyone else. | |
| ▲ | giantg2 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I suppose if maximizing GDP is the goal, your comment makes sense. But if feel this is more of a bandaid of deeper underlying labor/pay issues. | |
| ▲ | gedy 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I think this just makes it harder for single income families tbh. Not a social or moral commentary, just unfortunate observation | | |
| ▲ | ksenzee 2 days ago | parent [-] | | How so? What do they have now that they will be losing under the new system? It seems like having childcare paid for would be beneficial to any single working parent. |
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| ▲ | bcrosby95 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Any system, program, or social group involving tens of thousands of people is going to have issues. But if you systematize it you can work to address them rather than ignoring them in search of the perfect system (which doesn't exist). | |
| ▲ | WalterBright 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | My mom was a full time mom and I wouldn't trade that for anything. | | |
| ▲ | ksenzee 2 days ago | parent [-] | | That’s great, but not every mom is your mom. You just lucked out. This is like saying “my dad was a doctor and we lived very well and I wouldn’t trade that for anything.” Some dads aren’t cut out to be highly paid professionals. Some moms aren’t cut out to be good stay-at-home parents. | | |
| ▲ | WalterBright 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > Some moms aren’t cut out to be good stay-at-home parents That would be a rarity. | | |
| ▲ | ksenzee 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Just because women have been shunted into childcare for millennia doesn’t mean we’re naturally better at it. It just means we’ve had to do it. Do you similarly think it’s a rarity for men not to be cut out for subsistence farming? | | |
| ▲ | WalterBright 2 days ago | parent [-] | | The bond between a mother and her child is very special and intense. That doesn't happen with a paid caregiver. Heck, I was glued to my mom till I was 4. I'm sad for you that you don't seem to understand this, with words like "shunted". My parents are decades gone, but I miss them every day. Not so for any paid caregiver. My grandmother died when my dad was 9. In his 90s, he forgot that she was dead, and would cry wondering why she didn't visit him. The notion that this can be replaced with the state is absurd. | | |
| ▲ | ksenzee 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Firstly, I am a mother with two children, so no need to educate me about the bond between mother and child. Secondly, of course children love their parents. You seem to be conflating parenting with daytime childcare. This is a common misconception among people who romanticize stay-at-home parenting: it’s either “mom stays home during the workday with kids” or “the state raises the kids.” You may not be aware, since you say your mom stayed home with you, that parents whose kids are in daycare do still get a lot of parenting time in. They see their kids a lot. They feed them, clothe them, kiss their scraped knees, help them with homework, put them to bed, take them to the park and movies and church. Daycare isn’t 24/7. It’s also not some kind of robotic state-sponsored apparatus. Childcare providers are people who have chosen taking care of kids as their career, they often have a degree in early childhood education, and they love the kids they take care of. And I do not apologize for the word “shunted.” No woman in a modern society should be forced to choose between having a child and being something other than a full-time childcare provider. Men don’t face that choice; women shouldn’t either. | | |
| ▲ | WalterBright 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > forced Let me look ... I wrote nothing like that. > they often have a degree in early childhood education Nobody needs a degree in early childhood education. It comes naturally to parents. Childcare professionals may develop a bond with the kids, but it's nothing like the bond a mom has. | | |
| ▲ | ksenzee 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I'm the one asserting that women have been forced into childcare for millennia. It's the default state in the absence of societal support. > It comes naturally to parents. _Love_ comes naturally to parents. Almost nothing else does, in my experience. You are extrapolating from an incomplete dataset. Again, your mom being good at the job of staying home with kids does not make other moms good at it. You are talking to a mom who isn't. I do, in fact, exist. I am asserting that my family, and society, are better off because I had a choice of career. I guarantee my kids would agree. It has nothing to do with how much I love them, and everything to do with my aptitude for homemaking and preschool childcare. |
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| ▲ | habinero 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Those are nice feelings _you_ have, but they don't have anything to do with women being forced into childcare. You're romanticizing things you never had to do. |
