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danielrmay 2 hours ago

I had 10 years of work experience and had been married to my wife for two years, together for five, when I applied for my spousal visa. We had already gone through the UK visa process to bring her there, but decided we wanted to try the USA.

Despite being able to show 10 years of consistent working history with income far exceeding the minimum, because I didn’t have a job lined up in the US (who would, or could, in that scenario?) we had to ask my wife's elderly parents to sign affidavits of support to prove I wouldn’t become a "public charge".

There were several times where we felt so insulted by the process, the length, the cost, the targeting from scammy law firms, that we almost gave up. People who have never been through the legal immigration process don't quite understand the amount of work it requires and stress it causes. I feel for the thousands of people who now have little certainty over their futures, and it feels necessary to say: people who come here to contribute their skills and experience don't all come along on an H1-B/L1, nor do they only come from white or european countries.

beAbU 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Simila in Ireland: you are not allowed to seek work while in Ireland on a holiday visa, you can only apply for work permissions/visas from outside the country, and depending on the type of visa you get (general work vs critical skills), your spouse might have to wait a year before they can join you.

CalRobert an hour ago | parent [-]

Note - I immigrated to Ireland from the US and went through the visa process (including huddling in the cold in January at 4 AM at burgh quay, and years later, writing a scraper for their insanely bad appointment system that managed to actually be worse than huddling in the cold)

It's pretty normal not to be able to look for work on a tourist visa in most countries - are you suggesting this is unusual? As far as spouses, they used to have an incredibly asinine system where they told you your spouse _could_ work, without sponsorship, if they got a special form, but getting this form was de facto impossible. It was a very Irish approach, in retrospect. The campaign to fix this was, eventually, successful. (https://reformstamp3.wixsite.com/home)

AnotherGoodName 4 minutes ago | parent [-]

Fwiw I’ve seen confused or misleading posters reply to this change with statements along the lines of ‘this only means that they don’t allow tourist to apply for greencards in the country’.

Which is nonsense, it applies to all non immigrant visas such as work visas. But it’s a line you’ll see various people try to claim as if this isn’t devastating to every spouse of a us citizen who now can’t get a greencard without leaving their us based job and family.

philipallstar 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

This is pretty normal for most countries' visa processes. You often have to leave to renew a visa.

jimkleiber an hour ago | parent | next [-]

I think the biggest question the US needs to ask itself is do we want to be normal like most countries or better?

petcat an hour ago | parent [-]

USA has been far better for over 100 years. But that had to end at some point. So now we're seeing it end.

epistasis an hour ago | parent | next [-]

It did not "have" to end, it's merely a political choice by one political faction being forced upon the entire nation.

behringer a few seconds ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Far better than who?

platevoltage 26 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

DO you have a good reason why?

petcat 16 minutes ago | parent [-]

Because the industrialization of America is over, and has been for decades. USA doesn't need low-wage, immigrant workers anymore. The railroads have already been built, the fields have been plowed, and now that's all done by big automated machines. Everything that cheap workers used to do that was valuable is now automated.

striking 7 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

Who does the farming? Who does the cleaning? Who builds the buildings? Who are the line cooks? That should be obvious.

But it should be just as obvious that there are plenty of immigrants who are also necessary because they bring new ideas, their education, their incredible work ethic, to fill in the gaps that the US clearly has.

There is one thing that unites all of us (and I do mean us, as I am one of them). We all dream of a society where our hard work can become prosperity for ourselves and for everyone else, a plot of fertile soil that is worth sowing. We all come here with a dream.

And I personally don't mind so much that I'm uplifting people that don't agree with my existence. I just wish that they could stay out of our way so we could all benefit.

dangus 4 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

List of low-wage immigrant workers:

Melania Trump

Boris Epshteyn

Elaine Chao

Elon Musk

Ted Cruz

Vivek Ramaswamy

Bobby Jindal

Nikki Haley

David Sacks

Sriram Krishnan

Jensen Huang

Satya Nadella

huxley an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

Nah, there was just more economic activity to draw people in. By every other measure it’s been more hostile than average.

