If you really want to be in charge of your digital life and rights, you need to get off the proprietary plantation. Facebook/Meta, Microsoft, Google/Alphabet, Apple, Discord, TikTok, Twitter/X, Reddit - all of it.

You don't need to do this all at once, you shouldn't let "perfect" be the enemy of "progress" - every single proprietary platform you migrate away from is a win: you gain more freedom and more ownership over your digital life every time you do it.

Decentralized platforms, federated platforms, self-hostable platforms are where you want to be. Think bluesky, signal (warning: bluesky and signal are still effectively centralized), fediverse, matrix, nostr, peertube, briar, simplex, mastodon, lemmy, loops, stoat, zulip, xmpp, irc, pixelfed, Mail-in-a-Box, nextcloud, cryptpad, linux, lineageos, grapheneos, etc.

if you only want to talk to dozens of you, that is fine.