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| ▲ | prewett 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > parents can give the economy their best Surely parents should be giving their child(ren) the best, no? Giving the economy your best only makes sense in Communism, and since that has never gone well, I'll assume that what was meant was "self-fulfillment via work" or "better standard of living". The first just seems like one of these modern lies. I'm neither a mother nor a woman, but I've never understood why women are so eager to go work. Work has never been particularly fulfilling, although I have generally more or less enjoyed it. I've met no father (or mother) who say they wished they had more time at work rather than their children. I have heard both fathers and mothers say that it is the most fulfilling part of their lives. The second is just prioritizing the self. I've never met a child who was excited that his/her parent(s) are working and/or making lots of money instead of being with them. I don't think a goal of career or comfort/wealth is compatible with flourishing children. Second, are the children actually taken care of? Assuming everything is well-run, then sure, their physical needs and safety are taken care of. They aren't getting love from parents during that time. They aren't living in a loving community. Instead they are getting socialized into being atomized, like the rest of us, where loneliness is epidemic. I'm really thankful my mother stayed home with us. (She started teaching part-time once we all got into all-day school) | | |
| ▲ | ksenzee 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > I’ve never understood why women are so eager to go work. Work has never been particularly fulfilling Understandable, but the thing is, staying home with kids is work. It’s a vocation. Everyone should get to choose what work is fulfilling for them personally. In the absence of reliable child care, parents don’t get to make that choice freely. It sounds like in a perfect world, you might have enjoyed staying home with kids, if that seems more appealing than the work you ended up doing. I can tell you I tried it for 18 months and I just about went crazy. I am a much better software developer than I am a stay-at-home parent. I feel for women who don’t get to make choices the way I did. > are the children actually taken care of? There is a lot of data by now comparing outcomes for children in childcare versus with stay-at-home parents. Both groups do fine. > I’m really thankful my mother stayed home with us It sounds like she did a good job of it; it was probably a vocation for her. You do need to understand that not every woman is cut out for that. | |
| ▲ | habinero 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > I've never understood why women are so eager to go work You're romanticizing it, that's why. Staying at home and not working makes you incredibly vulnerable. You're entirely reliant on the goodwill of someone else, and you can end up trapped, unable to leave a bad situation because you have no access to money. Or your husband just leaves you with kids to feed and no money to do it with. It's fine if you choose to do it with a partner who treats you as an equal, but there's a reason why female suicides instantly dropped by 20%[0] when no-fault divorce was adopted by their state. If you want another data point, ask your older female relatives what their mothers and grandmothers told them about money. Bet you more than a few will have a story where they were told to save money in a secret place and never, ever tell their husbands about it. [0] https://www.nber.org/papers/w10175 |
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| ▲ | erichocean 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > because it will show how much an economy can grow bleak | |
| ▲ | WD-42 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | You realize a lot of people actually prefer to give their child their best instead of outsourcing it so they can focus on bettering the economy, right? | | |
| ▲ | Aurornis 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > You realize a lot of people actually prefer to give their child their best instead of outsourcing it My wife and I staggered our work schedules to minimize the time spent at daycare. The one thing we didn’t expect: The kids absolutely loved daycare. It was a great place with excellent caretakers. Most of all, it was socialization with their friends. From reading sneering interment comments (like the one above) I was led to believe that daycare would be an awful experience and I should feel guilty for sending our kids away. Instead, it turned out to be a very fun thing they looked forward to that was also great for their development. Our kids still hang out with friends they made early in daycare days. | | |
| ▲ | underbluewaters 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | This was surprising to me too. I think there was some guilt around having a child and not spending 100% of our time caring for them. The reality was that quality daycare teachers have a lot of experience and a support network that enables them to create a great environment for learning. Socializing with peers from a young age was a huge benefit. While I'm sure they'll catch up, when observing kids the same age who hadn't been to "school" yet, it was clear that these kids hadn't developed at the same rate.
