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NalNezumi 3 days ago

>Meta will impose daily usage limits and restrict nighttime usage by children who use Facebook and Instagram, and enhance measures to prevent children from accessing age-restricted content

So meta won.

The only thing I'm asking for is better control over my social media. Let me remove infinite scroll on Instagram and don't show me things I have explicitly followed on Facebook. And do this setting by default and a cigarette like warning pop-up when you try to enable the algorithms.

(I know you can do this with custom apps and I'm doing that but you have no clue how many non tech people beg me to share how and then cop out when they learn you have to download custom apk. Just add these functionalities as an default )

phyzix5761 3 days ago | parent | next [-]

As someone who doesn't use social media please explain. Is it not possible for people to just delete the apps and stop using them? Is the addiction so strong at this point that people don't have the willpower to stop?

NalNezumi 3 days ago | parent | next [-]

>Is it not possible for people to just delete the apps and stop using them?

Some people have friends, and some people also have friends that are very distant (geographically, life style, stage of life, etc).

Social media can allow you to keep in touch with these people in a very convenient way. For me, being able to see life updates of friends with 8h+ timezone differences is very nice perk, because planning a call or having energy to chat with someone that far away is tricky and many people understandably then drop it if that's the only way. (same applies if I want to talk to my digital nomad friend or, new-dad-overwhelmed friend). It's much easier to facilitate meeting up when I'm traveling too.

But even for people that want to use it for that purpose only, FB/Instagram will shove down infinite scroll and stories/reels/updates of people/entities you can care less about.

And yes for some it is hard to have "the willpower" as you want to frame it. (although we know it's not so much willpower, from addiction studies around nicotine and how loss of socialization around smoking usually is a detriment to quitting smoking for example)

And yes just removing / blocking those features help. There are also unofficial side-loadable app out there. So for me it works.

And for your life maybe there's no loss in socializing by just walking away. Good for you. But maybe the examples can shed some light in how social NETWORK (social media before algorithm and attention economy) is useful for many in different predicament than you, while the social media aspects, many would rather opt out.

And unfortunately only a select few of my friends (nerds/techies) are outside it (signal, discord, good old email) but almost everyone at least have an account. Many of the people I know move often enough that phone numbers aren't even a reliable way to keep in touch

tintor 2 days ago | parent [-]

People who don't use social media to catch up with distant friends and family just ... phone or video call.

No addiction, no infinite scroll, no exhaustion, no casino-like mechanics, no endorphins, no political rage, no AI companions, no random posts, no influencers.

threetonesun 2 days ago | parent | next [-]

Or e-mail, or chat in a video game, or a shared photo album, or blogs, or so many other things that the Internet still makes quite easy.

thewebguyd 2 days ago | parent [-]

Or go super old school and send a handwritten letter.

We've stayed in touch with eachother's social groups via various means of communication since antiquity without social media algorithms.

We need to re-normalize not knowing what is going on in someone else's life 24/7, and re-normalize not having 24/7 instant access to another person. It's not healthy.

Also, text messages don't need an instant response, nor should the other party expect an instant response. It's asynchronous communication for a reason!

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alastairr 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

You describe the apps as though they are recreational drugs with no other purpose but to produce endorphins. These 'apps' have a high level of utility - which is, I imagine, why most start to use them in the first place.

cuu508 2 days ago | parent | next [-]

The utility is not of existential importance. Yes, you can uninstall Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp, and the sky will not fall, life will just go on.

episky1234 2 days ago | parent | next [-]

My neighbors and school parents all coordinate via WhatsApp. The sky will not fall no, but if you don't join those groups you wouldn't know about upcoming HOA meetings, school events, important forms to fill etc.

Facebook is useful for bigger communities like moms groups. We found babysitters that way.

One of my social clubs tried to skip out of social media and was originally meeting in person, calling each other etc, but information just fell through the cracks as the club got larger.

inigyou 2 days ago | parent [-]

WhatsApp is not Facebook and Instagram - at least not yet.

OhSoHumble 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

A lot of small businesses use these platforms for outreach. Without them they wouldn't have an avenue to reach and stay in contact with customers. An example would be a potter showing their work on Instagram and then linking back to their Shopify website.

Big tech literally has fingers in every single pie imaginable and it's real money for a lot of people, unfortunately.

cuu508 2 days ago | parent [-]

Yeah, that's a very good counter-argument. I recently talked to a potter exactly like that, they said Instagram is their primary sales channel. Unlike for me, for them leaving would have significant financial consequences. The majority of users are not in this situation though.

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bdavbdav 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Things would be a massive PITA without WhatsApp for me. I guess iMessage/RCS would do, or one of the many alternatives, but in the UK, WA is the messaging platform.

abustamam a day ago | parent [-]

I vibe coded an app to help me manage my Toastmasters groups and WhatsApp API made it really easy for me to nudge people when needed and ask for volunteers or confirmation of attendance.

