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Glyptodon a day ago

A lot of the behaviors this seems to force I don't understand - like railroading whether to skip breakfast or not. I am well aware that for kids with autism frequently there are feeding issues, but what's going on in the "simulation" is very not clear to me.

Similarly, I don't understand the decisions related to the driving environment: it appears to be a personal vehicle, surely you, as the owner, can make the interior environment something that's as close to personally comfortable as possible? Maybe I'm missing the takeaway from the driving decisions.

Related, what is or isn't masking seems very confused. To begin with, it's not just code for "hiding or not hiding behaviors that appear socially irregular." But it's also not the case that deciding whether to participate in a non-working-hours event is or isn't masking in of itself.

Presenting behavior in a socialized way when necessary is a skill that's harder (as I understand it) for those on the autism spectrum, but I don't think that makes every application equivalent to masking.

jasonsb a day ago | parent | next [-]

> A lot of the behaviors this seems to force I don't understand - like railroading whether to skip breakfast or not. I am well aware that for kids with autism frequently there are feeding issues, but what's going on in the "simulation" is very not clear to me.

I lost interest after the breakfast question. For someone who’s physically fit (which this person likely is) skipping breakfast shouldn’t cause a noticeable drop in energy. If it does, then there may be more going on than just autism.

tpoacher 18 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Everyone's different.

I lose energy if I do have breakfast. Which results in lack of focus. Therefore I often postpone my breakfast as long as I possibly can, otherwise, with a large probability, my work day is ruined before it even starts.

thelittleone 17 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Agree, breakfast slows me down, so I rarely eat it anymore and typically eat around midday to 1pm after morning work and exercise. I've fasted only once, it lasted 12 days and my energy level was almost overwhelming and electric. Boxing, running, etc. I gave up trying to understand why. And although it was an amazing experience, have not fasted again in the 5 years since.

yoz-y 2 hours ago | parent [-]

Why? If it was so good.

movpasd 15 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

For myself, I have low energy if I don't eat breakfast, but there is essentially no hunger signal for me in the morning. Over time I've settled on eating the plainest breakfast I can.

I think this has a lot to do with the 9–5 and my natural sleep cycle being delayed compared to that.

escapedmoose 9 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Same. If I have breakfast it seems to kickstart my metabolism or something idk. The result is, if I have breakfast, I’m distracted by hunger all morning. If I skip breakfast I can focus all morning and I don’t get hungry until lunchtime. Bodies are weird.

serf a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

you also don't fall asleep at your desk as a response to a birthday party in the office early in the morning after a good nights' sleep, but if you play a one-sided game in this that's what happens.

it's not a reality simulator, incredibly few video games are.

the whole thing seems like a conflicted struggle between "I want to make a game" and "I need to get my points across", often to the detriment of the game-part.

It's an interesting concept though.

failrate a day ago | parent | next [-]

My lived experience is that high stress situations frequently make me feel like just going to sleep.

humanfromearth9 a day ago | parent | next [-]

This may have multiple causes (past experience/trauma, energy levels, existing depression, sleep troubles, anything on the spectrum of autism, like ADHD...).

As far as energy levels go, if you are already tired, you may lack energy to cope with stressful situations, which leads you to procrastinate or even sleep too just not face it. From personal experience, low (just below the lower limit, so nothing seemingly dramatic) vitamin D levels may affect one's energy levels negatively (always tired, brain fog, everything feels hard...), and having appropriate vitamin D levels may already provide one with a clear mind and remove the hardship of dealing with most of what others consider as seemingly simple situations.

You might be depressed because of low energy levels, instead of the other way around.

So, make sure your energy levels are appropriate and that your mitochondria work fine. (Any LLM will provide you with detailed info about energy levels and mitochondria).

Of course, that's only based on personal experience, and I'm a software engineer, not a Doctor.

Have a nice day.

Cthulhu_ 16 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

For me it's low stress / passive situations, like listening to presentations or sitting in a meeting where I'm just observing. And that's with good sleep etc.

gtirloni a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Same if it involves a human yelling. If I'm in my bed while it's happening , I might actually sleep briefly. It becomes impossible to stay awake sometimes.

Other high stress situations involving actually solving something motivates me though.

vasco 16 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

> My lived experience

What are the other types of experience one might have?

