They aren't anti-female, they are down-voting your personal take.

You invalidated a lived experience that a lot of people can confirm by telling someone that their feelings are so unrealistic that they need therapy.

> But, you're making sweeping generalizations about ~50% of the world's behavior

sounds a lot like "not all (wo)men"... yeah, but enough of them for many men to have learned to be cautious around vulnerability with women. Its the same thing as guys who don't understand the man vs. bear thing.