I have no idea how trustworthy this study is - but it claims that 62% of women had such a fantasy at least once. How is that not in line with what the OP said about it being "surprisingly common"?

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Yossarrian22 2 days ago | parent [-]

Many rock climbers have felt the "call of the void" when climbing, I've felt it myself on a multi-pitch once, I'd hardly claim they are suicidal or have suicidal ideations and would not identify myself as either. I think there needs to be a certain level of intention to make the fantasy reality for it to be a kink.

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tsimionescu a day ago | parent | next [-]

I suspect the misunderstanding might be around the precise meaning of the word "kink" then.

I think in one common understanding of the word, that I assume the OP was using, having a taboo fantasy that you merely roleplay with a partner you are deeply intimate with, in full consent from both, can very well be classified as "a kink", even if what you're experiencing is the not really SA.

Based on your response, I'm assuming that in your understanding, it would only be "a kink" if it was a desire to actually experience a real sexual assault, which of course no one, or perhaps only an extreme extreme minority, actually wishes for. I don't believe OP meant to imply that this is at all common.

	▲	Yossarrian22 a day ago \| parent [-]
		More like if it’s a desire to have a consensual non-consensual encounter, a sort of kayfabe at the least

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Dweller1622 a day ago | parent | prev [-]

> I think there needs to be a certain level of intention to make the fantasy reality for it to be a kink.

Hopefully this isn't to imply that people with fantasies actually want to have non-consensual sex in some capacity. If so then this completely misunderstands sexual fantasy!