Even if I had all the resources in the world, I'd still send my kids to a good daycare vs trying to replicate these learning opportunities at home. | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > The kids absolutely loved daycare. It was a great place with excellent caretakers. Most of all, it was socialization with their friends. People who stay at home and take care of their own kids aren’t skipping socialization. They still participate in various activities where there are other kids. But, the kids do get a lot higher quality care from stay at home parents than a daycare can afford. If you stay at the daycare and observe things, you’ll see how difficult it is for the workers to split attention. Oh and you get a lot less illness if avoiding daycare. And that regained time, is development time and time to go do fun things. | | |
| ▲ | jajuuka 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | This is buying into the idea of rugged individualism when it comes to parenting. That all a child needs is their parents and that time away from children is a failure of parents. This couldn't be further from the truth. Many studies show that children raised in a cooperative environment where they are exposed to various people and practices from extended family, professionals, teachers, etc help reinforce social connectedness. Not to mention parents have more to them to simply being parents. Their own desires, wants, and needs. Balancing these with being parents leads to the more fulfillment. | | |
| ▲ | SilverElfin 2 days ago | parent [-] | | This feels like a strawman. I didn’t say that “all a child needs is their parents”. I am saying however, that parents in most cases will provide higher quality care and more attention to their child than what a daycare can provide. Have you tried watching 3 kids simultaneously? It’s just not possible even in the controlled environment of a daycare room. Kids that are raised by parents aren’t in a bubble - they’re still going out and meeting with other families and kids and doing things. The notion that children raised by parents are not exposed is itself a common myth used to diminish the value of parents. | | |
| ▲ | jajuuka 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Saying "that parents in most cases will provide higher quality care and more attention to their child" and that it's not possible to watch 3 kids simultaneously is reinforcement of "all a child needs is their parents". It's laughably false and shows your ignorance on this subject. Putting parents on a pedestal is not good for children or parents. Please take a look at research on this subject. |
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| ▲ | vel0city 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > the kids do get a lot higher quality care from stay at home parents than a daycare can afford Maybe, but definitely not always. There's a lot of variables with this logic. My wife and I aren't trained early childhood educators. We didn't spend years studying such things, we haven't been doing this for many years, and we aren't always as equipped with things like lesson plans and educational development attainment goals. Without a doubt, every child is different, different kids grow in their own spurts and what not. But when we took our kids out of daycare for my wife to stay at home and tend to the kids after our youngest was born, we had our oldest remain in twice a week daycare so my wife could spend more time focusing on our infant at the time. His growth trajectory definitely fell. He wasn't able to keep up with a lot of his classmates, even though it had just been a single semester. He wasn't as happy, and his connections with his close friends he had known since he was barely able to walk were clearly fraying despite attempts to schedule as many play dates. Our youngest wasn't progressing as fast as others we knew from the daycare. In the end we put both kids back in full-time once my wife managed to find similar employment again. Once both kids were back in full time, it was almost night and day difference. Our oldest child was noticeably much happier. He quickly caught back up with the class and had those friendships restored. Similar story with our youngest. We also tend to hang out with a lot of at-home families as well. Most of the kids I know from our school seem significantly ahead in logic and socialization skills compared to most of the kids I know who stay at-home. Not all, for sure, I know a few families who are exceptionally great at being educators for their kids. But I also know many families who try very hard but ultimately aren't that great in comparison. Not everyone is a good teacher, and that's OK. In the end, we're not as effective of educators for our kids, it's just not what we're necessarily great at doing. So, they spend time with people who are. And we continue to try and do our best with them at home as well with things they aren't taught in school. |
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| ▲ | hnlmorg 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Exactly this. There are so many benefits to day care for the children. It’s hardly the prison camp people make it out to be. I don’t know if these negative comments are because HN in general dislikes the wider educational system, or if it’s because they dislike governments handing out “charity” to help less affluent families. Maybe a touch of both? But daycare can actually be a really rewarding experience for children. So much so, that I have parent friends who one of them is a stay-at-home parent and they still send their child to day care at least one day a week to help the child’s independence, social skills and comfort when away from home. And they’ve found their child has been better for the experience Edit: and the fact that I’ve been downvoted within seconds of posting this shows how ridiculous people are on here when it comes this topic. | | |
| ▲ | titanomachy 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | There probably are some pretty bad daycares out there, with overworked and burnt-out caretakers. But yeah my friends with kids mostly say the same thing, their kids love it. | |
