Yep, same thing with a contractor or your car guy or even your lawyer.

If you care about something, take in interest in it and learn to advocate for it. Don't conflate handing someone money with making them care about you.

Do also remember though that more people are struggling than you probably realize. That includes the people you are paying. The world is not easy right now, but it rarely has been. I'm not religious, but the concept of grace does have an appeal.

Ultimately, I find thinking macro helps. Realizing it often doesn't matter or would create an unnecessary trade off can help. Advocate. But pick your battles. More and more of us are running on empty, part of taking care of yourself is learning what to care about and what to let go.

IMO a large part of the reason people are struggling and strung out is because they don't take the time to get right answers, but rather stumble from thing to thing declaring good enough. This accumulates technical debt that inevitably comes calling some time down the line. So while I'm a quite understanding person in general, I'm not going to have much grace or sympathy when someone is trying to offload their own stress onto me by shortchanging an interaction. And I'm not talking like I give them one strike and they're out, but rather being patient, attempting to engage about the subject matter, and just getting persistently rebuffed.