> The dog also briefly went in the house (which I think is poor form, to be clear).

Extremely poor form. Dog people seem to struggle with accepting these kinds of boundaries around their dogs for reasons I’ve never understood.

Although I don’t think the dog should have been in the yard, either. No dogs means no dogs. There can be liability/insurance reasons on top of just not wanting dog shit in your yard.

> My friend counter-complained to Airbnb that the host was surveilling us.

I can’t imagine being an Airbnb host with issues like this.

I’ve stayed in plenty of airbnbs where the owners lived nearby, and noticing a tenant breaking the rules when you drive by doesn’t sound like surveillance.