Do not do this until your youngest child is at least 4.

There is no profession better matching what women in western countries expect from a co-parent than tech. The money first and foremost, but the flexibility to work (more accurately, pretend to work) remotely, too.

Let me reiterate:

For your marriage, do not do this until your youngest child is at least 4.

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shigawire 41 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

As someone who changed careers as my youngest was born - hard agree.

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mrmarket 41 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

This would be ideal, but practically speaking, it will only become harder to switch careers and make up the income gap as I get older (i'm 30) and more people leave tech for less volatile industries. Plus, I don't think we'll be one and done re: kids. I don't think waiting is necessarily a smart long-term move given rising anti-tech sentiment among workers, even if it would be better to wait until the perfect age from a lifestyle perspective. This is just my opinion.

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tayo42 42 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

Incel logic for relationships. This isn't how people actually work. Lost my job, considering career switch, marriage and baby are fine

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sergers 35 minutes ago | parent [-]

Everyone has different situations and different level of risk.

If u lost your job already, u didn't choosingly give up a stable(don't know u, so guessing) job as the other person alludes (don't know their situation so people guessing here).

So if u had a stable good paying job, giving it up to start something new while having a new kid can be very hard .. but doable. Still I'll advised.

If u lost your job, based on job market, career switch makes total sense as you need to help provide and a career switch may provide a better or stable opp.

Many people have successful home life/family life with no financial stability or even a job altogether...

	▲	pasquinelli 19 minutes ago \| parent \| next [-]
		> Everyone has different situations and different level of risk. that's true, and also why it's prudent to not go around giving unsolicited family advice to strangers. also it's why, when you're talking about one particular woman you've never met, you should keep the demographic insights you think you have about her to yourself.
	▲	mrmarket 30 minutes ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		important context for me is that layoffs keep eating my company every 6 months or so, meanwhile the due date is fast approaching. treading shark-infested waters