| ▲ | Scaevolus 4 hours ago |
| Given how women initiate most divorces, it's probably best to set it up so they are the proposing side. But this isn't raw Gale-Shapley-- the participants aren't ranking all hundreds/thousands of others. In particular, the preference matrix is based on identical mutual compatibility scores, so there's a unique stable solution (not multiple stable ones!), and there's no "side" that benefits, since the solution is identical no matter who does the "proposing". |
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| ▲ | brabel 3 hours ago | parent | next [-] |
| If stats from dating websites are to be believed, all women tend to flock on all the same tiny percentage of men and ignore the rest. If women initiate, I’m afraid you will see only a few men getting any pairing. Men are likely to be less picky as we see in the wild. |
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| ▲ | stymaar 43 minutes ago | parent | next [-] | | > If stats from dating websites are to be believed, all women tend to flock on all the same tiny percentage of men and ignore the rest This is absolutely not an accidental phenomenon, this is the optimal outcome for dating apps, because that's the only way to prevent women from finding what they are looking for too quickly (and then leaving the app). | |
| ▲ | eru 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | For initiating, men are less picky. For marrying: I suspect they are about as picky? | |
| ▲ | ndr 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | Monogamy is half the reason this is stable on paper. |
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| ▲ | jjmarr 4 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| > the preference matrix is based on identical mutual compatibility scores Is that modeling the problem correctly? It seems pretty rare for two partners to have equal amounts of love for each other. |
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| ▲ | michaelt 3 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | If the goal is successful relationships, then probably? If I have 10/10 love for Halle Berry, and she has 4/10 love for my Jeff-Bezos-looking ass, it's the 4/10 that's going to dictate whether we live happily ever after. So our mutual compatibility is probably well below 10/10. | |
| ▲ | boxed 4 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | I don't think you can measure love at all, and certainly not guess it based on some info you can type into your phone, so that's rules out before we even get started. |
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| ▲ | SwtCyber 4 hours ago | parent | prev [-] |
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