Cthulhu_ 16 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Other people's? Like, I don't get meltdowns myself but I've seen others that do.

vasco 15 hours ago | parent | next [-]

You misunderstand, their sentence is in the first person, you cannot experience anything in third person.

krageon 9 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

You have experienced other people's lives? How? Are you a discorporated entity that possesses the living?

spoiler 9 hours ago | parent [-]

There's this concept called empathy, and people can share how they experience things. We can also relate our own experiences. So, it might not be a first-hand experience, but we can put ourselves in their shoes. If we see a friend experience something, it becomes a shared experience. When our friends laugh, we laugh too. When they grieve, we grieve with them. Etc

zen928 15 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It's a nice change of pace around here when people intentionally make themselves the butt of the joke by acting like extremely common phrases are somehow foreign to them. "Lived experience" immediately adds more detail and context to how they obtained their knowledge by explicitly referring to first hand involvement and direct experience rather than potentially from second hand sources or studying, but here you are making a smarmy reply pretending that it was somehow more confusing to the benefit of the rest of us who might take your attempt at quips as humorous. Thanks for the laugh!

vasco 15 hours ago | parent [-]

No problem friend, happy to help. I still think it's a stupid phrase, you don't have anyone else's experience and you're never not alive to experience anything. All it does is "I'm trying to make my point stronger by making you feel bad about questioning it because I'm going to reply that you can't question what I said"

plumb_bob_00 15 hours ago | parent [-]

I guess you could take the idea that someone has an experience that may be different to yours and that you aren't able to dictate as a personal affront rather than a plain fact, but I recommend against it. That doesn't seem interesting or productive, it seems like getting worked up over something beyond your control and of no consequence.

vasco 13 hours ago | parent [-]

> I guess you could take the idea that someone has an experience that may be different to yours

I do as a default because it is, that's why the sentence is tautological - which was my point. There's also a difference between expressing an opinion and being "worked up".

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doka_smoka 9 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

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curtisblaine a day ago | parent | prev [-]

> It's an interesting concept though

Why? It's a multiple choice game with different outcomes. Hardly groundbreaking.

no_wizard a day ago | parent | next [-]

I think the subject matter makes it interesting conceptually, not gameplay.

Execution matters regardless, but not all innovations are in mechanics of gameplay.

gremlinunderway 21 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I think you're overly inflating the word "interesting" here. It doesn't imply novelty, innovation or anything groundbreaking. It's just of interest, which isn't a high bar.

hluska 21 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Can you name another multiple choice game about this subject?

mpnsk1 18 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Depression Quest?

qwertytyyuu 18 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

not quite the same subject but i think depression quest executed on its subject matter better than this did

recursive a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I don't even have an autism diagnosis, and I never skip breakfast because of the energy drop. I bike to work, run 5ks, and am not overweight, even by standardized BMI metrics.

I don't even have an autism diagnosis. It never occurred to me that something might be "going on". Breakfast imparts energy. To me, that has been a given.

trenchpilgrim a day ago | parent | next [-]

I can go about a full day before eating without noticing an energy drop. Everyone's different.

brookst 18 hours ago | parent | next [-]

I was in my 30’s before I realized that other people really need to eat and can’t just decide to skip a day when work / travel / timezones make it inconvenient. So much natural variation.

wtetzner 16 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

This is also something you can train your body to get used to. Anyone who started doing intermittent fasting and struggled at first will know that you eventually adapt to it. Depending on how difficult someone finds it, doing a ketogenic diet might be a nicer way to ease into it.

kulahan a day ago | parent | prev [-]

I find I’m happiest not eating until about 6 pm. Usually one large meal and one small late-night snack. I’m a little surprised there wasn’t much evolutionary pressure to align eating schedules considering how social we are but meh. Maybe everyone being on their own schedule is actually better for survival.

Jensson 18 hours ago | parent [-]

Think that is farmer vs hunter adaption. Hunters eat big meals less often, plant eaters eat small meals often as its more work to digest plants.

So humans doing both have genes for both, but maybe some humans have more of some of those.

zmmmmm a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

part of the challenge with autism is that nearly all it's features are shared partially or individually by ordinary people as pretty routine character traits (eg: socialising is energy draining for "regular" introverts).

It's (a) them being collectively combined and (b) the severity that creates the issue, but it's very hard for autistic people to explain and justify what's happening to them when everybody feels like they already experience these things and manage to just "deal" with it.

doo_daa 11 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Very well put

jongjong 12 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Haha yeah I was thinking it just sounds capricious.

bitbasher 19 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I haven't ate breakfast in 7+ years and I've never had an energy issue. I've ate OMAD (one meal a day) for over a year while running 5ks Monday to Friday and never had any energy issues either.

recursive 19 hours ago | parent [-]

A lot of people in here with similar anecdotes. I'm not saying everyone's like me. I'm just saying that some people feel lower energy if they skip breakfast. And it doesn't mean 'there's something else going on'.

hshdhdhj4444 19 hours ago | parent | next [-]

The lack of logic in this thread is remarkable.

If 50% of the world is just fine without eating breakfast, that still means 4 Bn people are not.

Posting personal anecdotes as if that proves feeling low on energy without breakfast means something is wrong is a degree of irrationality I can’t believe is showing up on HN.

It’s fine to share personal anecdotes and experiences but so many here are sharing them as if it disproves all other things experiences and responses.

imp0cat 17 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

It's even more complicated, because it also depends on what yout eat for breakfast. Some food will sustain you for a longer time, some will give you an immediate sugary boost and then the inevitable fall (which could definitely be a big part of the "I feel lower energy when I eat breakfast" experience.