| ▲ | programjames 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | For me at least, it's a general dislike of the wider educational system. My parents taught me to read, play chess, multiply, and write in cursive before elementary school. I didn't really learn anything at preschool or kindergarten, and I imagine daycare would be worse for my educational development. Maybe it's useful for social development? but at least for me I was always pretty independent (even in kindergarten) from the other kids. Not in an isolated way, I just preferred doing my own thing. | | |
| ▲ | hnlmorg 2 days ago | parent [-] | | This might be a difference between the US and UK? Preschools in the UK have curriculums they have to follow. That includes maths, reading and writing too. I’m not going to comment on preschools in your country, but in the UK the kids who attended preschool are IN GENERAL the stronger students, socially, emotionally, and academically, when it comes to starting infants/ elementary school. Particularly in the less affluent areas. Though there might be some selection bias here too due to the kinds of parents who can sand their child to daycare verses those who cannot. | | |
| ▲ | programjames 2 days ago | parent [-] | | In the less affluent areas, I'd expect children not attending daycare to just not be getting anything at home. Presumably their parents are both working and cannot afford daycare. In the more affluent areas, I'd expect children only don't attend daycare if their parents prioritize their children over their jobs, and so they'd be getting much more positive attention than in a daycare. But, of course, we'd have to see a study differentiated by socioeconomic status to see what is actually the case. | | |
| ▲ | vel0city 2 days ago | parent [-] | | We prioritized our kids. In the end, what worked better for our kids was for us to earn enough income to send them to really nice daycare/preschool for several hours a day. |
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| ▲ | marknutter 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | There is something sad about not spending as much time as you possibly can with your children in their younger years, though. | | |
| ▲ | hnlmorg 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | You can still have quality time with your children AND send them to day care. It’s not like boarding school where you’d only see them during the holidays ;) | |
| ▲ | criddell 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Are you open to the idea that spending every possible moment with your young child may not be the best thing for the kid? | | |
| ▲ | throwway120385 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I think this is a leading question and you should probably clarify why you're asking it. More specifically, what situation leads you to believe that it's not totally fine to spend a lot of time with your pre-adolescent children? I think there are a wide variety of living situations that all result in pretty well-adjusted children. |
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| ▲ | underbluewaters 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I think it's healthy for parents to have other pursuits. Not everyone is 100% fulfilled hanging out with young children all day, and that's perfectly fine. Even with daycare, parents are spending a substantial portion of their time with their children. |
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| ▲ | darth_avocado 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Even if you’re stay at home unemployed person, a daycare will do more for your child’s development than you would be able to. Kids need socialization, they learn from their peers as much as they learn from adults. | | |
| ▲ | throwway120385 2 days ago | parent [-] | | You can also take them to events at the public libraries and other places, at least in my area. They're often called "Library Story Times" and they're free where we live. That's what my spouse does. There's a very wide spectrum of social activities available even for kids of stay-at-home parents. She will often get together with other parents and let our son socialize with their children too. | | |
| ▲ | darth_avocado 2 days ago | parent [-] | | That’s fair and I’m sure your spouse covers the need for socialization, however these options aren’t available everywhere and not all parents are going to take their kids for these events every day. Having a venue that you don’t need to plan for 5x times a week is always going to be a great default. |
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| ▲ | dzink 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | And with this option they can have that choice. Right now, many don’t. | | |
| ▲ | Ajedi32 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | With this option, they are now financially penalized for making that choice in order to subsidize those who don't. I'm not so sure that's a good thing. | | |
| ▲ | mcbobgorge 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | My wife and I have no interest in ever having children, yet we are happy to pay property taxes that go to local public schools. Why? Because an educated society is better able to make educated decisions. We are being "penalized" for making the choice to not have kids in order to "subsidize" those who don't. | | |
| ▲ | Ajedi32 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Correct. It all comes down to whether you believe parents leaving home to work on their careers instead of staying home to raise their kids is an unambiguous good that needs to be subsidized the same way education is. | | |
| ▲ | 9rx 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Assuming by education you actually mean schooling, this is the very same thing. The question is really only about at which age subsidized schooling should first start. This moves that age of first subsidized engagement to approximately birth, as opposed to waiting until age ~3-5 (varies by jurisdiction). Historically it was considered a beneficial necessity to gather the children to write down knowledge so that it could be brought back home for the whole family to learn from, but in the age of the internet perhaps separating children and parents is never good at any (young-ish) age? | | |
| ▲ | Ajedi32 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I think the biggest difference isn't age, it's that childcare also happens during the summer, not just during the school year. (And of course the lack of any particular educational curriculum.) | | |
