| ▲ | dfxm12 2 days ago |
| I used to be uptight about how to load the dishwater until I put away a load that was packed by my partner, "like a raccoon on meth", and noticed there wasn't a difference in the cleanliness. Now I just worry about buying new bowls. Will the bowls fit nicely given pitch and angle of the of the dealies on the rack? The bowls I inherited from my grandmother fit so nicely in any dishwasher I've loaded them into, but now they're starting to crack... |
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| ▲ | spiffytech 2 days ago | parent | next [-] |
| Some things won't matter, some will. I think it's changed over time as dishwashers and detergents got better. The article mentions that newer detergents do better with unrinsed dishes. And I remember a commercial about a dishwasher that could eat a cake. My old model sure couldn't do that! If I wasn't careful I'd find hunks of food sitting inside after it ran. It also used to be that putting thin tupperware on the bottom rack was a sure way to melt it. Now I can't remember the last time that happened to me. Things that used to provably matter... now don't. On the other hand, I have a family member who loads the spoons in a big pile, and they stick together and don't get clean. Or, I had roommates who kept putting my good knives in the dishwasher, and the finish got ruined. That stuff still matters. I like the article's conclusion: we can just get the answers, and update our knowledge. We don't have to treat this like a pre-internet argument, where we just went in circles repeating heresay. |
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| ▲ | anon7000 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Another example is plates tall enough to block the top spinner. Or plates pressed together so much that water can’t get in between. | |
| ▲ | hbsbsbsndk 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | When I was cleaning my dishwasher I realized there are two ways to configure it: with a in-sink garbage disposal, and without. If you don't have the garbage disposal part hooked up there is simply nowhere for the chunks to go and they accumulate at the bottom of the washer beneath a filter. | |
| ▲ | ioseph 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | What do you mean by finish? I put all my knives in without issue but probably wouldn't do wooden handles |
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| ▲ | Swizec 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| > I used to be uptight about how to load the dishwater until I put away a load that was packed by my partner, "like a raccoon on meth", and noticed there wasn't a difference in the cleanliness. My partner loads the dishwasher like a raccoon on meth. I do it like a software engineer who's been thinking about The One True Way To Organize Things for decades. Cleanliness is fine either way. But I really hate that she can't fit a full day's worth of dishes in there so I have to do an extra load later. |
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| ▲ | grepLeigh 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | On the other side of this argument, I've seen "just run the dishwasher twice" used as shorthand for giving yourself permission to do whatever is needed to get the job done and not letting perfectionism paralyze you from making progress. This blog excerpt explains the idea [1]: > Knowing this week was going to be a lot, I’ve been living by “run the dishwasher twice”. What the hell does that even mean?! Essentially it means to do whatever is the path of least resistance to get shit done. The advice came from a therapist to a woman who was feeling very low & was struggling with everyday tasks such as doing the dishes. She didn’t have the mental capacity to scrub dishes before putting them in her crappy dishwasher so she wasn’t doing them & they were building up & causing her more anxiety. Her therapist said not to rinse the dishes & just run the dishwasher twice, even three times if that’s what it took to get them clean. It was a game-changer for her, one that enabled her to do a small task in an imperfect way just to get it done. I wish the OP article had dug a little bit deeper into the psychology behind daily task conflict in relationships. The dishwasher is one of many microcosms (laundry, car, pets, etc) that I wish I'd paid more attention to in my relationships, because these conversations really do reveal relationship dynamics around HUGE issues like compromise, empathy, perfectionism, and judgmental behavior. [1] https://thebackfenceblog.wordpress.com/2021/08/27/run-the-di... | | |
| ▲ | Swizec 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | > On the other side of this argument, I've seen "just run the dishwasher twice" used as shorthand for giving yourself permission to do whatever is needed to get the job done and not letting perfectionism paralyze you from making progress. We've found that if we can't do a 10min tasks once, we won't do it twice either. We'll do dishes tomorrow. It's fine. I used to try the do-a-little-whenever method when I was single and the only outcome was that I spent all day every day dealing with dishes and had a constantly dirty kitchen. | |
| ▲ | BrandoElFollito a day ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Oh no. 2 loads mean 2 unloads. I cannot exploit my children anymore (their words, not mine) because they are gone so you better concentrate to put everything in one to. | |
| ▲ | milesrout 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | [flagged] | | |
| ▲ | grepLeigh 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | "Give yourself permission" here means acknowledging you're doing a "good enough" job (for now) instead of a "perfect" job, and not beating yourself up about it in the short term. The Wiki article on self-compassion [1] has more context on the therapeutic value of practicing self-compassion and the impact on measurements of life satisfaction/happiness, curiosity, resilience, etc. Depending on the task/behavior, you may carry the same attitude into the medium/long term, OR figure out how to course-correct medium/long term to align with your values. E.g., if one of your core values is militant conservation of water, either because it's expensive or one of the disappearing resources on Earth, you might strategize ways to conserve your energy to do the best possible dishwasher-loading job every day. That's what I was getting at when I said these type of tasks are "microcosms" because sometimes they reveal misalignment of values. Why do you say "therapist" here (with the air quotes)? [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-compassion | | | |
