| ▲ | crazygringo 5 hours ago | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
How? They don't know what exactly has gone wrong. All they can say sorry for is for how the person is feeling. Then they want to get on a call to learn more. Which is the start of helping. The response is as sincere and helpful as it could be for an initial response from someone who wants to figure out what the problem is. | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| ▲ | rileymat2 5 hours ago | parent | next [-] | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
But he lists the problems? Pretty unambiguously. | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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| ▲ | GuinansEyebrows 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
even if that were the case (others have explained why that’s not so), that would be an inappropriate time to apologize. you don’t apologize for how someone else feels. you apologize when you recognize that you did something harmful and when the harmed party is amenable to receiving it. otherwise, you’re really just being a jerk who’s only acknowledging that you don’t like how someone else feels. | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||