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▲ CMay a day ago

These weren't vulnerable people who had no capacity to make their own mature decisions and financial insecurity that trapped them into a situation. People who make it into these positions at a place like Nvidia are not idiots. I do think there are situations and approaches to getting into a relationship with someone who works for you that can be legitimately wrong, but it's highly unlikely that this is one of them outside of the fact he was married.

▲estearum a day ago | parent | next [-]

Tip: if you bring this perspective to a CEO role in a publicly traded company, you too will be fired.

▲CMay an hour ago | parent [-]

That is false and unlikely. Presumably if you're a CEO, part of it is that you've got more common sense than some other alternative. Use your common sense, not someone else's braindead ideological power structures oppression narrative to decide whether two people should get into a relationship. Companies are filters in a way, as are higher up positions, so there's just a higher chance that some of the factors at play for relationship forming are being amplified. If the nature of the relationship is such that it's relevant to the company, then inform the board and so on especially if it can have a PR angle.

There seems to be some kind of failed activist attempt in social media to make it sound like so many relationships are evil, bad, abusive and wrong, but in most cases this is not an issue. Trying to generalize them that way is a cynical approach to society. Of course you can find examples, because there are billions of people on the planet. I don't think it's inherently wrong to make people more aware that there can be issues where leverage is abused to establish a relationship, but at some point people go too far and generalize beyond what they understand.

▲dominotw a day ago | parent | prev [-]

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▲brailsafe a day ago | parent | next [-]

It's certainly a false equivalence to suggest that someone rich and smart, probably with alternative options and something to gain, is in a similarly vulnerable space as someone for whom losing their job means they're on the street by the end of the month.

▲totallymike a day ago | parent [-]

I disagree with your argument as stated, as offering promotions in exchange for sexual isn’t uncommon, and many times isn’t really a choice.

But I also think this perspective isn’t really the point. Regardless of the abusive nature, it’s still a tremendous conflict of interest for an affair of this nature to occur. The direct report would have a huge amount of leverage over Huang to keep the affair secret for one thing.

I don’t know the nature of these particular affairs, but regardless of who is or isn’t vulnerable, it’s still wildly inappropriate, and shouldn’t be tolerated

▲cunnymcface a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

How do you think executives that do work at this level meet people outside work?

The only people who understand this kind of job and what it takes are people in the same sort of area. And you’re prolly only meeting them in your own workplace.

At least if you’re boning someone from work you don’t have to watch everything you say the same way.

▲dominotw 17 hours ago | parent [-]

yes they have no option but to fuck ppl that work for them.

▲cunnymcface 10 hours ago | parent [-]

Turns out people who end up in your social circle tend to be compatible with your lifestyle.

Even more so if you’re also setting their schedule, never need to worry about their boss not giving them a free afternoon to fuck if you’re the boss.

▲devin-2030 a day ago | parent | prev | next [-]

If they make over half a million total comp, all good right?

▲CamperBob2 a day ago | parent | prev [-]

I like how nobody seems to consider the possibility that the employee(s) involved came on to him.

▲necovek a day ago | parent | next [-]

That's perfectly feasible and does not change the power dynamics at all.

I've seen people attracted to higher-ups ("coming on to them") in University and employment situations, and from outside looking in, the attraction could have been about the "power" the higher up was wielding (not necessarily using for bad; just the stature they had in the local society). TBH, people get attracted to people in power or with fame all the time (without actually knowing the person they are), so there is no reason it would be any different when there is a direct professional relationship.

Yes, this means it's tricky, and puts large demands on the "higher ups" — while they are similarly human with all their faults, it's still not necessarily the right thing to do — even, as a higher up, I'd struggle to differentiate if they are attracted to my "social standing" or to myself (if that can even be decoupled)?

▲dominotw 17 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

exactly. Jensen had no option but to fuck this person. How could he possibly say no. What a unique angle that you came up with. Lets bring jensen back now.

▲CamperBob2 17 hours ago | parent [-]

I'm just suggesting that removing the agency from the woman is probably not the intent of these lofty arguments, even though they have that effect.

▲dominotw 16 hours ago | parent [-]

So you removed Jensen's agency to say no?

Why are ppl doing these mental gymnastics for some billonaire who would scarifice your kids in heartbeat if it increased his bottom like by a dollar.

Can you explain you mindset?

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▲CamperBob2 12 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Can you explain the point you're trying to make? Or did you just want to ramble randomly about billionaires for a while?

▲dominotw 12 hours ago | parent [-]

> So you removed Jensen's agency to say no and made him a victim?

Why according to you does jensen have no agency? ( your original comment has any meaning if that is true, so i am assuming this is what you belive) .