> If your employer won't respect your time with your family, they don't respect you.

Why do you assume that OP's employed? And if they are, why do you assume that they can afford to just walk away?

For the first question, op talked about work commitments. So that's not a stretch to assume.

For the second, I get it. Not everyone can. I shouldn't have when I did, but it worked out okay for me after a few months of pain. And I'd do it again in a heartbeat. We had to downsize our lives and I switched to a field I never thought I'd work in. Turns out I love it, and have way more time for my family, even if we can't do massive vacations now.