Your children will, in large part, become you. It's likely about as close as we'll ever really get to 'transferring our consciousness' which never made any sense anyhow. Even if your brain was able to be scanned and then simulated atom by atom, your 'consciousness transferal' kit would be a brain scanner and a gun with one bullet.

So I think the answer is to first make yourself into somebody you're happy with, and then be yourself. Somebody who's happy with themselves is going to have a good life, regardless of how the world turns. And I think people who are happy with themselves also tend to be better humans to other people, regardless of all of these other terms and values we try to impose on this.

Like if somebody's belittling some service worker, it's not because of a lack of compassion, communication skills, emotional intelligence, or whatever else - it's because that person probably hates themselves, and they're taking out their own self loathing on others.

I understand what you mean, but I also find that my son is very much his own person. He’ll (hopefully) inherit our best traits and values, but his interests and personality are quite his own. I wouldn’t advise parents on expecting their kids to be like them, except in copying your best and worst examples (“do as I say” doesn’t work).

citation needed. i can think of several people nothing like the rest of their family in a mental sense.

they look the same for sure, but very different.

"transferring consciousness" when that consciousness is 50% different