The second opinion thing has something I learned along the way. Get it BEFORE you have a treatment plan from the initial diagnosis. We got two second opinions (one for her first diagnosis and one for her recurrence) for my wife's ovarian cancer from Cleveland Clinic and MSK and in both cases the doctors would not advise/override the original doctor's treatment plan.

They were complete no-ops and a waste of time. Faced with that same situation today I would simply lie about whether or not a treatment plan was put into place.

Second bit of advice is to try as best you can to go into clinical trials with an understanding of the landscape of disqualifying treatments. Any immunotherapy treatment, for example, will disqualify you from nearly all subsequent clinical trials for immunotherapy.

Lastly the thing I would recommend for partners of loved ones in the crucible, don't get too distracted by trying to 'save the patient' that you miss opportunities stay connected with them in the process. It's not your responsibility to save their life, as much as it might feel that way when you're in the thick of it.

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