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throwawayohio 3 hours ago

Living in a city that this administration has constantly been attacking forced me and my wife, as well as many of our neighbors, to put off our family growth plans. Not only did many of my neighbors lose their jobs, but others are simply fearful of living their lives.

We're fine financially, have housing, etc, but at this point why would we go through the stress of raising a child when a masked federal agent might jump out and disappear our friends, family, or nanny who could be watching them?

And that is before we even get into the potentially disastrous child healthcare decisions and regulation rollbacks.

It's an unfortunate time to be trying to grow a healthy family, IMO.

ETA: I already have children.

ryandrake 3 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Many of our family's friends have already left back to their home countries (bringing their own families with them). Risk/reward calculation has abruptly changed. The risk to your life and livelihood is not worth it, and the reward of living in the US has been steadily declining.

mattmaroon 2 hours ago | parent [-]

That is almost certainly the reason why they are making such a spectacle of it. Self deportation is the goal.

CoastalCoder 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

> Self deportation is the goal.

Perhaps.

GP didn't say whether or not there were any legal clouds over the persons he's describing. The answer to that makes a big difference to his point.

thinkingtoilet an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

The goal is to rile the base and distract from the fact that there is no improvement in cost of living, healthcare, education, etc... tourism is down, farmers are losing their farms en masse, etc... It was trans people yesterday, Somalians today, and it will be someone else tomorrow. If that wasn't bad enough, it's clear the president and other powerful men (of both parties) were engaged in an international child sex trafficking ring. It's all a distraction and there are enough hateful Americans for it to work for now.

mattmaroon 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I certainly don’t agree with the things the administration is doing, but this seems like just hysteria. You are putting off your family growth plans because they might deport a theoretical future undocumented nanny? It is strange to me how generalized partisan fear has become.

a_better_world 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

I guess you don't live in Minneapolis, or another targeted metro area. It is hard to imagine what it is like to live in a city where 3000 masked and poorly trained people cos-playing special forces are specifically tasked with arresting as many people as they can and told that they have full immunity.

you haven't seen the effect on schools when federal agents enter school grounds and take kids away.

you haven't seen my parent's nursing home sending the senior leadership outside the building to look for patrols before they let the staff leave (the staff is all legal/greencard holders, but see note above -- ICE doesn't care).

It's not hysteria when it is your every day lived experience.

mattmaroon 2 hours ago | parent [-]

There have been several raids in my city, but it is definitely nothing like what is going on in Minneapolis.

matthewkayin 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Don't be ridiculous, talking about "partisan fear". They have taken away documented, American citizens without due process.

When armed men can take you out of your home or your car and whisk you away without a judicial warrant and without due process, it is very reasonable to be afraid.

mattmaroon 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

It’s really not. Define taken away. They’ve absolutely detained some citizens, then let them go.

And again, not defending what they are doing, they are awful,but you are probably more likely to be hit by lightning than you are to have any of your family planning go wrong because of them if you are a full citizen. (If you are undocumented here right now, yeah, totally.)

Hysterical people think they are being rational and stuff like this is exactly what they say.

prh8 an hour ago | parent | next [-]

Their own data reports that they are holding tens of thousands of citizens who have committed no crimes.

They have murdered people in broad daylight and allowing many more to suffer and even die in their facilities.

People are not being hysterical, and the people who are downplaying or ignoring this are showing that they are in fact evil.

kadabra9 8 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

Tens of thousands of "citizens" or "residents"?

There's an important distinction here.

Izikiel43 9 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

> Their own data reports that they are holding tens of thousands of citizens who have committed no crimes.

A source would be nice

bigyabai an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

> you are probably more likely to be hit by lightning

I get that you're trying to rationalize this scenario, but this line is completely false. If there was a nation-wide wave of aviation terrorism, it would not be appropriate to say that you're "more likely to be hit by lightning" than risk your life in a plane. The situation has changed, and they're not being hysterical for observing the trends and adjusting accordingly.

Lightning has a relatively static chance of hitting you. The likelihood of feds accidentally executing you in your hometown is on the rise, and we don't know when it will stop climbing.

kadabra9 a few seconds ago | parent [-]

I'm actually quite confident the likelihood of ICE executing me is zero.

I don't make a habit of interfering in immigration enforcement operations and trying to run agents over.

a_better_world 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

or just shoot you while you are in your car.

throwawayohio 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

What?

