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I have a relatively high-end desktop with a nice monitor. I also have an aging laptop with a tiny screen and an anemic amount of RAM. Most of my computing ends up being done on the laptop.

With a family and a kid, it turns out I’d prefer to spend most of my time at the computer in common spaces; at the dinner table, on the couch, etc. so that I’m present and available for my family. This is far better than squirreling myself away in a room.

(Note that for work, I have a different computer, I’m talking about for life outside of work.)

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scarface_74 15 days ago | parent [-]

You don’t see any conflicts between this:

> it turns out I’d prefer to spend most of my time at the computer in common spaces; at the dinner table, on the couch

And this?

> I’m present and available for my family

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op00to 15 days ago | parent [-]

The conflicts arise when all you do is work. Every second of every day does not need to be spent staring at your children and still be a good parent.

I often sit with my kids and get a little work done on the couch while they're entertaining themselves. I can engage where appropriate, and of course I don't spend my entire life working. This flexibility allows me time to walk them to school, pick them up from school, leave early to go to their sports things, band concerts, or just play outside with them.

You know, nuance and balance.

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scarface_74 15 days ago | parent [-]

I have a kind of strict separation between home and work and I have since I started working remotely.

When I’m “at work” in my home office. I’m not to be disturbed. When I’m “off work” my computer is shut down until the next day and I get on with the rest of my life - which doesn’t involve computers.

That sets strict expectations from everyone in my home.

	▲	op00to 15 days ago \| parent [-]
		I’m glad that works for you and your family. For me, I thrive from taking breaks during the day with my family and having the ability to catch up and work when the ideas hit me. That’s what’s wonderful about remote work, both our styles can be accommodated, we can be there when our families need us, and we can both be our most effective selves.