Maybe OP didn’t read the article, but often the title of the article is more interesting to HN than the article itself, which may be the case in this instance given it’s (currently) the top-voted comment.

(As a side note, I wish titles were more fitting to the article, vs. trying to bait clicks with catchy titles that often suggest a different topic.)

Everyday is a new day. Start today. Thank your previous self for getting you here. For making you question past decisions. Change. Take a risk.

I believe there are millions of them?

But not sure how helpful they are.

My advice is, go dancing. Learn to enjoy your body and how to move it freely for fun, then you will find a likeminded body to enjoy together. But depending where you life, finding a good place to dance with nice people and not just drunk idiots can be a bit harder unfortunately.

Besides activity, another advice would be mindset.

As in, are you ready to meet your dream partner today and invite him to your home?

No? Not ready? Place is a mess and you are not really comfortable opening up in the first place right now?

Then this would be something one can work on.

Does not mean your place needs to be always perfect and a date does not have to start by inviting someone in. But are you actually ready for it?

What is it, that you really want?

While I was single for a long time, I was neither clear nor prepared for a partner, yet yearning for one. That did not work. I had some growing up to do first.

Here's a handbook excerpt...

Time seems to go faster, the older you are. When 5, a day lasts enormously, a month forever away.

When 30, a day is still noticeable. When 50, a day flies past. When 70? A week vanishes so very quickly.

A bitter truth of age, is the older you get, the less time you have left? Well, the faster that time seems to move to you. It's as if the more you try to hold on, the faster it goes away.

There are ways to improve this. New experience is one. Doing the same thing every day, with no challenge or change, just makes life fly by.

You can be an introvert and still experience loads of new and of change. Trust me on this. And as a geeky introvert, you have a mind to learn daily, and more importantly, learn different things, not just tech.

But I guess what I'm saying is, do indeed "live more", but do it as you. Don't let these weirdo extroverts make you dance to their tune.

Here's the most important thing (if I may say so myself :) ):

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=50408802

The ship hasn't sailed at all. You're mid-20s are gone, of course, but don't waste your 30s worrying about your 20s; fully embrace this moment and this phase of life (not that phases are so tightly tied to age), even the sad parts.

In all ernest honesty, ChatGPT's not the worst at that.

handbook for single introverts in their 30s who feel like that ship sailed a long time ago.

https://chatgpt.com/s/t_6aefa63600608191ba730f78533db177

I suppose the equation is different for someone who is perpetually single. That one person makes a big difference.

And here we have the true answer. All the other answers are a form of "stop being an introvert" thus denying your nature. Accept yourself, be at peace with yourself, live the life that gives you inner peace and as much happiness as your nature allows.

Don't listen to the people who try to change you, only accept change if it comes from within although it is possible for this to happen because of how others interact with you and how that makes you feel. Don't change just because someone else says you should be more like them. Then you become their puppet, not your own person.

Also, don't be a dick.

Yes, but I took advantage of the article. My sister would have been a year older today.

You have a point, that the comment isn't actually about the article. And yet, einrealist also has a point that is worth hearing. It's OT, but it's worth hearing.