What if you have a community but it's boring and uninspiring? It's always the same shit, STEM nerds, who can only talk shop, tech, video games, sports and bitcoin/crypto/libertarianism/ancap stuff. I mean, I've moved like 3 times in the span of 7 years and every time I end up in the same kind of community. Also, no women. :(

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amadeoeoeo 4 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Get a new hobby out of your compfort zone? (Should imply some human interaction e.g. Reading Club, Team sport, Language Exchange...)

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maccard 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

If everywhere you go stinks, look under your own shoe.

If you move somewhere, and find the same circles why are you surprised that you’re still not happy?

> also, no women

Social groups aren’t just a place for unhappy people to meet a partner. I’d look inwards first.

	▲	jwarden 3 hours ago \| parent [-]
		Ouch! I don’t think that’s fair. It sounds like his professional life or personal interests naturally being him in contact with a social circle that isn’t fulfilling socially. Doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with him. I say, look outward! Intentionally get involved with other social circles.

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zaphar 4 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

You can have more than one community. Find some new ones. Look deliberately for a different kind of community. Take dance or art classes at your community college. Join a sport club. There are lots of options.

	▲	KellyCriterion 3 hours ago \| parent [-]
		Dance classes are great for getting to known other people, esp. women: Most dance classes lack enough men (for whatever reason) I had a colleague who was member of a dance club, then he had to move to another district, making it super uncomfortable to continue on a regular base - up until today they are calling him every few weeks if he can attend because lack of men

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littlecranky67 3 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Well the author suggest starting your own community. If you do art classes, yoga, social dancing etc. you will probably have less crypto bros and more woman there.