MS and the other big buggers are pretty incapable of running an email system that you would really want to use. They also have to support those that you might consider spammers too.

However, I'm sure that you are also familiar with the HN standard issue meme that it is impossible to run your own email system.

So, your email provider is crap and you can't do it yourself!

Bollocks! I use Exim (1) and rspamd (2) and run quite a few bijou email systems. It does require some effort.

You pays your money and you makes your choice ...

1. https://www.exim.org/exim-html-current/doc/html/spec_html/in... 2. https://docs.rspamd.com/

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zamadatix 37 minutes ago | parent [-]

The standard issue meme is usually the other way around: it's deliverability which is often a PITA, not receiving.

My previous ISP wouldn't even unblock outbound SMTP unless I switched to a business plan.

	▲	gerdesj 22 minutes ago \| parent [-]
		Somehow I manage it for quite a few domains. You have to do email due-dil and off you trot. Gmail, MS and co really do respect the rules in my estimation and don't simply dump email out of spite. If you go in with at least everything up to SPF working, you are normally good to go. DKIM and DMARC and all the rest are even better. I run my own DNS too and am on good terms with upstream so DNSSEC is available. Like I said, it requires some effort but so do most things in life.