| ▲ | formerly_proven 7 hours ago |
| > And the West is also largely not keen on producing new humans (time and costs as much as anything else). In my state the immediate costs to parents for raising a kid up to the age of 18 are around eight median gross incomes with the opportunity costs usually estimated about as high. This means having a kid loses parents around one quarter to one third of their total lifetime income. That's before even considering environmental factors. I don't think there's a decision an average person can make that's more ecologically destructive than having a child. Having kids is a financial and ecological disaster. As an outside observer it's remarkable to me people are still having any kids at all, which speaks to the strong subjective factors overpowering whatever objective considerations one might have about it. |
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| ▲ | chrisweekly 6 hours ago | parent | next [-] |
| Add in college and support through early-twenties (pretty baseline scenario for upper-middle class parents in the US) and the financial calculation is even tougher. That said, if the most thoughtful potential parents don't have and raise civic-minded children, the percentage of new humans raised by less "enlightened" parents will increase, leading to a downward spiral. For my part, I'm confident that the world is a better place because my two daughters are in it, and I'm definitely a better person for having been their father. |
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| ▲ | brightball 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| > This means having a kid loses parents around one quarter to one third of their total lifetime income. There's no better investment. |
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| ▲ | subscribed 6 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | Do you suggest every generation has it better in terms of the disposable income, so the kids can easily afford to support themselves _and_ fund their parents retirement? :) | | |
| ▲ | brightball 3 hours ago | parent [-] | | I suggest that the costs around children are a marketing scare tactic from people who want to create a fear of having children. |
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| ▲ | anal_reactor 6 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | VWCE | | |
| ▲ | okanat 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | Unfortunately our economic system is a ponzi scheme that requires having children while constantly putting them into deeper and deeper debt. It will eventually collapse and take VWCE with it. |
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| ▲ | bavell 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| HN bio checks out. Kids are an investment, not a sunk cost. |
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| ▲ | mcmcmc 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| Anti-natalism is such a weird concept to me. Taken to the logical extreme aren’t you just arguing we should all kill ourselves? |
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| ▲ | __alexs 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| Having kids is pretty far down my priority list but like, there's more to life than earning money. |
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| ▲ | subscribed 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | Sure, as long as you're comfortable, meaning you can find a good job that will work around your parental duties, and thst pays well enough you can rent or buy within a catchment area :) Sure, that's doable. Millions of working parents in powerty in every G7 country can attest how easy it is. | | |
| ▲ | __alexs 5 hours ago | parent [-] | | I grew up only a notch or two above poverty, I know what it's like and you can still be a good parent and not well off. |
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| ▲ | Levitz 5 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| Kids that the population doesn't have will simply get imported from other countries. It has no impact. |
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| ▲ | leoedin 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| > Having kids is a financial and ecological disaster. As an outside observer it's remarkable to me people are still having any kids at all, which speaks to the strong subjective factors overpowering whatever objective considerations one might have about it. Objectively if no-one has kids then there will be no more humans. I guess you could consider that an ecological win. If you don't, then someone has to have kids. |
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| ▲ | thrownthatway 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | No, there will be plenty of Hindus and Muslims, cos they largely don’t give a fuck about any of this noise. But Christianity and Western Civilisation can kiss its own arse goodbye if it thinks this is a reasonable ideology to instil in to its young people. Don’t have kids because it’ll economically ruin your life, and it’s bad for the environment anyway. Righteo then, get on ya spaceship n fuck off to Mars then. Free up some resources and economy for us who believe having a family is the most important thing humans can do and that Western civilisation is actually pretty neat! | | |
| ▲ | inglor_cz 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | "No, there will be plenty of Hindus and Muslims, cos they largely don’t give a fuck about any of this noise." Have you looked at the TFRs in India and more developed Muslim countries lately? Mostly under 2 and still dropping like a stone. Turkey, Iran or UAE are every bit as much on the road to disastrous demography as Europe is, only with some delay. Does not surprise me... in both Europe and East Asia, the worst and deepest drops in fertility happened in previously very socially conservative societies (Spain, South Korea), while the trend was less sharp and sudden in, say, Scandinavia. | | |
| ▲ | thrownthatway 5 hours ago | parent [-] | | Well fuck hey. Israel may be mankind’s only hope. As far as I’m aware Israel is the only developed Western nation with a fertility rate above replacement. Of course, it’s more nuanced than that. Definitely seems to be a positive correlation between religiosity and fertility rate. |
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| ▲ | bombcar 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| Then I can be a millionaire just by having five, six kids! Because that is 48 median gross incomes, which is $4m. Better growth curve than most YC startups! |
