No so different things, and not so different ways. The "if you met one, you met one" is overplayed. Yeah, they have different interests and might have different comorbidities, doesn't mean they don't just have different core issues that are merely expressed differently (e.g. hates jeans vs hates wool sweaters or hates noises, but underlying both is sensory sensitivity).

The fact that they don't is why diagnostic tests exist and work.

That's a good example: they hate certain things, and are ok with others.

Depending on what you "hate" your life and disability can vastly drastically. Be it eye contact, clothing, certain foods, or the inability to change your routine or environment at all, or to even leave the house alone.