▲ | Smart People Can Stop Being Miserable(theatlantic.com) | |||||||
28 points by handfuloflight a day ago | 8 comments | ||||||||
▲ | benoau a day ago | parent | next [-] | |||||||
There was an episode of House that took a deep dive down this rabbit hole, "Ignorance is Bliss": https://house.fandom.com/wiki/Ignorance_is_Bliss > But at the top of the episode is the relationship between Sidas and his wife Dara. Years before, Sidas realizes that he derives only anxiety from his work as the pressure on him to come up with even more brilliant ideas becomes unbearable. This parallels House's recent breakdown when House realizes the satisfaction he derives from his work is at risk, and then finds that it's the only thing that makes his life bearable. Both Sidas and House try to find solace in relationships, but they both have severe deficits when trying to bond with people – their intellect gets in the way. Sidas seems to have found the answer – a way to turn his intellect down to normal without damaging it permanently. He does it because he truly cares for Dara and realizes that in his "clear" state, he will punish her for her limited intellect. | ||||||||
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▲ | hn_user82179 a day ago | parent | prev | next [-] | |||||||
I didn't understand this article at all. It's funny, the author mentions the dunning-kruger effect but I feel like most of the audience of this article will fall into this mental trap of thinking themselves more intelligent that they are (rather, that the article applies to them). Especially the suggestions addressed to self-identifying smart people: > 1. Give your ideas away. > It amazes me how many pious philanthropists give generously to charity but are loath to share the secrets of their success. Maybe I'm naive but I don't think there are a lot of "million dollar ideas" that are just being hoarded and all people have to do is share them > 2. Don’t use your intelligence to tear others down. > Deploying cleverness for one-upmanship, sarcasm, and snark is easy. This has nothing to do with intelligence and everything to do with negativity (and self-esteem, if someone is tearing others down to feel better about themselves). The one thing I found interesting was > the researchers also found a strongly negative association between happiness and vocabulary. To explain this, they offered a hypothesis: People with a large vocabulary “self-select more challenging environments, and as a result may encounter more daily stressors and reduced positive affect.” ... (They talk themselves into misery.) That logic doesn't track for me, I feel like simpler explanations could be be that people fall into a lower level of vocabulary (a more common set of words) as they socialize with a variety of people. Or just office workers and academics broadly seem to be more frequently depressed (my theory is partially the sedentary lifestyle and lack of sun) and they have a larger vocabulary from communicating more through writing than orally. | ||||||||
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▲ | kbelder 20 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | |||||||
My uncertain guess is that intelligent people often are miserable as a way to protect their self-esteem. By having such a pessimistic and defeatist attitude about the world and other people, they can excuse away any problems as being out of their control. But, I generally think most psychological issues revolve around self-esteem, and the individual's desire to protect it and boost it, often by denial and self-deception. | ||||||||
▲ | snvzz a day ago | parent | prev | next [-] | |||||||
▲ | stormfather a day ago | parent | prev | next [-] | |||||||
If you're of a mind to, ask for the Holy Spirit. Maybe its placebo, maybe its not. Doesn't hurt to try. | ||||||||
▲ | snvzz a day ago | parent | prev [-] | |||||||
It's easy, just become stupid. Then you'll be happy like them. (joking... please don't.) |