There is also that idea of surrounding yourself with "good people" or like minded, people you want to be.

I was friendly to everyone and one guy he just drank all the time, reeked of alcohol, no prospects in life, no ambition. Am I supposed to force myself to be around this person just to be nice/equal terms. I want to be around ambitious people.

No one wants to be around an alcoholic. But it's not to be nice, but to understand them, their struggles, and their perspectives.

Anecdote - I was at a concert with my brother, outside in the smoking area. A homeless woman came by, didn't say anything but was kinda just looking around. My brother is the only one who spoke to her, he offered his cigarette butt. Which is exactly what she was looking for.

Never would have occured to me- but I would guess it made her feel more seen and human.

I like being around people who talk about interesting things other than sports. I remain baffled at how people find sports interesting.