I'm bad at this, not that I want to be. Well I'm bad at it with women. I go to these workplace happy hours and I just sit there in silence. Hard to relate to people talking about the house they own or kids since I don't have either. I know to be a good conversationalist you just gotta ask them questions.

It's not good to be alone, I was in a car crash one time and my buddies pulled up on the scene and gave me a ride home.

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Nemi an hour ago | parent | next [-]

ok, so please don't take this wrong, but that last sentence was such a non-sequitur that I think I know what at least some of your problem is talking to other people.

EDIT: wait, I am going to go out on a limb and say that you meant "I was in a car crash of a conversation one time and my buddies pulled up on the scene and gave me a ride home."

	▲	lunchbucket 7 minutes ago \| parent \| next [-]
		Their meaning is very clear to me ("It's not good to be alone, for example one time I was in a lot of danger and a friend helped me").
	▲	ge96 29 minutes ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		I was literally in a car crash and friends (not in the crash) helped me get home is what I'm saying eg. good to not be alone/make friends

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reedf1 an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

hey not to give unsolicited advice but to share my experience - it took me a long time to realize that I'm not anti-social, but just anti-party and anti-work social. I flourish in most other spaces - especially hobby spaces.

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ge96 28 minutes ago | parent [-]

yeah the thing is I'm good talking to dudes, like cars this guy shows me his Porsche/I sit in it, has laser jammers built in, crazy. Like yeah when you're both into something you just connect

my problem with women is I only interact with them when I'm physically interested in them otherwise I leave them alone so yeah I'm on edge like "I gotta land her" kind of thing, which I'm not saying is good, as proof of this I haven't been in a relationship with a girl for 12 years, not that I haven't had the opportunity but I'm also picky which, I need to be impressive myself to match it but yeah

	▲	reedf1 17 minutes ago \| parent [-]
		Sounds like you understand the problem. My read is that you have a likeable frenetic personality; it won't be for everyone but some people will be really attracted to it, best not to question it and just be yourself.