Unfortunately, in my experience the more advanced/nuanced/complete of an explanation of physical phenomenon you want, the more math heavy and abstract the "real answer" becomes. Quantum Electrodynamics is some beefy stuff, the math is gnarly, and it is built on an increasing pyramid of mathematical reasoning and intuition as well as the steps of physical reasoning and intuition that you mention.

Remembering my graduate physics days im astounded that i was able to understand it, and am unable to really follow it now, as that higher math has gotten preeeety rusty.

Feynman diagrams are the attempt to loop back around and represent this field without all the math, but my experience was you have to have done the math first otherwise they are just so much arcane heiroglyphs. the wikipedia illustrates this well, where you can see a relatively clear diagram and corresponding equation, but i recall whole pages of a notebook to get one _line_ of an equation down. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quantum_electrodynamics#Feynma...

I say all of this not to suggest a clear explanation is impossible, but it sure wouldn't be easy. Love to see it though.