I'm not sure this applies. In the prior case they were talking about recognizing emotions and asserting rules (with explanations). I think Zizek's example here is more about disguising a direct order as a way to obfuscate authoritarianism. I don't think OP is saying that you should use subterfuge to get your way, but instead that you should recognize negative emotions as they happen, by explicitly noticing and talking about them out loud.

I think that if OP were to use the approach Zizek mentioned, they would've said something along the lines of: "You don't have to take off your dirty shirt, but oh the bed would be so sad if you were to wear it, really you would be the most beautiful child if you were to take off your dirty shirt and put a clean new one".