Honestly speaking I would not be in a leadership position for my Toastmasters groups if I needed to call each individual member every week as my other Toastmaster club does. That probably says something about me, but I'm sure many other folks would have a similar outlook.

alastairr 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Strange argument, you could say the same for almost anything.

jstummbillig 2 days ago | parent | prev [-]

Similarly to how you can just eat less and lose weight.

gorjusborg 2 days ago | parent | next [-]

> The utility is not of existential importance. Yes, you can uninstall Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp, and the sky will not fall, life will just go on.

>> Similarly to how you can just eat less and lose weight.

I'd argue it isn't similar in an important way, people cannot opt out of eating entirely. Overeaters must eat. People who can't control themselves with social media do not need to use them at all.

allknowingfrog 2 days ago | parent | prev [-]

You're making an argument about self-control in a conversation that is explicitly about factors other than self-control.

inigyou 2 days ago | parent | prev [-]

No they don't, not really. They are endorphin machines as you said. The perceived utility is a false perception caused by their being endorphin machines.

pas 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

HN is also social media :)

but let's say friends sending links to group chats (or through direct messages) and you open it, and uh you see you got messages from other people on Instagram, or on Facebook you see that someone had a baby/wedding/whatever, and ...

also I see that people install these limiter apps on their phones, and then just override them many times a day.

and of course if every few days you spend 30 minutes giggling while looking at funny cats/dogs, sure, great. but on bad days you end up doing it for hours and escaping into it, ignoring something else, or using it after stressful meetings to "clear my head" (which becomes a coping mechanism for anxiety)

the problem is obviously (right?) that this happens to everybody. kids are probably more susceptible, but in general we withdrew into our screens and do our flight/fight/fawn/freeze responses online (videogames, outrage porn, porn porn, food porn)

https://www.slowboring.com/p/from-bowling-alone-to-scrolling...

tintor 2 days ago | parent [-]

HN is social media only in strictly technical sense of the term.

HN isn't optimized daily for engagement like FB and IG are. There isn't a single image, or video on website. Ads (for YC companies) sometimes show up and are rare. Color scheme-wise it is very plain (and should stay like that). HN is not hidden behind login wall. It is not tracking you. You can access HN fully anonymously, and create throwaway accounts for posting.

pas 2 days ago | parent | next [-]

there's no need to "optimize" it already has the basic loop. stochastic reward (interesting news, interesting comments/replies), gamification (points go up!), and no real social interaction. (no connection, some performative elements, ie. comments are written not just to one known person or a small group of people you know.)

the things you mention all exploit this loop for monetization. I agree it's great that HN is not, but that doesn't mean it won't tickle our brains.

inigyou 2 days ago | parent [-]

HN is monetized indirectly by advertising VC stuff, also by removing things that contradict government narratives or billionaire narratives

grishka 2 days ago | parent | prev [-]

HN isn't social media at all because it doesn't have a social graph (you can't follow people here).

e12e 2 days ago | parent [-]

Sure you can. Click a user, see their comments, submissions.

I would say hn is in a group of systems that include Facebook.

It's true that contemporary commercial social media tends to be associated with these big corporate services that have already been thoroughly enshittified.

But they didn't start out that way - and alternatives are possible and desirable (hn, lobste.rs, many niche forums, IRC channels, discord servers[d] etc are proofs by example).

Maybe a loose definition would be communication system that leverage the network effect?

And good social media aligns with the end-user, and bad aligns with user-hostile forces?

[d]: (I don't particularly like discord, but it is much closer to a tool that does what I want: connect with people - than something like tick-tock or Facebook as it exists today)

didibus 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

> Is the addiction so strong at this point that people don't have the willpower to stop?

Yes. I've stopped Facebook and Instagram, and it simply got replaced by more time on HackerNews and YouTube. I've failed to cut those out as well. The addiction is a lot stronger than we'd all like to assume in my opinion.

ipdashc 2 days ago | parent [-]

> and it simply got replaced by more time on HackerNews and YouTube

I don't disagree with you at all, but doesn't this go against what most people are claiming in this thread (that Meta products are uniquely engineered to be addictive, to a significant degree)? Hacker News doesn't have any especially "addictive" features. They don't make money off this site, there's no ads, there's no personalized algorithm, no promotion of ragebait, etc. Yet plenty of us use it day after day or find ourselves distracted by it.

Youtube is more obviously addictive, but it's hardly social media. It's just media.

Meta has done a lot of harm in the world, don't get me wrong, but I think people are stretching a bit when they act like none of these technologies would be addictive on their own if not for the company's design.

didibus a day ago | parent [-]

Upvotes, downvotes, trending, there's still an algorithm on HackerNews.

Meta is the one being sued currently, obviously they are the biggest one, and have tried even harder to keep users coming back in addictive ways, and likely targeted children more directly.

I'd say HackerNews also has better moderation where they actively will remove ragebait, where Meta services often encourages it.

I see your general point though, but I don't think people act like these technologies wouldn't be addictive separate from some corporate endorser. A homemade cigarette is still an addictive cigarette, but that doesn't stop you from suing and regulating tobacco companies.

