My mother had gotten "two wrongs don't make a right" through my head by about age four. It's still true. I don't know nor care what they're doing in San Jose.

Seems like what they’re doing in North America kind of undercuts your assumptions.

Perhaps it’s you that is out of touch?

Both partners in this case know and/or participate, you don’t want drama at your games night after all. There is no wrong here, it turns out that many partners like seeing their partner have a great time.