BrandoElFollito a day ago | parent | prev [-]

Typically, my first meal is at 11:45 (a plate of normal food + fruit), and then one at about 19 (the content varies from bread + cold cuts to soup).

When this changes in numbers, size or kind I do not feel any difference in energy.

When I bike to work I am particularly not hungry until 11:45.

mikestorrent a day ago | parent | next [-]

Interesting. I am also physically fit and if I don't have something to eat within the first half hour of getting up, I am cranky and definitely won't be doing anything approaching information work.

TJSomething a day ago | parent | next [-]

Seconding this. Additionally, I'm likely to fumble speaking tactfully as a result.

szundi 19 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

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kulahan a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Exercise can push off hunger pangs for quite a while. Your body wants you to know it’s hungry, but if you’re exercising (read:probably hunting according to your brain), the pangs fade because they would simply be distracting.

nsagent 18 hours ago | parent [-]

Thanks. I've never heard it framed this way. I've mentioned my appetite diminishes after aerobic exercise, but a common response is that I'm weird.

Interestingly my appetite sometimes skyrockets after certain activities like bouldering or weight lifting, so the diminished hunger response must be a bit more complex of a phenomenon.

normie3000 18 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

> a plate of normal food + fruit

What is "normal food"? Fruit seems like it would be more universally normal than pretty much anything else.

BrandoElFollito 14 hours ago | parent [-]

Sorry, I was not clear. A plate of some meat + some vegetables, or variations of that. The kind of things you expect to eat for lunch in France (and, broadly speaking, in Europe).

What I meant by that is that this is a full starter for the day, not a "late French breakfast"

izzylan 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

You're unfairly extrapolating from your own experience here -- everyone's body has different chemistry.

I have to eat breakfast in the morning in order to feel energetic during the day. But specifically, I need a high-protein, high-fiber breakfast. Anything else makes me feel lethargic and tired.

phito 16 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Unless autism gives you an eating disorder, making it so you have absolutely no energy reserves cough cough

robertpateii 9 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Being physically fit past your 30s is a series of building habits and making hard choices that obviously is a challenge of its own that many in sedentary jobs have skipped or fallen away from. OP may be fit, but yeah for average office worker (especially in locations that are car-bound on long commutes) I’d bet there is indeed more going on than just autism.

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andreareina 21 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I'm a mid-packer in the triathlons I participate in, so pretty fit. I definitely notice the energy difference between having eaten breakfast or not, in the everyday (non-training) context. It's not a hunger thing (I'd miss breakfast most days if I didn't literally schedule it) and I can do my strength training and short intervals to the same performance fasted as fed. But I am aware of it.

a1o a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

If I don’t eat breakfast I feel afraid I will lose any gym gains and feel very weak. I don’t know anyone that hits the gym daily and skips breakfast.

snemvalts 17 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

i would interpret physical fitness as cardio exercise routine and depleted muscle glycogen stores: so breakfast is very welcome and without it is not possible to keep up exercise routine

spoiler a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It's complicated for me. Sometimes breakfast makes me notice my digestive system, which seems to make my ADHD-adjacent traits worse. I also get IBS... Which is different from the meds constipation. So eating is difficult. Because of IBS my bowels are also unpredictable, so dosing laxatives is hard. I don't know how many of these things are caused by meds.

Then there's the energy thing. I guess if I'm in ketosis it's fine, but after not eating for a whole day it's hard to sustain the next day, but eating isn't alway worth it.

The saddest part is that junk foot and Tesco meal deal is so is somehow easier to digest. So I often eat that.

I'm trying Kefir (even though I'm lactose intolerant, but I take lactase with it) for the 10 time probably. My GP recommended it. Alas, maybe it helps.

Soooo, tldr eating yes, I love it, but it can have consequences that completely tank my productivity. And each time I have to ponder this it feels like I've done a chore but without the reward feeling of completing a chore, even though I just say there in silence for 5-15 minutes

Idk if other people are in a similar boat

watwut 16 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

> For someone who’s physically fit (which this person likely is) skipping breakfast shouldn’t cause a noticeable drop in energy.

It definitely does.

12345hn6789 a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

You don't feel it immediately. Notice the bar doesn't reset the next day. You don't feel breakfast immediately but your workout later in the day and tomorrow will be affected by this.

devmor 17 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Skipping breakfast absolutely causes a noticeable drop in energy for most people. Especially if you work an intellectually demanding job. That blood glucose is important.

Also of note given the OP’s subject, several studies show that people with significantly impactful Autism spectrum disorders have higher brain glucose consumption than the baseline.

CaveTech 17 hours ago | parent [-]

[citation needed]

devmor 7 hours ago | parent [-]

In regards to energy levels: 10.3945/an.115.010231

In regards to autism: 10.1001/archpsyc.1985.01790280026003

imadierich 12 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

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tcdent a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

You have definitively diagnosed yourself as not being on the spectrum.

Hard to describe, but there is a tendency to self-sabotage (for lack of a better term) that you have to take into account. Sure, it may be my car, and I may have control of the radio, but I don't always act upon the need to adjust my environment.

