I also have a 2014 CR-V and I hate this too. But even moreso, I hate that there isn't a play/pause button at all. If I need to stop audio (e.g. pulling up to a drivethru, or starting a conversation), I gotta hit the phone. Heaven forbid I'm playing a CD, nothing I can do at that point.

Putting up a bug bounty of "ordering you a pizza" if anyone tackles this!

I get pause (for Bluetooth playback, at least) by pushing the volume encoder knob. That works well for me.