| ▲ | 9rx 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Is that a meaningful difference, though? Schools were originally open all year round, but the hot summer classroom eventually was deemed an unsuitable place to occupy, thus schools decided to compromise by closing during the hottest months. Since the advent of air-conditioning, there really isn't any good reason to close schools during the summer. But, like the internet bit before, we've just never bothered to stop and actually think about what we're doing. We carry on with the status quo simply because that's what we did in the past. Not because it makes sense, just because that's what we do. But in establishing subsidized daycare now, we don't have to think about the time before air-conditioning was invented. We only have to worry about the constraints we have today. Hot summers are not a practical problem as of right now. |
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| ▲ | Muromec 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | This exact mindset of minmaxing everything is how the society stops having kids. | | |
| ▲ | Ajedi32 2 days ago | parent [-] | | People are going to respond to incentives whether you think they should or not. I think it's less "mindsets" that have changed so much as the incentives themselves. People no longer need to have kids in order to have sex or to have a comfortable retirement, so many simply don't. Though I'd agree there's certainly a mindset shift that has developed along with that. | | |
| ▲ | Muromec 2 days ago | parent [-] | | There is responding to incentives and there is adopting 10 kids to farm child subsidy/benefits. |
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| ▲ | nerpderp82 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Can you spell it out with math? | | |
| ▲ | Ajedi32 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Tax $100 each from couple A and couple B. Couple A leave their kids at a daycare and work. They get $200 in childcare costs reimbursed by the government. Couple B has one parent stay home to take care of their kids. They get nothing. Couple A: -$100 + $200 = +$100 Couple B: -$100 + $0 = -$100 | | |
| ▲ | stackskipton 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Sure and under income taxes, Couple B probably pays much less since US income tax structure is gives massive benefits to couples with single income. It may not be enough to offset joint income. As with most economic changes, there is massive web of things. | | |
| ▲ | Ajedi32 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > US income tax structure is gives massive benefits to couples with single income It gives massive structural advantages to couples with low income, in the form of a lower marginal tax rate. Does it really discriminate between single and dual income though? I wasn't aware of that. | | |
| ▲ | WD-42 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It does not. Filing jointly just saves some hassle in the case where the partners are in the same tax bracket. |
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| ▲ | WD-42 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Yea and I think that’s great. OP makes it sound like every parent is pining to contribute to the churning of capitalism if only they didn’t have to worry about raising a child. It’s not so. | | |
| ▲ | Aurornis 2 days ago | parent [-] | | > every parent is pining to contribute to the churning of capitalism People don’t want to work because they’re “pining to contribute to the churning of capitalism”. They want to work for income, for career development, or even because they like what they do. This is such a dismissive way to phrase it that doesn’t even acknowledge why people work. Reducing everything to “capitalism” is missing the point. |
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| ▲ | unethical_ban 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | What an insulting way to phrase that. For a single parent, providing the needed money to survive and eat requires working, and child care can be impossibly expensive. | | |
| ▲ | KaoruAoiShiho 2 days ago | parent [-] | | They should give money that can be used on anything instead of specifically for healthcare. That way you can choose to take care of your kids yourself and put that money towards food than having to work and then outsource childcare. |
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| ▲ | mrkeen 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | It's an interesting way to divide up a country's labour. 50% do child rearing, and the other 50% do literally all other professions. If you did have such a large cohort engaged in that activity, there should probably be some kind of education where one could learn 'the best'. Of course people with kids would be too busy to attend. And the ones who did attend wouldn't have any kids to look after. | | |
| ▲ | WD-42 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | I work part time nights/weekends so I can raise my child during the day. Which 50% does that put me in? | |
| ▲ | kbelder 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | >50% do child rearing, and the other 50% do literally all other professions. That's not that revolutionary; it's kind of traditional. | | |
| ▲ | Windchaser 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I don't think it's quite accurate. Historically, lower-class mothers and a fair chunk of middle class mothers also did some work outside the home: as maids, nannies, teachers, gardeners, etc. The 1950s USA "golden era" where lower-class mothers could afford to stay home was a statistical anomaly, gifted to this country by virtue of our unique position as the major economic superpower untouched by WWII. |
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| ▲ | micromacrofoot 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Yes and we should make that easier as well. Many people don't make enough money to have that choice. | |
| ▲ | fph 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | A lot of parents think they are better at educating their kids than a trained professional. But are they right? |
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| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | You don't understand how economics work if you think this is actually going to be helpful.