This is correlated with the amount of energy and attention you have to give to processing your environment, much like the health bars in the game UI.

jancsika a day ago | parent | next [-]

> Sure, it may be my car, and I may have control of the radio, but I don't always act upon the need to adjust my environment.

But in the context of the beginning of a game, people without autism are probably confused. Why isn't the car's environment already tuned to the character's exact specifications?

I get some of the potential reasons why after playing the game for a bit. But I still would have liked to see a callback to this. E.g., if I drive to lunch with coworkers I could choose to mask by letting the passenger tune the radio. Then the next morning I get a painful sound when I turn on the car. Ah, I get it now! That seems like more satisfying gameplay-- maybe the game already does it and I died too early to see!

tcdent a day ago | parent | next [-]

We're definitely reading too far into this, but the game does incorporate this concept, so I'll make the case.

You don't get to choose every option every day. Some days you're on, and you make (almost) all of the right choices for your wellbeing. But not every day is like that.

bongodongobob 20 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Optimized and tuned for what?

Try tuning your entire environment and then maintaining it all the time. Best I can do is get it into a failure mode that isn't a disaster.

Mapping anything into a perfect system fails. So I'm surrounded by half working shit that works well enough that the energy from the shittyness that it sucks from me is made up by the fact that it's good enough to not crash out over. But I will still stress. Because I do want to fix the Bluetooth but I also have 8000 other things at home to perfectly tune as well.

My shoes are a year and a half old. A little stained, a little green from mowing the lawn. I sure as fuck don't want to go to a shoe store and tell the poor young worker there that I don't need their help. I'm not buying shoes without trying them on, so internet is out. When the soles fall off and the social impact is great enough, I'll replace them.

I haven't cut my hair in a year and a half because the hair dresser lady that I went to for 15 years moved away. Staring into a mirror while someone talks to me and cuts my hair is a fucking nightmare. I know this makes me look unconventional, but worth it for now. I have to carefully wash, condition, dry, and brush my hair. It's more work. But it's optimized.

imp0cat 17 hours ago | parent [-]

    I'm not buying shoes without trying them on, so internet is out.
You could just buy the same shoes over and over. Works for me.
PaulHoule a day ago | parent | prev [-]

What if you're like gay and always struggling to stay in the closet?

jancsika a day ago | parent | next [-]

Did you play the game? If I'm understanding it correctly (a big if), every single time the author is forced to leave out edge cases when talking to management it is a form of masking. They have to suppress their natural urge[1] to list the edge cases, and come up with a more appropriate message based on a non-intuitive guess about the salient points their interlocutor wants to know.

That implies active work to mask that is almost certainly measured in hours per day, across nearly every domain of communication and human interaction.

How many hours a day does the average employee spend talking to coworkers about their sexual preference?

Edit:

1: An urge probably backed up by a good faith, well-reasoned, ethical understanding of the literal words that the manager spoke to them!

MrDarcy a day ago | parent | prev [-]

Then you’re like a closeted gay autistic person. Speaking for a friend.

bbwbsb a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Of course you don't get it: you're not autistic. Did you expect to get it?

There's what's that quote about good art disturbing the comfortable and comforting the disturbed.

Eating is very stressful for many autistic people because of trauma and lack of (non-enmeshing) support in childhood. They don't learn how to make a comfortable environment for themselves or that it is even possible. Every meal becomes stressful. Force feeding or depending completely on others.

Masking goes so deep, it's just not possible to easily convey with words, because after a lifetime of masking you don't even notice all the things that you do that count.

"Presenting behavior in a socialized way when necessary" has a hidden part. Presenting what behavior? To whom? Presenting autism-coded behavior around autistic people is stress-free.

Cthulhu_ 15 hours ago | parent | next [-]

I think masking is easily conveyed with words because everybody does it - other terms used are "code switching" where you talk differently to friends, family, parents, bosses, subordinates or children; "emotional labor", a phrase often used for service industry people (think receptionists) where people pretend to be in one emotional state (happy and cheerful) for the sake of their job or role while they really aren't. This is even worse / more obvious in the US where a lot of people can / do switch their personality on a whim, e.g. when picking up the phone.

What's different is that for neurotypical people they don't seem to be aware of it and it comes naturally, but for ND it's learned behaviour that costs energy and conscious effort to do. And they feel like they have to do it because society is used to people effortlessly doing it all the time, so if you don't you're considered off, or simply don't get to participate in society because you're weird/boring/scary. The latter is the worst, you're just yourself but people get uncomfortable around you. They won't tell you why nor just accept you (which is understandable, biological defense mechanisms etc), but you do become an outcast. Unless you play the social games.

> Presenting autism-coded behavior around autistic people is stress-free.

Anecdotal, but... not necessarily, any one person's behaviours can affect someone else negatively.

