When you start hearing things like “you do you” or “if you know you know” it means that you went way too far. That’s a sign of discomfort.

If you make uncomfortable, you won’t get diverging perspectives. People will agree to anything to get out of a social situation that makes them uncomfortable.

If your goal is meaningful conversation, you may want to consider how you make people feel.

Believe me (or don't), I always do. Even when this precludes a necessary conversation from happening. Even when the other party doesn't give a fuck about how they make others feel.

After all, if they're making me uncomfortable, surely there's something making them uncomfortable, which they're not being able to be forthright about, but with empathy I could figure it out from contextual cues, right?

>People will agree to anything to get out of a social situation that makes them uncomfortable.

That's fine as long as they have someone to take care of them.

In my experience, taking into account the opinions of such people has been the worst mistake of my life. I'm still working on the means to fix its consequences, as much as they are fixable at all.

"Doing whatever for the sake of avoiding mild discomfort" is cowardice, laziness, narcissism - I'm personally partial to the last one, but take your pick. In any case, I consider it a fundamentally dishonest attitude, and a priori have no wish to get along (i.e. become interdependent) with such people.

Other than that, I do agree with your overall sentiment and the underlying value system; I'm just not so sure any more that it is in fact correct.

Believe me (or don't), I always do. Even when this precludes a necessary conversation from happening. Even when the other party doesn't give a fuck about how they make others feel.

After all, if they're making me uncomfortable, surely there's something making them uncomfortable, which they're not being able to be forthright about, but with empathy I could figure it out from contextual cues, right?

>People will agree to anything to get out of a social situation that makes them uncomfortable.

That's fine as long as they have someone to take care of them.

In my experience, taking into account the opinions of such people has been the worst mistake of my life. I'm still working on the means to correct its consequences.

"Doing whatever for the sake of avoiding mild discomfort" is cowardice, laziness, narcissism - I'm personally partial to the last one, but take your pick. In any case, I see it as a way of being which is taught to people; and one which is fundamentally dishonest and irresponsible.

Other than that, I do agree with your overall sentiment and the underlying value system; I'm just not so sure any more that it is in fact correct.