But you are right that it is ending, just wrong about what: it’s the high economic activity that attracted people which is disappearing thanks to the same people that hate migrants.

woodruffw an hour ago | parent [-]

> By every other measure it’s been more hostile than average.

I'm not sure there's a "just" here: compared to peer countries, the US is either middle-of-the-pack[1] or significantly more accepting of immigrants[2] depending on which number you pick.

(This isn't to somehow imply that the US isn't hostile to its immigrants, because it is. But the question is whether it's more hostile.)

[1]: https://www.visualcapitalist.com/charted-the-share-of-foreig...

[2]: https://www.oecd.org/en/data/indicators/stocks-of-foreign-bo...

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jmyeet an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Sorry but this is just patently untrue. Are you American? Because in my experience, most Americans just don't realize how arbitrary and capricious the US immigration system is.

Pick any other developed country and the process is generally fairly simple. With some you can just apply for a temporary work visa (possibly without a job) or just apply to immigrate. If you stay in many places long enough on a temporary visa you pretty much get residency and ultimately citizenship.

Beyond what's possible, the time frames for doing anything with US immigration is ridiculously long. Like if you, as a US citizen marry someone overseas it can take upwards of 4 years to get a green card for your spouse and they won't be able to visit the US at all in that time. Why? Because filing a marriage petition means you've shown "immigrant intent" so you'll never get a visit visa (B1/B2) again. Also, the president may well just ban your country from getting any visa. 75 countries are currently on that list.

It's also incredibly easy to make a mistake at some point in the process and that may end up getting an approvable case denied or, worse, you end up with an improvidently granted benefit that cannot be repaired, even if it was an honest mistake.

thesmtsolver2 23 minutes ago | parent [-]

Sweden is portrayed as beacon of human rights, let's use them as an example.

https://www.reuters.com/world/sweden-tighten-citizenship-rul...

The rules now are tougher than US rules for citizenship. Sweden (like e.g., Norway) has a 8 year wait vs US's 5 year wait.

Sweden has minimum income requirements, none in the US.

enaaem 4 minutes ago | parent [-]

That is for a different scenario. It means that if you already have a residence permit, you have to wait 8 years before you can apply for citizenship. OP is talking about marriage green card. For 75% of cases in Sweden it is less than 15 months to get a residence permit.

[1] https://www.migrationsverket.se/en/you-want-to-apply/live-wi...

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garyfirestorm 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

They undid public charge from my memory. It doesn’t exist anymore.

danielrmay 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

I looked it up, and we were required to complete form I-864 "Affidavit of Support Under Section 213A of the INA". My wife, her grandmother, and her grandfather all needed to complete one, and when considered together, prove that they earned 125% of the HHS poverty guidelines. As my wife didn't have provable income (we were moving together), we needed to dig into their social security income and complete the forms. I remember feeling sad that I needed to ask for such personal information from them.

My salary in the UK was many multiples of this guideline, but _earning potential_ is not considered. Pragmatism is not really a service offered by USCIS, it's too political. To be on-topic: this move will disincentivize smart but not-yet-wealthy people from immigrating to the "land of opportunity". It was already harder than it had to be.

tmp10423288442 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It has always existed, but how strictly it’s interpreted (i.e., just cash welfare, or also Medicaid, SNAP, and other means-tested benefits) has shifted between administrations. If you applied during Biden’s administration, I could believe the public charge rule was applied very laxly, particularly because it’s rare to get direct cash welfare in the US these days, and even less for an extended period.

SlightlyLeftPad 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

How recently? As of about 2010, it was very much still there. I understand that is 16 years ago.

sleepyguy an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Under what administration was your process?

danielrmay an hour ago | parent [-]

Trump, early 2017. I'm aware there was some attempt by the Trump admin to change "public charge" terminology in late 2018.

kakacik an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Or you can simply move to a country that actually apreciates you and doesnt treat you like unwanted subhuman garbage. We have few in Europe, with QoL and happiness higher than US average, sometimes much higher. Just dont make the mistake of comparing salaries directly, US is massively more expensive if you plan to stay long term (ie healthcare) and/or have kids.