Scarblac 12 hours ago | parent | next [-]

> but for ND it's learned behaviour that costs energy and conscious effort to do. And they feel like they have to do it because society is used to people effortlessly doing it all the time, so if you don't you're considered off, or simply don't get to participate in society because you're weird/boring/scary.

And of course, every now and then you fail to do it right and people think you were acting really weird but won't explain why.

thyristan 12 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

I'd like to elaborate a little more on why "autistic masking" is different from "neurotypicals' masking".

For neurotypicals, masking is to exhibit behaviors that you subconciously know how to do because they are part of your natural range of behaviors. When a neurotypical is masking being friendly and happy in a social occasion (when they actually don't feel like it), they draw on their previous experience of having been friendly and happy in another social occasion. They know what it feels like, they know how to behave instinctively whey they really are happy and friendly, and faking it is only the effort of drawing from prior experience. For actors, this is called "the Method".

For autists, masking is emulating behaviors they wouldn't normally exhibit on any such occasion. They don't know how to do it, not subconciously, not instinctively. So they explicitly have to observe others, emulate their behavior on that occasion. That leads to two kinds of problems: First, they need to have observed this behavior, learned and practiced it, and need to know how to reproduce it correctly. Second, they need to recognize the occasion correctly, and not misinterpret their surroundings, the feelings and moods of others. And since autists also do have problems even interpreting their own emotional state (they do have emotions, but no intuitive way to know what they are at the moment) and even more the emotional state of others, the effort is far higher. Imagine an actor who is asked to play a totally alien role without any frame of reference and without prior experience, no do-overs and all the other people around him are also directors and constantly judging his performance and measuring it against their effortless instinct what it should look like.

aDyslecticCrow 14 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I can buy your arguments, but not in the context of this game.

Saying "I'm tired I'll go work more silently" is just reasonably workplace behavior. Telling your coworker "can we sit down and talk about this somewhere more quiet" is just reasonable thing to say to improve productivity. Saying "This meeting is a bit unstructured and i feel if would be more productive to write out an agenda" is not breaking a mask or being an ass, it's focusing on getting shit done for everyone. Sending an email about concerns about unclear and un-mensurable performance in a post-meeting summary is productive and useful for the team (and less socially draining than doing it during the meeting).

All humans mask. Autistic people are simply more prone to "over-mask" or mask things others don't. But a-lot of masking behaviors are mal-adaoptions from childhood. A distraction-less focused and structured work environment helps everyone, so be the ass and enforce it. And particularly engineering fields have a higher tendency to attract (certain) autistic traits, which just further makes speaking out even more valuable for everyone involved.

Simply put; The game makes being "breaking the mask" a negative thing, and a failure case for the game. But all options that break the mask seem to improve energy and social connection. (which goes entirely against the supposed benefit or purpose of masking)

notahacker 13 hours ago | parent | next [-]

> Saying "This meeting is a bit unstructured and i feel if would be more productive to write out an agenda" is not breaking a mask or being an ass, it's focusing on getting shit done for everyone.

But in many cases, it will absolutely be interpreted as being an ass, and autistic people are less adept at spotting those contexts and communicating in ways which don't look like they're being an ass (also, autistic people are probably more likely to be irritated by the agenda of the rest of the meeting or next meeting being to discuss agendas...)

I agree with your wider point that everyone masks to some degree, but its obviously less consequential to non-junior neurotypical people in familiar environments who can reasonably accurately predict how everyone will react to them choosing to take the mask off and hint what they really think about the meeting. Sure, a lot of other stuff like requesting to talk in a quieter environment is usually something straightforward any reasonable person will accommodate, but it's not surprising people concerned that making too many requests perceived as "weird" might harm their career and not really sure what's "weird" or not default to just trying to avoid them.

aDyslecticCrow 13 hours ago | parent [-]

Being unable to read or intepret the reaction or social cues given as a response to such blunt remarks is indeed a core issue. I think this is a core reason autistic people over-mask.

Beyond simply masking autistic traits, some people mask to the point of changing personalities or interests. Masking to be more "normal" than any "normal" person.

Knowing when and when not to raise or point out issues or concerns can be quite complex.

So in practice, its quite difficult to find the balance. But take issue with the "inevitability" present in a lot the explanations of autistic masking.

Googling "making workplace autism friendly" gives ... detailed descriptions of very nice workplaces. Particularly the examples in this game are things every workplace would benefit from adjusting even for "neuortypical" workers. (And if not pointed out, it will just continue to drain energy the future)

BoorishBears 13 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Is this comment section part of the simulation?

alex77456 21 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I am, and ironically it prevented me from being able to enjoy this; too many inaccuracies and absolutist perspective frustrated me.

Like others said, skipping breakfast should not be that big of a deal for a reasonably healthy adult, we didn't evolve having 3 meals a day. Intermittent fasting is a thing too.

'Masking' parameter misses the point in my opinion. Picking what I would personally realistically do (having adapted over the years) causes it to drop to 0 over a few days. Picking what i think author wants me to pick, same result. Yet somehow I managed not to get fired in 3 days irl.