By providing "universal" child care, you just moved the cost of childcare from the individual to the tax base so now everyone has to pay an ineffifient system that often eats up 30-50% of the incoming money in bureaucratic inneficiencies before it will even reach the child care system. On top of that the increased taxes are going to raise prices of everything because the businesses don't just eat the cost of taxes, they pass it off to the consumer. So all these families that get free childcare are going to be paying more for their groceries, rent, unilities and everything else. To top things off, you now have random strangers with no bond with your children looking after them in a ratio of maybe 1:8 or 1:10. So your children are going to be stressed out and anxious and are going to act out both at the childcare place and at home, so you're just going to be getting phone calls all day about your children fighting other children. All in all, you might feel like you're better off but once you do the math you're at about the same place if not worse off. | | |
| ▲ | sensanaty 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Yes, surely the hyper efficient free market is much better here, not like we have decades of proof of the perverse incentives there. We should instead ensure every mother is crippled with life-long medical debt if their kid needs any help! Also if we care so much about these inefficiencies, why is it that I still have to subsidize drivers? Why aren't we investing in better public transport infrastructure, rather than letting drivers take up 1000x the space on roads that I'm forced to pay for? | | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I don't see any mention of free markets in your post.
The healthcare industry is not a free market, they are handicapped by regulatiom and by law are required to provide health insurance to anyone that wants it and cannot reject anyone. Of course prices are going to be stiffling when they have to give you insurance no matter your pre-existing conditions and no matter the choices you make |
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| ▲ | ericfr11 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I just use my bike: why should I pay taxes for roads maintenance. Unfortunately, a society is not just about economics | | |
| ▲ | EvanAnderson 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > I just use my bike: why should I pay taxes for roads maintenance. Most US states pay for a significant fraction of road maintenance from motor fuel taxes ("road tax"). You probably aren't paying those taxes if you're in the US and you don't buy motor fuel. Increased EV adoption is likely going to change that regime. | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | You wouldn't have to if the government didn't own the roads. Plenty of examples of this, private companies creating their own roads and charging people a small fee to use them so they can maintain them. Wouldn't be that hard give people a little device that tracks the roads they use and charges them $0.05 per mile that they drive and then have the company be a co-op that's owned by the people living in that town. | | |
| ▲ | xboxnolifes 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Perfect way to introduce new national road middlemen: the tracking device manufacturer, the road geolabeling software company, and each road owner. A local co-op would never last. If it could, we'd see far more local co-ops. | | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It's hard to compete against multinational conglomerates that get tax cuts and tax breaks left and right, but they do exist, eh: REI, Ace Hardware, Land O' Lakes. |
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| ▲ | nemomarx 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | You could say all of this about public schooling, but that one worked out. | | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It has not at all.
20% of high school graduates are reading at a 5th grade level, which when you consider the billions of dollars poured into public schools every year is just asinine
https://www.abtaba.com/blog/us-literacy-statistics | | |
| ▲ | ecshafer 2 days ago | parent [-] | | US school outcomes vary drastically. It really works out well in nice neighborhoods, and doesn't work out in some bad neighborhoods. Its down to cultural and familial expectations. Why does the same curriculum in say Scarsdale not have the same success in the Bronx? They are only like 15 miles apart in the same state. | | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent [-] | | The nice neighborhoods have parents that prioritize spending with their children, reading with them and helping them work through things they are struggling with and due to that they then score better on the standardized tests. The curriculum is just a net zero, and could be argued that it's a net negative because it wastes the kids time with useless knowledge that they will never need or use. |
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| ▲ | s46dxc5r7tv8 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Please post the math then, instead of wild conjecture and speculation about cause and effect. | | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent [-] | | That's the thing. Nobody ever does the math on what these kind of programs cost society. The long term economic impacts that this will put on other families due to increased taxes, the businesses that might go under because they had to raise prices to cope with increased taxes, the business that never get created due to increased taxes, the other families that are now going to be struggling because they're a 1 income family and they now have to pay for everyone else's kids in addition to the care of their own children that they provide for and don't want to offloat to be taken care of by strangers, etc. etc. |
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| ▲ | justinrubek 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Oh no, society will have to bear the cost of the infrastructure to maintain itself rather than reap the benefits of a population without putting back into. How terrible. | | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It doesn't work that way.
