I don't necessarily want to look beat up, but I'm also fine with it. It's one of (not the only) the signs of a life lived. I've trained BJJ for years, and don't want cauliflower ear like some do. I've drained them a few times, but my ears have definitely changed a bit, and that's fine. I also teach BJJ and let the new people practice moves on me and they sometimes can bump me and give me a black eye. It's always fun to sign onto meetings when that happens, especially since I'm way past the age of fighting. New people are always slightly awkward around asking what happened.