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▲ bluegatty a day ago

"Is it an American thing?"

It's 'baffling' that someone would think that this is not a social concern.

It transcends cultures and faiths.

We can understand surely that some care less, but the only people who can't understand why this is bad have never been in a relationship.

▲f6v 19 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Suppose they were non-exclusive in their marriage. It’s not something you and I know (and it’s not our business unless they told us).

You don’t know if they’re, but you’re making a judgment. I don’t care what you think about it, it’s just disgusting to think someone’s sexual relationships are of your concern.

I’ve been thinking about it for a while. Western societies are more accepting of queer people now, on average. But the desire to judge people based on who they sleep with hasn’t gone anywhere. 30 years ago someone would say it’s of “social concern” or a CEO visits gay bathhouses.

Repeat after me: people’s sexual lives are not anyone’s business.

▲robinhood a day ago | parent | prev [-]

It's a concern, but this concern has no place in business. What's happening in a marriage is not our problem. So yes, it's definitely more a north american thing (and I'm in a long term, married relationship, so you last sentence definitely shows how immature your views are).

▲evgen a day ago | parent [-]

"Yes, he has a long string of theft convictions, cheats at cards, and beats his wife, but I am totally surprised that he defrauded our company for millions of dollars..."

It is not a north american thing, it is a character thing.

▲fg137 21 hours ago | parent | next [-]

I am pretty sure that "beating his wife" is criminal in most countries while "sleeping with someone that is not his wife" is not. That is material difference right there.

You words are doing a lot of work blurring the difference here.

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▲wat10000 18 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

It’s not that long ago when the legalities would have been reversed. I don’t think that’s a very good guide.

▲victorhooi 16 hours ago | parent | next [-]

I think you're drawing a bit of a straw-man fallacy there.

We're talking about current events - and hence current social norms and mores (although I do concede there's a spectrum there - and that American culture still does have a bit of Puritan culture embedded in it).

Slavery is illegal in most places in 20206 - but sure - it wasn't illegal 100 years ago.

Just like homosexuality was illegal some 50 years ago - but isn't illegal today (in most places).

But in 2026 - if Jensen Huang (or anybody else) has multiple consensual relationships with lots of adult women (or men) - that's their business. We might have our own personal views on whether we would have relationships with lots of women (or men) - but that's a different thing.

This isn't the Handmaid's Tale.

▲fg137 18 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Citation needed.

▲wat10000 18 hours ago | parent [-]

"The practice of wife beating was legally acceptable throughout most of history. In fact, it was not made illegal in every state until 1920." https://www.thefreelibrary.com/No-drop%20prosecution%20of%20...

"It is an open question whether adultery continues to be viable as criminal law even though it remains on the books in 24 states and territories." https://web.archive.org/web/20170503222839/http://www.nytime...

If you'd like to know more, Wikipedia has many cites for you: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adultery_laws https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence#History

▲fg137 16 hours ago | parent [-]

1920 -- your definition of " not long ago" is very different from mine.

And about equating "remain on the books" to actually enforced law that is relevant in real life: sure, but I'm not going to waste my time convincing you otherwise.

▲ryanbrunner 21 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

You're substituting different actions. There's no reasonable justification for "beats his wife". "Sleeping with someone who isn't their wife" could have justifications - you don't know anything about their marriage.

▲f6v 19 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It’s an absurd argument but I’m not surprised someone would say something like that.

▲victorhooi 16 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

It's very much a North American thing - likely related to the Puritans sects that founded the colonies. I'm not saying it's good or bad - simply pointing out the obvious.

It's also this incredible dichotomy - American culture is filled wit hyper-sexualised imagery in fashion, movies, TV shows - yet they still have an incredible stigma about public discussions on sexuality, public breastfeeding, or people showing open same-sex affection.

Quite frankly, what Jensen Huang, or Elon Musk, or Miley Cyrus or Donald Trump, or Jerome Powell or anybody else chooses to do about their sex life behind closed doors is their problem. Unless they come to you for relationship advice - you probably also don't know half the story.

I can also say with almost biblical certainty that none of the aforementioned people have come to any HN-ers for relationship advice....

Yet the sheer level of public discourse about Jenson Huang's marriage is insane.

Now, the GPU and export controls - that's a different matter entirely - and I can see how that might be pertinent to business discussions, and I can see why analysts would be interested in that. But we have barely any information on that. Nobody seems to comment on that?

Also to use your language "it's a character thing" - I should point out that it wasn't too long ago that a male being affectionate with another male was a "character" thing - see Alan Turing? Or Oscar Wilde? Or Tchaikovsky?

Yet if you saw another man holding hands with another man - would you say "it's a character thing"?

Unless I knew them personally, it's none of my business - I'm certainly not going to walk up to a stranger and go "Oi mate, you can't be doing that, it's a character thing!" Likewise if I saw people in open or polyamorous relationships (which I hear are a thing) - unless they were my friends and had asked for my counsel or wisdom - I'll let them walk their own walk. It's not my place to judge them - stick, eye, plank and all that. And relationships are incredibly complex things, and we often don't know the half of it.