Physical violence is the only thing that everyone agrees is violence. Threats of physical violence are also probably considered violence by a majority, though such judgements are often conditional on the credibility of the threat.

Manipulating state power to deprive people of essentials is also arguably violence, since the state's power is ultimately realized in its monopoly on the same.

Saying mean things to people may be abusive, but it isn't violence in the sense that an unqualified reference generally means.

> Physical violence is the only thing that everyone agrees is violence

For a very long time, everyone agreed that ADHD was defined in how it manifested in males. It is a very limited way to view the world and it create all kind of illogical conclusions that doesn't make any sense.

Bisexual women are statically twice as physical violent when in relationship with women then when with men. Similar, bisexual men are half as physical violent when in relationship with men, compared to relationships with women. The crime statistics are clear here, and yet, it makes absolute zero sense that how physical violent a person is depend on the gender of their partner.

There is however some explanations for the statistics if one start to view the spectrum of violent behavior, the underlying causes, and how and when it escalate into physical violence.