I was all ready to respond and defend this guy, but... yeah, no.

All advice has limits. In this case, "telling your friends to schedule their calls with you" is that limit... and then some.

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Ancapistani 4 hours ago | parent [-]

I strongly disagree.

Maybe it's an age thing, a "head of household" thing, or just an A(u)DHD thing - but I've definitely been in places in my life where I didn't have time to do anything discretionary.

To put it another way - if they're willing to ask you to schedule time to talk to them, they're already violating social norms. Why would they bother to give you a way to get ahold of them if they didn't value the relationship? Why not just reply "I don't want to talk to you" instead?

It sounds to me like they're legitimately just way too busy, to the point that they're likely well down the road toward burnout and don't even have time for themselves.

	▲	63stack an hour ago \| parent \| next [-]
		Making demands about how you want to be contacted when the group has been trying to include you for years is a dick move at minimum. You can say sorry I'll call you back in 10 if you are busy. Trying to dress this up as adhd/age/head of household (what is that even??) is just expecting the world to revolve around you No, learn to be a decent person.
	▲	michaelt 3 hours ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		To me, it sounds like both sides are communicating successfully. The group of friends is saying "you are invited" to someone probably disinterested - polite and inclusive to some, bothersome spam to others. The 'workaholic' is saying "no thanks, and please stop bothering me" The group of friends is stopping bothering him Good clear adult communication, clearly expressing boundaries and gladly respecting them.