If stats from dating websites are to be believed, all women tend to flock on all the same tiny percentage of men and ignore the rest. If women initiate, I’m afraid you will see only a few men getting any pairing. Men are likely to be less picky as we see in the wild.

> If stats from dating websites are to be believed, all women tend to flock on all the same tiny percentage of men and ignore the rest

This is absolutely not an accidental phenomenon, this is the optimal outcome for dating apps, because that's the only way to prevent women from finding what they are looking for too quickly (and then leaving the app).

For initiating, men are less picky.

For marrying: I suspect they are about as picky?

Monogamy is half the reason this is stable on paper.