thank you for this. what a sacred journey you're embarking on. i hope to follow you - talking with a close friend now about becoming an elevator mechanic. my wife is pregnant so i have to find a profession that comes reasonably close to tech salaries. i've been writing poetry by hand. i think the world you envision is possible, and closer.

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neutronicus 15 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

Do not do this until your youngest child is at least 4.

There is no profession better matching what women in western countries expect from a co-parent than tech. The money first and foremost, but the flexibility to work (more accurately, pretend to work) remotely, too.

Let me reiterate:

For your marriage, do not do this until your youngest child is at least 4.

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mrmarket 11 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

This would be ideal, but practically speaking, it will only become harder to switch careers and make up the income gap as I get older (i'm 30) and more people leave tech for less volatile industries. Plus, I don't think we'll be one and done re: kids. I don't think waiting is necessarily a smart long-term move given rising anti-tech sentiment among workers, even if it would be better to wait until the perfect age from a lifestyle perspective. This is just my opinion.

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shigawire 11 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

As someone who changed careers as my youngest was born - hard agree.

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tayo42 12 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

Incel logic for relationships. This isn't how people actually work. Lost my job, considering career switch, marriage and baby are fine

	▲	sergers 5 minutes ago \| parent [-]
		Everyone has different situations and different level of risk. If u lost your job already, u didn't choosingly give up a stable(don't know u, so guessing) job as the other person alludes (don't know their situation so people guessing here). So if u had a stable good paying job, giving it up to start something new while having a new kid can be very hard .. but doable. Still I'll advised. If u lost your job, based on job market, career switch makes total sense as you need to help provide and a career switch may provide a better or stable opp. Many people have successful home life/family life with no financial stability or even a job altogether...

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karmakurtisaani 20 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

> my wife is pregnant

You're just about to become much more dependent on a stable income.

> i have to find a profession that comes reasonably close to tech salaries. i've been writing poetry by hand.

These two sentences are completely independent of each other.

Sorry to be a downer, but once you have kids shit gets real and room for idealism shrinks fast.

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chasd00 6 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

> my wife is pregnant >> You're just about to become much more dependent on a stable income.

I would say your priorities and what you value are about to radically change. Parenthood is very instinctual, you'll work so much harder and struggle and worry so much more than you ever have but you'll find so much more joy than you ever thought existed at the same time. Once you hold your child for the first time the only thing that will matter will be your family and that will drive your decision making from there forward.

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mrmarket 17 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

> you're just about to become much more dependent on a stable income

would you consider the 2026 SaaS market stable? Very naive take.

> These two sentences are completely independent of each other.

They are two separate thoughts. Two thoughts that are separate can exist in one comment. They are just next to each other. The profession that comes close to tech salaries is elevator mechanic. The poetry is for my heart, which is related to this guy's post, in which he talks about leaving tech for the sake of his heart.

Not only are you a downer, but you have a highly unusual approach to parsing information.

	▲	Carrok a few seconds ago \| parent [-]
		Typically two sentences directly following one another are related. You are missing a paragraph to separate your completely unrelated thoughts. The person you are replying to has a normal way of passing information. You need to work on how you present your information.

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doug_durham 11 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

Why is it a sacred journey? They are quitting a job at Sentry and taking one a Home Depot. As much as I value the role that Home Depot plays in society I'd never use the word "sacred" to describe the work, nor the work at any other job.

	▲	mrmarket 5 minutes ago \| parent [-]
		I guess it depends on what sacred means to you. i'm not a religious person, so my definition is entirely personal, but i consider honoring yourself even when it looks like a failure to others, or even when it doesnt give you money/power etc. to be a holy act.