This happened a few blocks from my home: https://www.washingtonpost.com/dc-md-va/2025/08/17/dc-arrest...

As did this: https://www.thedailybeast.com/ice-goons-tear-down-pro-immigr...

These neighborhoods are high income, predominantly white, and filled with families.

My oldest has come home terrified because he turned a corner while playing outside and physically bumped in a guardsman carry a rifle.

I get it that some of you don't live in places that are immediately impacted by this administration, but some of us have to confront this on a daily basis.

mattmaroon 2 hours ago | parent [-]

So because ice detained a Venezuelan national or tore down a banner an American citizen should be fearful of having kids? You realize you’re proving my point I hope?

My city has had ICE raids since early on. I just am not hysterical.

throwawayohio 2 hours ago | parent [-]

I'm sorry but your summary of what I posted is so selective that I have to assume you're replying in bad faith.

brettgriffin an hour ago | parent [-]

I just read both articles and I think his summary is accurate enough to stand behind his claim that putting off having children (if you want them) because of a theoretical situation qualified as 'hysterical' (assuming everyone in your household is authorized). I don't think he was replying in bad faith, even if you two disagree.

MyHonestOpinon an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I am with you, it is a scary time. I have to remind myself that we have gone through worst times. My grandfather grew up in a ranch, at 22, along with his extended family and friends, they took arms and joined a revolution, they overthrew a dictator. They fought on the back of a horse for years. It was a rough life, but they endured, and here I am. Enjoying a life so comfortable that would be unimaginable for them. You cannot stop moving in life because things can go wrong.

estearum 43 minutes ago | parent [-]

Eh, my grandfather lived through World War 2 and he was a lot less confident that "we have gone through worse times" than you are.

Physical comforts are a small piece of the equation.

reliabilityguy 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

With all due respect, but this extremely biased and US-centric view. IT was not easier to have kids in 2024 or 2023, both in the EU or US. Childcare is expensive, pace of life today (and the past 20 years at least) implicitly treats kids as a liability and a detriment to career progression and financial security.

throwawayohio 3 hours ago | parent [-]

Yes, this article is about the US.

And I live in a place single digit blocks from multiple places where ICE agent behavior has made national headlines. I have no financial reservations.

b0rtb0rt an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

imagine ending your genetic line because you’re upset about the current us president

WhompingWindows an hour ago | parent | next [-]

What a bizarre comment. Who cares about their genetic line? Are you evolution itself? Do you have stakes in making sure your genes make it to the future?

b0rtb0rt an hour ago | parent [-]

who cares about their genetic line? literally every human being who has wanted grand children

nancyminusone 17 minutes ago | parent [-]

Hm, seems greedy to me.

throwawayohio an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

A weird comment to make to someone who already has children, but I guess at least we can all be happy that my kids are being raised by parents that can read?

oklahomasports 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

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throwawayohio 3 hours ago | parent [-]

what an insanely insulting reply. this site sucks now.

gadders 3 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

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neogodless 3 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Given that I.C.E. has been allowed to stop people just for not looking white enough, and even white citizens have been shot for being "near" I.C.E. operations, I would suggest that it is not safe to assume someone is not a citizen, just because I.C.E. makes them feel unsafe in their neighborhood.

greenavocado 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

> even white citizens have been shot for being "near" I.C.E. operations

Explain exactly what you are referring to

andrewla 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

I'm sorry, is this serious? Yes, Kavanaugh stops do exist and are problematic. But the question is -- are they doing them? Almost all of their operations in Minnesota (just assuming Minnesota here, apologies if I have mischaracterized) have been targeted operations, where they are pursuing a specific individual.

The two situations where someone was fatally shot were both targeted; they were not just grabbing brown people off the street and throwing them in the paddy wagon.

And if you're going to pretend that they just happened to be "near" ICE operations, and not actively trying to interfere and obstruct their operations (while attempting to stay technically inside the bounds of the law) then I don't think we can have a good faith conversation here.

The vast majority of people in Minnesota are simply unaffected by these operations. Many people have convinced themselves that they are at risk but this is not reflective of reality.

throwawayohio 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

> If you claim to be changing your life in any way in response to this then you're just putting a fig leaf on decisions that you've already made.

How insulting. Bad faith arguments have become way too prevalent on this site.

epistasis 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Agreed. You are not alone, all of us see what's going on, and it only takes a few bad actors that are highly motivated to cause the craziness you see on display here.

