I think of privacy as the right to be myself, because I get to choose which parts of my persona(s?) to expose.

People change over time, and those I care about will be part of the journey. We don’t remember each other’s mistakes all the time.

And then, of course, there is the effort we put into these relationships. I’d rather a friend forgets my birthday and apologises than their LLM of choice automatically sends me a carefully crafted messaged based on our interactions.

Maybe we’re the weird ones.

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normie3000 a day ago | parent [-]

> I’d rather a friend forgets my birthday and apologises

Do most people really remember all the birthdays they acknowledge? For me they must be diarised, or beyond immediate family there's no chance.

I used to think it was artificial and pointless to wish people happy birthday after being reminded by google calendar. I now know enough adults who have taken (mostly minor) offence to being forgotten, that I play the game.

	▲	nullfield 19 hours ago \| parent [-]
		Like people have said, it used to be a signale that you knead them well enough to just remember or cared enough to diary it.