I don't need people to tell me. My rent and paycheck are a very convincing argument in and of themselves.

>I've lived all over the place and one thing I've seem priliferate is this mindset of "I'm a victim, doing this is too hard, so I just won't for X and Y reasons" while folks order Uber eats.

There's a lot I can do by myself. But at the end of the day, someone choosing not to ghost me for a hangout or take the time to get together regularly is a 2-way street. Even pre-pandemic, it's been said people are flakier than ever.

There are systematic reasons to explain this, but on a micro level: "just work harder" is not a solution to friendship.