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| ▲ | ben_w 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | Losing money on each unit and making up for it in scale may win VC money, but doesn't work elsewhere. |
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| ▲ | NeutralForest 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| > Having kids is a financial and ecological disaster. As an outside observer it's remarkable to me people are still having any kids at all, which speaks to the strong subjective factors overpowering whatever objective considerations one might have about it. Absolutely insane take imo. You do you man. |
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| ▲ | thrownthatway 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
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| ▲ | artursapek 6 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| Having kids and raising them is your primary purpose as a man. Anything else you spend your time on is secondary to that. |
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| ▲ | thrownthatway 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | You’re absolutely 100% correct. As a mid-fourties family-less man, I absolutely regret many of the decisions I’ve made that got me here. I’ve realised I’ve been playing at a low steaks table. Smashing box and doing drugs is something a guy should do very briefly, if at all, in his early twenties. This is not a Man’s Game. Then he’d better man up and focus on what is Good and Right or his life will be a fucking waste. I mean even just purely selfishly, being frail-aged and having no one who genuine cares about me is fucking terrifying. | | |
| ▲ | artursapek 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | Damn, that’s heavy man. I’m sorry. I don’t know your situation but men are fortunate enough to be able to reproduce later in life so you could still turn it around. I had my first kid accidentally in college and dropped out to focus on that. Very grateful for it. | | |
| ▲ | thrownthatway 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | I also had a vasectomy about seven years ago, which are notoriously difficult to reverse. > I had my first kid accidentally in college and dropped out to focus on that. Very grateful for it. Good man. |
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| ▲ | nokz 6 hours ago | parent | prev [-] |
| This (rational) attitude is why state pensions need to have a strong correlation with the number of children you parent until they complete secondary schooling -- there needs to be a financial payoff for the time, effort and money invested; those children are the ones financing the state pensions. |
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| ▲ | ben_w 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | The people planning for retirement are mostly past child raising age; the best way to have bugger families is to encourage low standards and unprotected sex amongst young adults, which is the exact opposite of the public health and morality pressure my entire generation and those that followed me have been on the recieving end of. That said, medical tech is speeding up like everything else, so non-human surrogacy, artificial wombs, longevity meds, are all likely to impact this balance on similar timescales to such a cultural shift. | | |
| ▲ | thrownthatway 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | > bigger families is to encourage low standards and unprotected sex amongst young adults Factually incorrect. The best way to ensure big families is to foster a culture getting marriage younger, stating married, and starting families younger. Women have their best years of fertility from about 17 to their early thirties. Telling young women to prioritise long educations and a career over family is counter productive to carrying on a civilisation, and has largely gone on to be proven something many women regret - unsurprisingly. Strong, cohesive, multigenerational families don’t come simply from encouraging young people to have unprotected sex, although yes that is a crude component of it. | | |
| ▲ | ben_w 5 hours ago | parent [-] | | You have a western view of things. There are other cultures which have communal upbringing, e.g. Kibbutz, Hadza, and ǃKung; and while they have ceremonies which are called marriage, Europe has seen religious conflicts over the things smaller than the difference between ǃKung and Catholic marriage sanctity. The fact is that marriage as it is understood in the west today bears little in common with the institution of the same name in the same place in the 1950s, which itself was different from the institution of the same name in the 1800s depending on if you were in a Catholic or Protestant area, all of which differ from the institution of the same name in the 1500s, all of which differ from the institution of the same name in the 1200s, which themselves varied from Roman and Greek marriage that were different from each other. In the present day, the Mosuo so-called "walking marriage" is essentially indistinguishable from what a European or American would call "teens dating and being allowed to stay the night". > Strong, cohesive, multigenerational families I didn't say any of those adjectives. The Mosuo case demonstrates your claim is false, regardless. Furthermore, when the fear is a concern of not enough workers in the next generation to pay out the pensions of the old, it is unclear why any of your list of adjectives matter. | | |
| ▲ | thrownthatway 4 hours ago | parent [-] | | You’re a cultural relativist. You think all cultures are equal? They’re not. Only one culture gave us pretty much everything the modern world enjoys today: Western European culture. Microchips, invented be Westerners. Electricity. Telecommunications. Space travel, space probes, space telescopes. We pioneered and perfected all of those things. First to end slavery. Universal suffrage, gay marriage. We did all of that. Modern medicine, antibiotics. First to solve HIV. Eradicated malaria, tuberculosis, polio. All Western achievement. Other than the Jewish tradition you mentioned, the others are merely irrelevant. Other then Israel in the Middle East, basically no one is queuing to get in to countries other then Western ones. Everyone wants to come to the advanced European economies, France and Germany, the UK, and the US, Canada, New Zealand, Australia. Why? Because we’re awesome and everyone wants what we have. |
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