> People should err on the side of minimizing disruption in quiet public spaces.

I hope that if you read what I wrote again[0] you'll realize that's a non-sequitur.

[0] My mid-write edits might have clarified.

I could be clearer. I’m saying that the fact that OP even noticed and was annoyed by it is evidence that facetime man is at fault, unless OP identifies as someone with a population-unusual hypersensitivity (eg autism, PTSD), which they didn’t.

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BugsJustFindMe 5 hours ago | parent [-]

That's not how fault works. At all. Ever. Noticing something and being annoyed is not evidence of anything other than your own emotions.

Here's a word substitution experiment to contemplate: Person A is angry because they noticed person B kissing person C openly in public. Which person is at fault? If you want, we can even say that the kiss was louder than anyone else's kiss, though what that means exactly in this scenario exists purely inside your head.

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smokedetector1 5 hours ago | parent [-]

Kissing != making noise. Maybe you need to consider paying more attention to how your actions affect others in public spaces

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BugsJustFindMe 4 hours ago | parent [-]

A few points:

1) You seem to be unaware of the fact that many people in the world feel personally affronted by public displays of affection. I think it's weird to not be aware of that, but man I wish I lived in that world because it seems a lot nicer than mine. The point is that their affrontery is theirs to own, not the other person's.

2) Also, I literally said you can imagine the kissing making noise if you want.

3) Also, so what. Replace kissing with literally any verb you want. It doesn't change anything, because the kissing isn't the point; the relationship between experiences and emotions is.

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smokedetector1 3 hours ago | parent [-]

is there anything, in your view, which would make someones behavior objectively rude?

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BugsJustFindMe 3 hours ago | parent [-]

Yes. Here's an example of one, please don't take it the wrong way...

You know how you just implicitly asked me to give you an example of one even though you asked me only a yes/no question? And you know how the most charitable interpretation of that request is that you actually want to better understand my position and not snidely imply that I don't have one? Well my answer to you is "Go fuck yourself. You aren't worth my time." (sorry, this is an example)

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smokedetector1 3 hours ago | parent [-]

Why is that rude? Youre just expressing yourself. Im responsible for my reaction. Right?

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BugsJustFindMe 3 hours ago | parent [-]

If you don't understand a difference between aggressively demeaning someone and existing in proximity, I don't know how to help you get there.

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		If you don’t understand the difference between existing in proximity and being disruptive then you are inconsiderate