You would also have enough time to actually enjoy life, not just work till death/health issues come in some empty prestige rat race.

aborsy 7 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

Other countries have not been able to set up institutions as good as those in USA, for high skilled workers at least.

Countries are plagued by dictatorships, bureaucracy, big government, bad fiscal and monetary policy, war and security problems, bad cultures, etc. And don’t forget the unique role of USA dollar.

sssilver an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Most people come here for the economic and professional opportunities. I imagine that very few people move to the United States for the lifestyle.

Where else would people get opportunities that could match the United States? I can't think of any country that would even come close.

pixelatedindex 34 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

> Where else would people get opportunities that could match the United States? I can't think of any country that would even come close.

Isn’t that comparative?

If you are in the EU then the US seems like a holy grail because pay is higher. If you have dual citizenship you can probably avail of the EU safety nets if you had to go back.

If you’re in South East Asia, any EU choice is a huge improvement. Lately there has been strong immigration to Germany for example instead of coming to the US.

After naturalization and giving up my original citizenship, I am a little envious of people with dual citizenship of US + any EU country. It really doesn’t get better than that.

JuniperMesos 16 minutes ago | parent [-]

> If you are in the EU then the US seems like a holy grail because pay is higher. If you have dual citizenship you can probably avail of the EU safety nets if you had to go back.

One of the reasons pay in the US is higher is because the EU taxes ordinary people fairly heavily to pay for those social services. But also because of systematic cultural differences between the US and EU that lead to the US having a more dynamic economy that generally pays people more.

> If you’re in South East Asia, any EU choice is a huge improvement. Lately there has been strong immigration to Germany for example instead of coming to the US.

Lately Alternative für Deutschland has been getting a lot of votes in Germany; what kinds of rules (on top of the existing ones) do they think should be in place for people in southeast asia trying to immigrate to Germany?

ycombinary 41 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

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CalRobert an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Ehhhhhh I like Europe, a lot, but when you're in you're 20's or 30's and looking at $300k in SF or €80k in Paris (and better access to investment products and lower taxes in the US to boot), suddenly clocking off at 16:00 on Fridays doesn't seem as nice as being able to retire in your 40's.

mancerayder 20 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

300k in SF or NYC is FAR from early retirement unless you live 'frugally' - Manhattan average rents are 5K for 1 bed. You pay city, state and federal tax. Food and alcohol are 30-50 percent higher than Paris. And no one talks about property taxes.

In the US, local and federal taxes plus property taxes are easily 50-60 percent of your income.

Inflation runs higher in NYC than the rest of the country, as well.

cj 11 minutes ago | parent [-]

$300k is also on the high end. Most devs have a very difficult time getting hired at companies that pay that much.

$300k is probably in the top 10-15% for software engineers if I had the guess. And I assume the top 10-15% in Paris is substantially more than 80k.

Edit: Okay, I guess $300k is near the median in SF if you’re including stock options. (Media base salary in SF is 150-160k)

aborsy a minute ago | parent [-]

Top graduates in France make 40-50k. This is the reality I have seen. Salaries are often tabulated with limited range.

kevin_thibedeau 28 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

Most American's don't have that opportunity either or don't want to make the sacrifice of living in soul crushing circumstances.

xdennis 4 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

> Or you can simply move to a country that actually apreciates you and doesnt treat you like unwanted subhuman garbage. We have few in Europe, with QoL and happiness higher than US average.

Please don't. Europe has enough ethnic tensions. At least the US is built to be an ethnic melting pot. It's much better to go there.

0xy 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

This is complete nonsense. All other countries, including the UK, Australia and most of Europe has immigration systems that are just as stringent if not more so.

Notably, and very relevant, the UK recently made it substantially harder for UK citizens to bring over spouses to the point that even teachers don't meet the income thresholds necessary to qualify.

