You don’t see any conflicts between this:

> it turns out I’d prefer to spend most of my time at the computer in common spaces; at the dinner table, on the couch

And this?

> I’m present and available for my family

The conflicts arise when all you do is work. Every second of every day does not need to be spent staring at your children and still be a good parent.

I often sit with my kids and get a little work done on the couch while they're entertaining themselves. I can engage where appropriate, and of course I don't spend my entire life working. This flexibility allows me time to walk them to school, pick them up from school, leave early to go to their sports things, band concerts, or just play outside with them.

You know, nuance and balance.