Apple isn’t accepting new dating apps on iOS at the moment but one of my stealth projects was called Roster

It presents dating profiles like baseball cards

And acknowledges how people that identify as monogamous are not monogamous - they aspire for monogamy and have a deep discomfort with people that identify as nonmonogamous despite the aspirationally monogamous doing the same things in a harmful way

so “Roster” is just keeping up with the nomenclature and adding some honesty to it

There is a nonmonogamous side too for people that have that level of communication

But the twist is that we inform you when you are in an accidental polycule with varying levels of privacy and disclosure hehe, as well as tools to communicate about it the way that nonmonogamous people have promulgated

The athlete card style reminded me

▲ doodlesdev 4 hours ago | parent [-]

Regarding:

  > And acknowledges how people that identify as monogamous are not monogamous - they aspire for monogamy and have a deep discomfort with people that identify as nonmonogamous despite the aspirationally monogamous doing the same things in a harmful way

Could you elaborate further on this idea? At first, I just disagree completely, but I'm missing your reasoning and the actual thesis behind this idea.

	▲	yieldcrv 3 hours ago \| parent [-]
		a lot of monogamous people have multiple people they are seeing, having sex with in the dating and hookup world this is seen as normal enough for disagreeing to be called insecure, in the long term relationship world it is also common, a timeless tale even, and in between all of that there are partners that say “if it happens, I just don’t want to know about it” not monogamous, its just idealized for there not to be other partners ever and building relationships around policing each other’s sexuality forever is there another part you would like me to elaborate on?