Australia is more expensive AND takes longer than the United States for the equivalent spousal visa.

danielrmay an hour ago | parent | next [-]

Sorry, which part of my personal experiences was nonsense? Immigration is hard, and yes, I'm aware of challenges in the UK as I moved my spouse over there in 2014. Do you have an experience with immigration that you can speak to?

0xy an hour ago | parent [-]

Your implication is that the US has an outsized level of difficulty in immigration. This is nonsense. The UK, Australia and Europe are harder.

Notably, the exact same UK visa you used has been made substantially harder to get since you applied.

I am very familiar with the US, UK and Australian immigration systems. The US is the easiest, cheapest and fastest of those 3.

danielrmay 38 minutes ago | parent [-]

I think you're responding to a comparison I didn't make. My point wasn't that the US is uniquely difficult compared with the UK or Australia. My point was that legal immigration is difficult, stressful and often misunderstood, including for people who are clearly trying to contribute and follow the rules. I'm aware the UK system has become much harder since I used it, and I'm not disputing that. But "other countries are harder" doesn’t make my experience nonsense.

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sunshowers an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Is the goal here to be the same as others or to be better than others? The US immigration system is far from great at the best of times, but it's becoming worse over time.

michaelmrose 24 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Did you just pick other generally racist countries with unfriendly immigration policies to prove that all other countries have such systems?

declan_roberts 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

It's a two tier system where the best outcome appears to be to simply break the law completely and illegally.

neither_color an hour ago | parent [-]

It's not an ideal outcome it's a very non-enviable multi-decade process working menial jobs and being at risk of something benign like a traffic stop escalating to imprisonment at any time. This fantasy that illegals are living in luxury is how they boiled the frog on people who "did it the right way." They want to get rid of everyone.

tsss 33 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

The USA don't owe you citizenship. It's on you to prove that your presence there would be of benefit to the other citizens.

danielrmay 31 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

Given the opportunity, at the time, I would have happily taken steps to prove my presence would be of benefit. Instead, I had to spend my time asking family to give me their pension statements.

Later, I was recognized for that potential benefit. Last December, I became a citizen.

platevoltage 25 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

Green Cards aren't citizenship.

JCTheDenthog 16 minutes ago | parent [-]

They're permanent residency, so other than voting rights effectively the same thing.

PlanksVariable 5 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

The reality is many people come on temporary visas, as tourists, as students, etc., and overstay. This policy is some attempt to address flows of quasi-legal immigration.

It's unfortunate there's friction to the process, but it's by design. 15% of American citizens and permanent residents are foreign born, the highest it's been in 50+ years, so people are successfully making it through the process. Ideally we'd have better levers to (1) modulate the rate of immigration, (2) simplify the process of legal immigration, and (3) still somehow limiting illegal immigration, quasi-legal immigration, overstays, etc. This is not the ideal solution.

> it feels necessary to say: people who come here to contribute their skills and experience don't all come along on an H1-B/L1

Do people migrate to "contribute their skills" to a foreign country, or to improve their lives? Maybe I'm a cynic, but I suspect the vast majority of people throughout history have migrated to improve their lives, not to altruistically benefit a foreign country. And that's fine, that's normal. It's what motivates people, and the U.S. has a long history of being shaped by ambitious people, especially immigrants, who wanted to improve their lot in life.

> nor do they only come from white or european countries.

I don't know if that's necessary to be said, because who thinks that? In recent decades, 85%-90% of immigrants to the U.S. are not white. >90% if you include undocumented immigrants. The trajectory of America from a white majority to white minority country is fueling at least some of the immigration backlash today. But I think for most people, it's a feeling (right or wrong) that jobs becoming harder to find, houses are becoming harder to afford, and more and more people are competing for fewer resources.

simonw a minute ago | parent [-]

> This policy is some attempt to address flows of quasi-legal immigration.

Is it though? This administration doesn't exactly have a track record of decisions based on carefully thought out policy implications.