I get it, it's an illustration of 'autism is hard' for 'normies'. But it was painfully close to being realistic/enjoyable too.

Not to say it's not useful, ADHD popups were 10/10, general vibe was spot on, will probably forward it to a few friends; it's just not nuanced enough to not annoy me personally.

One of rare times where I can be blunt honest and hopefully not come across arrogant.

tpmoney 6 hours ago | parent [-]

> Like others said, skipping breakfast should not be that big of a deal for a reasonably healthy adult, we didn't evolve having 3 meals a day. Intermittent fasting is a thing too.

I haven’t played the simulator but I wonder if it’s also trying to account for more than just the physiological effects. A friend of mine has autism, and we were getting together one day. On the way over I suggested getting some food since it was close to dinner time. They agreed, gave me some items and I bought us some food. When I arrived they were amped up and excited to show me something. I set the food down, and I ate while they were showing me this thing that had them all excited. They ate some of the food too, but were clearly distracted and not all that hungry. No big deal. But a few hours later I noticed they’d gone real quiet and seemed down or anxious about something. Turned out they had been worrying for the last hour that they had offended me because they didn’t eat all the food and they knew they weren’t going to eat all the food because they were going through a phase where eating in general was just a difficult thing to want to do and so were eating just the minimums they needed to not have other problems.

The entire later half of their evening and their excitement over their new thing had been badly deflated all because of a decision / need to not eat all the food on offer. Never mind that this was nothing new for them. Never mind that I could easily see myself skipping food just for the excitement they were experiencing before factoring in any sensory phases. Never mind that it would be a truly shit thing for me to be offended because they only ate some of the greasy fast food I picked up for us. No this simple and normal act caused them an hour of stress and anxiety over worrying if they’d crossed some social line for doing something I didn’t even notice until they said something.

But it doesn’t matter whether I noticed. Their brain latched onto the “you did something abnormal, people might have noticed, now you need to analyze everything that’s happened to figure out what you next move should be” train of thought and it would not let go. So at least from what I’ve seen, choosing to eat or not can have impacts beyond just “hungry”

anakaine 21 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

This is absolutely spot on.

albedoa 17 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

> Of course you don't get it: you're not autistic. Did you expect to get it?

Am I missing where the person you are replying to identified as non-autistic?

blablabla123 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Autism with adults is rarely presented and very individual anyway. I like to see such issues like some wound. Sure you can continue your daily chores. But if you accidentally rub against it, it gets worse and worse. Eventually you need to make a longer break so it doesn't get infected like crazy.

The whole masking thing isn't about skill. (Like in the intro, the guy is in fact even outgoing at times...) It's rather that you need to run behavior with software instead of hardware acceleration. Possible but it sucks.

That being said, the whole thing with falling asleep at the desk is a tough manifestation. For me it's less drastic but gets me into problems in the long run.

s777 a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

> like railroading whether to skip breakfast or not.

I can relate to this in that I barely have any energy in the mornings to do anything no matter how early I set my alarm, then end up skipping everything except the bare minimum to function, or maybe less depending on if I happen to have more energy that day.

timcobb a day ago | parent | next [-]

Is there a connection to autism there?

PaulHoule a day ago | parent | next [-]

Autism has become a culturally dominant force that's displaced other kinds of neurodiversity almost completely. All kinds of people have to "mask" aspects of themselves to get along. Black people have to talk white, Asian people have to present themselves in a way white people think is assertive. Gay people have to stay closeted. Just try academia when you grew up in a working class family.

The "simulator" paradigm pretends to promote empathy but it actually does the opposite.

tpmoney 6 hours ago | parent | next [-]

> All kinds of people have to "mask" aspects of themselves to get along. Black people have to talk white, Asian people have to present themselves in a way white people think is assertive. Gay people have to stay closeted. Just try academia when you grew up in a working class family. The "simulator" paradigm pretends to promote empathy but it actually does the opposite.

Why do you feel this way? Do you not think having to do those things is tiring and exhausting for the affected people? Do you think the simulator’s author would disagree? If someone wrote a simulator for trying to code switch as a Black person or an Asian person and didn’t include all the ways that autistic people have to mask, would you feel they were also not promoting empathy?

true_religion a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

What other kinds of neurodivergence is it masking?

You did give examples, but only for ways it perhaps fails in promoting empathy for groups with similar problems.

Aurornis a day ago | parent | next [-]

I don't think masking is necessarily the right word, but when people start self-diagnosing themselves they often miss the correct problem in favor of what's popular on their social media feeds.

Right now, Autism and/or ADHD are the two that are most prevalent on social media. Many people, especially younger people who spend a lot of time on Reddit, TikTok, or other sites, see these diagnoses trend with vague descriptions about what they entail. When they encounter struggles, they recall those vague descriptions, make a connection, and assume their life problems are due to the diagnosis.

It's not uncommon to read accounts of people who describe their symptoms as textbook social anxiety or depression who will nevertheless insist they have "AuDHD" as self-diagnosed via their social media consumption.