| ▲ | ipsento606 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | > This is lazy and wasteful. Modern dishwashers are incredibly efficient. They consume insignificant amounts of power and water compared to heating or cooling your home, or taking an extra shower. Your opinions are your own, but I don't have the slightest hesitation in running an extra dishwasher cycle if it makes my life the slightest bit easier. | | |
| ▲ | milesrout 2 days ago | parent [-] | | I remind you of what I was replying to. >Her therapist said not to rinse the dishes & just run the dishwasher twice, even three times if that’s what it took to get them clean. It was a game-changer for her, one that enabled her to do a small task in an imperfect way just to get it done. This is not about efficiency of the use of the earth's resources. It is about the modern-day priests of America (therapists) telling people that it is okay and good to simply put no effort into anything. That it is acceptable to "struggle to wash dishes" Instead of this person being checked into a mental hospital, instead they are given a coping strategy. What next? Not doing well in school? Don't worry about it, just use AI to cheat! Not making enough money? Just steal, what's the big deal? Don't beat yourself up, you don't have to be perfect, just get through the day with all your fucking spoons. |
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| ▲ | xvokcarts 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | One shouldn't ever be anxious about such things as being wasteful. Mindful, sure, but not anxious - being anxious about such things is actually a pretty good reason for therapy. | | |
| ▲ | 9dev 2 days ago | parent [-] | | That’s not what they said. Don’t be anxious about being wasteful, don’t be wasteful! It’s not some lofty goal or something, but a part of growing up and being a responsible adult. | | |
| ▲ | em-bee 2 days ago | parent | next [-] | | yes, but if trying not to be wasteful creates an anxiety, then you need to treat the anxiety first. in that case giving yourself permission to be wasteful is what matters, and responding to that by telling to person not to be wasteful is counterproductive. | | |
| ▲ | 9dev 2 days ago | parent [-] | | No, that’s just the wrong way to think about it. It’s something that needs doing, so you do it. Are you anxious about going to the toilet? You’re not. You do it as it’s necessary. Sometimes it helps to stop thinking and start doing. I’ve been there. It takes practice. | | |
| ▲ | tgaj a day ago | parent [-] | | There are people that are anxious about going to the public toilet so I would say your argument is invalid. |
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| ▲ | AStonesThrow 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Speaking of wastefulness and dishwashers, I rent an apartment which does not include a dishwasher. In fact, no apartment I've ever rented included a dishwasher, although many have included a clothes washer and dryer installed. My kitchen does include a garbage disposal, which is a nuisance, because even though my ex-girlfriend called it "dispose-all", it disposes of nothing, except it effectively annoys 10-30 neighbor families if you manage to clog up the lateral drainpipes, and I don't rely on it to chew up food or any solid waste at all. The only reason I activate it is because it speeds up the draining of water in the dual sink. And also because, if I don't run it on a weekly basis, the motor will seize up in a way that requires a maintenance call, and you don't want to call in maintenance. Anyway, I wash my dishes by hand, and the bane of my existence is dirty dishes in the kitchen sink when I'm quite hungry and it's 7am and I just want to get breakfast started, but the sink isn't clear and everything I need is dirty, and needs soaking time before the residue will budge, and so I end up punting and ordering delivery anyway. Washing dishes is a pipeline, a process, that can take 2 hours, or it can last 12 hours, or it can take 3 days to complete. I often don't get around to that magnificent endgame of putting away the dishes but I leave them in the drying-rack until I need them again. It's like my "L2 Cache" for kitchenware, that drying rack. And guess what, when I go to wash dishes again, I often discover there's no room in the rack, and I rip out my hair a little bit and I stop washing the dishes long enough to empty the rack, and then I'm exhausted and I go to lie down in bed instead of washing dishes, or starting dinner, and guess who's ordering delivery again? So one of the sanity-preserving hacks I've developed is using paper plates, paper bowls, plastic cold cups, and plastic flatware. And this works great for cold cereal, and the raw eggs I drink, and microwaved frozen meals that I can plop into a bowl or put on a plate in order to cut them into pieces. And I thought that cloth napkins and dish towels were cool, because I was Saving the Earth, and for a couple of years I owned not a single roll of paper towels; I used cloth napkins and I laundered them, and now I use both, and if something is going to stain my precious cloth, then I use paper towels or a disposable sponge on it first. And they called me "wasteful" for using disposable kitchenware, but in reality I only own a single tablepspoon and a single teaspoon. I own about 3 forks, and 2 butter knives. I recently purchased a set of 4 identical steak knives, because a good sharp knife to cut meats is essential. But most of my flatware is disposable, including semi-disposable chopsticks (set of 8 for about $4). And guess what? None of the delivery services include plasticware anymore. None of the restaurants tuck it into your bag. They used to give you, like, a packaged knife-fork-spoon-napkin-salt-pepper, sealed in cellophane. Then COVID-19 happened, and plasticware is a cost center, and restaurants hate delivery services for many reasons, and no restaurant carries knives, even plastic butter knives. They are still usually sending me plastic straws, but I nevertheless keep on hand a stock of plastic bendy-straws to use with every beverage. So basically whether I order delivery or I make food at home, my plasticware suffices, and yeah, it's wasteful and I do not wash or rinse or reuse any of them, and I don't really care, because it is a sanity-preserving strategy that works quite well, because it is much easier to just tuck into a meal when I have flatware ready to use. | | |
