Relationships don't fall in your lap, you need to work on it. Fail, repeat, maintain. Yes, it is an uphill battle in many cases, for few it never ends well, but many reaches the hilltop. Those not 'fighting' uphill will not get up there, ever.

"Nothing in this world worth having comes easy"

And we always can try finding the gentle slopes, going around on the longer track, less crowded. The journey is what counts not the destination here.