It can actually be hard to break them out of one preferred diagnosis and get them going down the right path to address the problem.

An example: Someone develops an eating disorder, but they read on Reddit that forgetting to eat and having low energy for schoolwork can be a symptoms of ADHD. They self-diagnose as ADHD and avoid addressing their very obvious eating disorder problem. They might even get insulted when someone suggests they have an eating disorder, insisting that the other person must not understand ADHD.

This pattern isn't unique to autism or ADHD. It's common to all trending internet diagnoses. You will find communities where everyone convinces themselves they have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome or Mast Cell Activation Syndrome. Doctors who treat those two conditions are currently rejecting referrals at a high rate due to extreme self-diagnosis via TikTok. The people self-diagnosing with those conditions usually do have something wrong, but they've latched on to one explanation that doesn't fit and they won't let go because they think it explains everything about them.

exmadscientist a day ago | parent | prev [-]

I, personally, just really really hate how many people use "neurodiverse" as a synonym for "autistic". I am not neurotypical but am very much not autistic, and I'm far from the only one.

aleph_minus_one 9 hours ago | parent [-]

Indeed using the term "neurodiverse" only makes sense if you also want to include, for example, psychopaths (another form of neurodiversity) in the group that you want to describe.

true_religion 2 hours ago | parent [-]

I don’t see any reason not to include psychopathy. It’s not a synonym for evil: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/the-neuroscien...

pfannkuchen 19 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It almost sounds like you’re implying that a culturally and ethnically homogenous society would be easier for people to handle…

Dylan16807 16 hours ago | parent [-]

It would be, at an objective level.

If you're trying to imply some accusation, please be explicit about it. No vague deniable hinting.

wizzwizz4 a day ago | parent | prev [-]

I understand where you're coming from, and I would even agree with the denotation of every sentence in your first paragraph, but I think you're missing a lot.

Being "culturally dominant" is not a good thing for autistic people: it's not autistic voices that dominate, but mostly eugenics groups, with the occasional well-meaning (but usually uninformed) activist group trying to oppose the narrative. If you're familiar with the kind of "anti-racist" corporate training that's mostly just white guilt with a few racial stereotypes thrown in, then you know how far "well-meaning" can take you.

While we can draw many analogies to autistic masking, autistic masking is qualitatively different to the examples you've listed. We have other words for the other things (e.g. "talking white" is a special-case of "situational code-switching", and "staying closeted" is a special-case of something that I don't know a name for). You're skirting (and, I think, crossing) the line between analogy and appropriation in your first paragraph. (See also: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45440873, https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45441925)

I'm not really sure what you mean by your "actually does the opposite" remark in the second paragraph, unless you're automatically treating this interactive description of autism made with care, by someone with personal experience of being autistic, as the kind of rubbish that's made by "well-meaning" ignorants for low-quality corporate training.

People with other flavours of neurodivergence have produced similar "simulators" (a kind of RPG, really). You might be familiar with Spoon Theory, originally devised to describe the psychological burden of living with lupus? That simulator is a TTRPG. I suspect that this simulator was made by someone who'd be classified as neurodivergent in respects not classified as autism.

s777 a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Not sure, it's just my experience and I was diagnosed autistic at an early age

pinkmuffinere a day ago | parent | prev [-]

Ya, I'm curious about this as well. I'm not a morning person, and certainly am always just-scraping-by until about 1 pm. But is this some mild autism? Or is this just how I am? Or is there even a sensible distinction between those two phrases?

dpark a day ago | parent [-]

> But is this some mild autism?

Everyone seems to self-diagnose as slightly autistic these days. “I’ve noticed that I have personal quirks. Must be autism. Couldn’t be that everyone has their own personal stuff to deal with.”

I think this is maybe related to imposter syndrome. “There are people who can easily do this thing that I struggle with. Maybe I’m not qualified./Maybe I’m autistic.”. This thought process assumes others aren’t struggling and also tends to look to those who excel rather than the average so it’s biased anyway.

pinkmuffinere a day ago | parent | next [-]

Ya, I tend to agree. In fact, even if I _do_ have something, I think I'd rather not know. Whatever it is, it isn't too severe, so a diagnosis would mostly be helpful for getting medication. I have my own coping strategies and am able to navigate through life pretty much like everyone else, imperfectly but still making it. Having a diagnosis would not help me in this situation. I know some people feel that having a diagnosis can make a difference, and perhaps it is more important if you have something in an extreme form. But idk if I have something, and even if I do, I don't think the label would help me

jimnotgym 15 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Self-diagnosis is the only diagnosis available to many people. In the UK an autism diagnosis could take years to obtain.

Timwi 17 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

> “I’ve noticed that I have personal quirks. Must be autism. Couldn’t be that everyone has their own personal stuff to deal with.”