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| ▲ | raffraffraff 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | That's the real difference. I'm playing Tetris, and getting an amazing score. She's leaving a bunch of stuff on the side for the next cycle, or hand washing them. | | |
| ▲ | jeffrallen 2 days ago | parent [-] | | Crushing the high score here too. Just recently got an entire line of colored kids plastic glasses on the top rack, I swear it made a do-do-do tone when I stopped that last cup in there. :) |
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| ▲ | mystified5016 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | For some reason my husband insists on using the "1 hour speed wash" setting and can't figure out why dishes are coming out still dirty... | |
| ▲ | wahnfrieden 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | the only reason to have particular care is to avoid chipping |
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| ▲ | hinkley 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| What I notice is that the dishes and glasses don't chip when I put them in and I do when anyone else does. Don't matter if there are more clean dishes per load if they're broken, people. |
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| ▲ | stevenAthompson 2 days ago | parent [-] | | You are thinking like someone who buys the dishes, rather than someone who wants the person who buys the dishes to get off their case about it so they can do something more interesting. |
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| ▲ | danielparks 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| Similarly, I used to stress about loading the dishwasher when I was a teen. I would spend so much time loading it that I have myself a neck ache from leaning over and I could have saved time by washing the dishes by hand. I still try to be somewhat efficient about loading the dishwasher, but… if I notice myself stressing I just say “screw it”, run it, and wash the rest by hand. The other thing I’ve realized is that sometimes things don’t get clean if you load them properly. For example, tall glasses that had smoothies in them. It’s a little gross if you don’t notice it until you’re about to use it, but… you can just look at them and wash them by hand when you unload the dishwasher. I guess this is all to say that sometimes the best optimization is to not think about it too much. |
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| ▲ | airstrike 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| IMHO the main advantage of neatly loading dishes neatly is that unloading becomes a 60 second exercise as opposed to a 5 minute one. It's not so much that I don't have 5 minutes to spare, but my back appreciates it if I can get it done quicker. I get 4 plates with each hand, silverware is already sorted neatly... it's just overall a better experience. In other words, even if you believe the time taken to sort is identical whether you do it loading or unloading, the difference is if you do it while loading you divide that task into many smaller tasks instead of doing one big sorting task on unloading. |
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| ▲ | harrall 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| I like to re-try everything a new way occasionally even if I've been doing it one way for 20 years. |
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| ▲ | m463 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| I think that heavily depends on the specific dishwasher. I inherited a dishwasher and became more uptight after: - dishes that left the soap partially unused - wet dishes - melted stuff - stuff that blocked the upper rotating thingie - stuff that fell into the heating element and bottom rotating thingie maybe seeking a racoon-friendly dishwasher would be a relationship saver. |
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| ▲ | taeric 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| I view it as an area where diminishing returns are almost as soon as you get started. Using a dish washer is already getting a TON of work done for me that I would otherwise have to do. Trying to squeeze any extra from it is kind of silly. I'll always have to run it some more tomorrow. |
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| ▲ | stronglikedan 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| The only trick is to not block anything from the water, or a direct reflection of it. Other than that, it's a free-for-all. |
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| ▲ | potato3732842 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| >and noticed there wasn't a difference in the cleanliness. If they screw it up good enough there is a difference because the water streams can't get where they need to to get everything sufficiently cleaned and rinsed. |
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| ▲ | DiggyJohnson 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| > dealies Not often so I learn a new 5 letter word. I have the same issue with trying to get rid of the fiestaware from my childhood home my mom gave me when I graduated college. It just fits right. |
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| ▲ | atoav 2 days ago | parent | prev [-] |
| In one of my jobs (civil service) I had to pack and unpack a cheap dish washer, for a horde of unruly kids each day. If you pack it orderly unpacking is a lot faster. It also helps to avoid problems with leftovers blocking the dish washer. Turns out most dish washer manufacturers thought a bit about how to load a dishwasher ideally (that matches the layout of the machines insides). For home use with small amounts of dishes it won't really matter tho. |