The US Welfare programs have created multi generational families that have never worked and do not have any parents or grandparents that have ever worked a real job because if anyone did they would risk losing $100k's worth of free benefits to work a minimum wage job that would only pay them $30k.
It has created a permanant underclass of people with no job skills that are wholly dependant on the system for their survival. This is just an extension of that. | | |
| ▲ | lotsoweiners 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Would love to know where you’re getting this figure from. I worked in the welfare field before moving into tech (and my wife still does) and the payout for TANF plus SNAP for a single mother with like 5 kids would be closer to your $30k than the $100k. Of course that begs the question why work for it if you can get it for free but I believe TANF has a lifetime payout of like 5 years meaning that if the kids get it as a child they will not qualify for that TANF for themselves as an adult. | | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Ok, now be genuine about the other benefits they're most likely receiving as well:
- Medicaid
- Section8
- WIC
- LIHEAP
- LIFELINE
Just to name a few. I also worked for a non profit that helped people get government assistance and got an inside look at what these families are like and what they prioritize. |
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| ▲ | doctorwho42 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I think you are using a whataboutism argument. In this case the childcare benefit will be universal, as in it is NOT means tested like your example. | | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent [-] | | It may not be means tested, but it will be utilized primarily by families on welfare, and lower income families and in the long term by middle class families who become lower income due to government subsidized programs like these forcing them to pay more for their daily necessities through an increased tax burden. | | |
| ▲ | ksenzee 2 days ago | parent [-] | | You have clearly not shopped for childcare on the open market. Highly paid professionals still struggle to get childcare. Putting more resources into the system will be a net positive for all parents who need childcare. | | |
| ▲ | KetoManx64 2 days ago | parent [-] | | No it won't. Just like putting billions of dollars into the Public School System has not led to any real increase in test scores. And just like Universal healthcare has made healthcare plans just about unaffordable for anyone not working a corporate job and just like government student loans have made the price of college asinine and I could go on and on. |
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| ▲ | bluGill 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Why the sexist word "women"? Do you really mean to imply that men/fathers should not be stay at home dads? I know several stay at home dads who by all reports do a very good job of raising their kids while mom works. (granted the vast majority of stay at home parents are mothers). Fathers are people too, and they should be treated like the great parents they can be (until proven otherwise). | | |
| ▲ | dataflow 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | >> when women are allowed to work to their full potential > Why the sexist word "women"? Do you really mean to imply that men/fathers should not be stay at home dads? That's... not even remotely what the sentence said? Or are you offended because you believe childcare obligations have historically prevented men from working their full potential? | | |
| ▲ | bluGill 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Women was used in several different places. Each is offensive, because in each case a man could do the same work, and the work could be done. I have no opinion on if a man or woman should be caregiver - I've seen both cases work well - every situation must be taken case by case. What does full potential even mean? If someone wants to do something, but they have to do something else or they would starve (that is play vs work) which is living up to their full potential - what they want to do, or what they must do? |
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| ▲ | tuckerman 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I mean, I’m a gay dad, so I get that what you are saying is a real problem, but I don’t think it’s a problem in this thread. If you had a goal of improving women’s ability to participate in the workforce you’d likely come up with a policy like this (that would also help some dads too, even if that weren’t the primary goal). Women are far more likely to be the primary, stay at home caregiver if one exists and face a lot of discrimination in the workforce as a result of those expectations (on top of already facing other workplace discrimination issues). |
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| ▲ | alt227 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | > it will show how much an economy can grow when women are allowed to work to their full potential Why bring gender into it? There are plenty of families who choose to have stay at home Dads while the mother goes back to work full time. We are not in the 1950s any more. | | |
| ▲ | JKCalhoun 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | I would suspect the numbers show we're closer to the 1950's than you think. But I'm happy to be proven wrong. | | |
| ▲ | bluGill 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Even if it is only 5% stay at home fathers, that is still 5% that is ignored. Staying at home as a parent isn't the right choice for everyone, but when society assumes that it is only mothers that is a disservice to the fathers who want to (and in some cases the couples who want a parent staying at home but it never occurs to them that it could be dad) |
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| ▲ | inetknght 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | I'm not sure why you're getting downvoted. I'm hopeful that the parent comment simply didn't think about Dads because it's not in their "worldview", and perhaps also not in many others'. Nonetheless, I think your point is completely valid. |
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