I would love to live in a society in which everyone is allowed to have personal quirks and their own personal stuff to deal with without being judged for it and without needing a label like “autism” to excuse it.

tpmoney 5 hours ago | parent [-]

I have a friend who was diagnosed as an adult with Autism. 40 ish years into their life and they finally got a name to attach to their “quirks”. And the thing that they found most frustrating (and which I find sympathy for feeling that frustration) is the number of people who now treat them completely differently and with much more grace and respect.

On the one hand, of course we extend extra grace and accommodations to a person with a given disability because we expect people without the disability to behave differently. On the other hand, they didn’t just magically get the disability when they got diagnosed. They’ve had it their entire life, and needed that grace and accommodation their entire life. But only it’s only now, half way through their life with their shiny new diagnosis that people give them that grace and accommodation. Is it then any wonder that people who haven’t been able to get that official diagnosis are still trying to at least get people to accept an unofficial diagnosis? If we were better at not needing the labels in order to accommodate, maybe we wouldn’t also have so many “self diagnosed” people. Or ironically maybe we’d have more officially diagnosed people because we wouldn’t be having a moral panic over fakes.

anthomtb a day ago | parent | prev [-]

I feel like setting your alarm earlier, thus reducing the amount of sleep you are getting, may be the wrong thing to do.

Cthulhu_ 15 hours ago | parent [-]

Yup, getting up earlier only works if you go to sleep earlier, too. But that's not for everyone, some people are just night owls.

robertpateii 9 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Having to select self care and breakfast every morning (and meds on some routes) is a good reminder for me of the importance of those things in the long run of a whole day. I don’t think I’m any farther on the spectrum than the average software developer, but it’s still a daily decision to be made. (Of course for those people with different breakfast patterns - you still have a best approach for yourself that you must decide to follow every morning.)

Similarly for the masking meter, I don’t know what it feels like exactly to have mask. However isn’t it hard, in varying degrees, to constantly determine and go through with the right forward-looking choice in real life? My guess is what’s a challenge for some is also a heavy toll on others.

Habits help with much of the daily decisions, but are of course their own challenge to implement and maintain.

SwtCyber 11 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It's trying to give a feel, not a textbook definition

nedt 13 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I guess the personal vehicle is fine as long as you don't drive in traffic. Maybe you try cycling on your typical route to work to be more immersed in the traffic and all the stress it causes.

anaisbetts 13 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

> Maybe I'm missing the takeaway from the driving decisions.

I think the point is that for autistic people, a lot of things in their day-to-day life that randomly happen and can't be controlled for, can be the equivalent of just, random people walking by and punching you in the arm all day.

Each individual punch might not hurt, and describing the incident to a neurotypical person is probably met with "Eh, that doesn't sound that bad". An entire day's worth leaves you with a pretty sore arm though.

derefr a day ago | parent | prev [-]

> like railroading whether to skip breakfast or not.

If you're talking about what happens after the first day, I think it's not due to any of the "stats" but rather because your first day is long and so you're running late on the second day, and for whatever reason you have nothing ready-to-eat at home. (Might be related to that option to go to the grocery store that you probably didn't take.)

In other words, it's seemingly a narrative-driven obstacle.

> it appears to be a personal vehicle, surely you, as the owner, can make the interior environment something that's as close to personally comfortable as possible? Maybe I'm missing the takeaway from the driving decisions.

Could be a rental car. Though my guess here is that the author actually comes from a place where the combination of culture and socioeconomics means they commute via public transit; and so they're actually trying to translate their experiences of the social impingement of public transit into analogous experiences when driving.

(Personally, I think a better translation would be being stuck in gridlock, or getting on a highway via an onramp where you keep getting cut off, etc, where there's an autistic itch there to get the other human drivers to realize that, when driving, they should "realize they're all cogs in a global optimization problem and so drive as predictably as possible, in order to decrease burstiness and so increase throughput, even at the expense of their individual perceived end-to-end latency.")

> Related, what is or isn't masking seems very confused. To begin with, it's not just code for "hiding or not hiding behaviors that appear socially irregular." But it's also not the case that deciding whether to participate in a non-working-hours event is or isn't masking in of itself.

AFAICT the "masking" gauge seems to be some rolled-up combination of 1. an odd domain-specific form willpower ("spoons" but you can only spend them on masking-related tasks, and when depleted you can't mask even if you still have motivation to do other things), with 2. a measure how close others are to deducing from your behavior that you are in fact on the autistic spectrum. (As if that's something you could ever expect to keep your coworkers and boss from realizing about you over years of continuous interaction.)

I say this because of the interaction I encountered about coming to a charity event, where literally being explicit about how you have a problem dealing with that kind of social situation... decreases the "masking" gauge. If it was purely #1, I'd expect the gauge to go up. It's only under interpretation #2 where it would go down.

(Or maybe you could describe the "masking" gauge in classical D&D terms as a WIS stat where masking attempts are Will-based saving throws?)

Honestly, I'd like to just see the source code for this. I'm surprised it's not linked; I feel like reading the source (hopefully with a lot of code comments about why the given heuristics were chosen) is the obvious "next step" to the game communicating what it wants to communicate.