The first thing I think about when I hear GHC is the gaslighting. For years I was prodded about that I should go. Men are absolutely welcome. Everyone is welcome, etc.

I never felt that I was actually welcome. And I don't have to be. It's not for me, and it doesn't have to be. I answered women inviting me that no, that wasn't made for me, have fun though.

Then mass layoffs happened, and men who lost their jobs, or looking for their first job, went.

Suddenly everything flipped. Keynote was basically "what the fuck are all you men doing here, taking the space of women?".

Oh, the gaslighting. Glad I never went.