Regular, normal people are still in the majority, we just need to acknowledge each other and not let the propagandists flood the zone.

andrewla an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

I will remove that accusation in the interests of not distracting from my main point. I don't know you and the particulars of your situation and apologize for an unsupported insinuation.

WhompingWindows an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

If someone sees the world around them getting worse, I think it's pretty logical to not bring a child into that society.

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rectang 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

You think only non-citizens are under assault? Are you familiar with “Kavanaugh Stops”?

andrewla 2 hours ago | parent [-]

Yes, the idea of Kavanaugh Stops is problematic. The problem is that they are not happening.

Even ProPublica's reporting [1], while in the headline claiming these stops are problematic, reveals that there are a whopping 9 cases that they've found where racial profiling appears to be a factor.

[1] https://www.propublica.org/article/immigration-dhs-american-...

epistasis 36 minutes ago | parent [-]

You link to an October 2025 article documenting 9 "Kavanaugh stops" to somehow claim that they don't happen?

You link to an article that is "We Found That More Than 170 U.S. Citizens Have Been Held by Immigration Agents. They’ve Been Kicked, Dragged and Detained for Days." and which has reporting inside that describes the 170 cases of ICE detaining citizens.

Note that detainment is more severe and different from the harassment of the 9 that you somehow claim refute Kavanaugh stops.

But even if the article were as you incorrectly describe it, it would be fallacious to say that because a single article doesn't describe something, it doesn't exist! That's a critical thinking and logic 101 error. And far far below the standards of HN comments.

epistasis 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

ICE threatens everyone, regardless of citizenship. They daily detain citizens without even bothering to ask "papers please". They menace and threaten and intimidate people just out and about in the neighborhood.

The ICE raids have little to do with immigration, they are a secret police force meant to cause terror in communities with their lawless violence. It is a politically driven attack on a state that had the audacity not to vote for Trump, nothing more.

andrewla 2 hours ago | parent [-]

Simply not true. Even ProPublica's reporting [1], despite the grand headlines, does not support this. They found a total of 9 cases where racial profiling appeared to be a factor. The remaining cases were either people who actively tried to obstruct or interfere with ICE operations or cases where there was probable cause.

They menace and threaten "people just out and about in the neighborhood"? It is hard to engage in good faith when you are baldly making statements that are completely unsupported. There have been two tragic deaths in which ICE (or BP) agents seem to be at fault, but the victims were not just "out and about" and making that claim is incredibly disingenuous.

[1] https://www.propublica.org/article/immigration-dhs-american-...

epistasis 2 hours ago | parent [-]

For anybody looking on, this sort of Big Lie behavior is extremely common in the US these days. All that crazy stuff Europeans are seeing with JD Vance and Trump's Greenland behvaior is what everyday Americans experience on a wide range of topics.

Having somebody link to a source that directly refutes their own claims, while acting indignant, is something I've experienced multiple times in the past week! It's quite shocking.

When the Trump administration went so hard on open lies that are directly contradicted by videos we all saw of ICE events, it was vice-signaling that started even greater amounts of bearing false witness. Openly lying seems to signal "in-group" status these days, like the sign in the green grocer's shop[1]. Get people to lie about the evidence they see with their eyes, and the become completely controlled, because to do so is to have total subservience to their master. No more eyes or ears except for those of their master. People that used to have values slowly abandon them, all in service to the lie that they are living. "The party told you to reject the evidence of your eyes and ears. It was their final, most essential command."

That is the state of the US at the moment. I have hope that we can return to our former sanity, or at least ensure that the reigns of power are in the hands of normal, centrist people instead of the extreme fringes, but it is in no way certain.

[1] As Carney recently referenced from Vaclav Havel; here's a recentish essay on it: https://hac.bard.edu/amor-mundi/the-power-of-the-powerless-v...

andrewla an hour ago | parent [-]

For anybody looking on, THIS sort of Big Lie behavior is extremely common in the US these days.

Having a source that makes a false claim as a headline but refutes their own claims, while acting indignant, is extremely common in a media landscape that wants to signal their "in-group" status.

watwut 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

ICE was arresting people whether they are citizens or not, whether they have legal status or not. They also beat people because they wanna.

pbhjpbhj 2 hours ago | parent [-]

They beat people because Trump and his regime want them to.

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