All humans face scrutiny in their interactions with others.

Software only got this bad, because we educated users broken tools are acceptable and fixable with computer reboots and anti-virus.

I dunno, people seem to accept most kinds of tool being fussy or flaky.

But the special thing about security flaws is that they turn a one in a billion error into a guaranteed attack. It's moderately hard to make something that doesn't feel buggy, but ridiculously hard to be secure. If you hold to the standards of a bake sale it's the former. If you want full security then nobody releases anything outside very strict contracts.