The other question you might raise is, what alternative isn't addictive? I think many have said that feeds should simply be chronological, same for comments. Instead of upvote/downvote, there should be reviews (score how much you liked the video/article), and users could sort by review score as well. You shouldn't be allowed to push content that users didn't explicitly subscribed too (ads should be ads on the side, not promoted content injected into your feed for example). And so on. Is it too restrictive, maybe, I think it's an interesting debate to have though, like what do we lose/gain making it less addictive, and what is actually less addictive?

pirates 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I don’t understand either. Usually someone responds with something like “the local <whatever> only posts updates on <app> so what choice do I have” or something to do with peer pressure or FOMO. I don’t doubt that people deal with those problems but they seem like better ones to have. But it seems like a lot of people just cannot imagine living without the apps anymore.

fsflover 2 days ago | parent [-]

Facebook is intentionally designed to be as addictive as possible. It's not just FOMO, https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=24579498

gherkinnn 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Just. That word again.

So why don't you just override your monkey brain that hordes of clever people trick in to scrolling more? Why don't you just get all of your social circle to move off Meta? Why don't you just use Ebay over FB Marketplace? Why don't you just convince your housing development to use something other than WhatsApp for sharing equipment? Why don't you just find a different channel through which to promote your small business? Why don't you just accept to be a social outcast?

The vast, vast majority can't pay that price.

And yes, some programmer somewhere has his programmer friends in Matrix. And no, that doesn't work beyond that very case. Why is this so hard to understand?

chad_strategic 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I beleive I deleted facebook in 2013ish.

If I need to access for some business reason, I have a fake account. Otherwise I have zero desire to be on social media.

For my son, I built a web site based on my dog. The dog aka Prof Nubbs. Essentially it's a dogs against social media, if you on social media then you are not playing with your dog! Dogs against social media.

grishka 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

You fall out of society, basically. In my circles, most people expect everyone our age to have Instagram, even though it's been blocked by the government since 2022.

As far as I'm concerned, the algorithmic part that shows me content from strangers is a tacked-on extra, and not a very welcome one.

inigyou 2 days ago | parent | next [-]

Are you actually in society by using Instagram, or do you just feel like you are?

FLeXMurphy 2 days ago | parent | prev [-]

Which society?

Melatonic 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I deactivated Instagram about 6 months ago and while there are definitely benefits I also miss out on a lot of local events and updates. It can be a useful tool if done right.

That being said I never use any of the features that feed you new content - strictly used it for people I knew in real life and events / local fitness groups / etc.

Facebook I deactivated way back and never looked back. Maybe it was useful in 2008

alightsoul 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

In some countries there is no alternative. News, events and many businesses only publish on social media

phyzix5761 2 days ago | parent [-]

Yeah, I currently live in one of those countries where businesses only post on facebook. I do fine without it. If I need something I google it and it shows up on google maps. I only see what I want to see instead of being inundated with unwanted ads from irrelevant businesses.

alightsoul 2 days ago | parent [-]

How do you get news and events? I mean yeah I can just ignore businesses

phyzix5761 2 days ago | parent [-]

Most news is unnecessary noise that most normal people can do nothing about so why waste emotional cycles reading that? For everything else, like important weather alerts, holiday events, etc, I go to the weather website for my country and for events I see signs up around the city. I keep up with tech news by reading HN, financial stuff I can find on yahoo finance, and for global stuff, which I rarely check, I read Ground News.

alightsoul 2 days ago | parent | next [-]

Where I live there are no signs for events

inigyou 2 days ago | parent | prev [-]

Ground News was shown to be a right-wing psyop and an AI slop machine, FWIW. It also doesn't deliver the value it says on the tin, since you can't actually read the articles it links to unless you have subscriptions on those sites.

doctorpangloss 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

it may be possible for some people, I don't know.

does Meta have internal research that uses the word addiction that would come up in discovery? probably.

so there's more than one side of this. a little bit of a chance in the health & science department, a little bit of a chance in the legal department, that the plaintiffs would prevail.

that said, are people willing to ban alcohol and tobacco fully? and most "recreational" drugs? the cultural side is the least informative, because you can't litigate culture, it's arbitrary, hypocrisy is the rule, not the exception.

intended 3 days ago | parent | prev [-]

Nope.

in more detail: Largely no.

Theres many ways to explain this, but this is the shortest: You have an average person, with a phone.

This person, with their average life experience, average brain development and biology, is facing off against research programs, data analysis, engineering teams, product designers, financiers, operations teams, who all want to give them the best digital experience they possible can have.

The algorithms are A/B tested to as close as possible, the content is generated from a dog-eat-dog creator economy that finds the most distracting methods to grab your attention.

A good part of this is because our society has never had to deal with information technology of this scope and scale. Quantity is its own quality. As a result people never had support and the firms had carte blanche.

It took us decades to go from the Libertarian ideal of "More speech is free speech" to knowing that content moderation is required to have functional online communities.

Do individuals have free will and choice? Yes.

Are people going to respond to incentives? yes.

Are people going to be able to compete fairly against a far more resourced claimaint for their attention and money? No.

autoexec 2 days ago | parent [-]

> This person, with their average life experience, average brain development and biology, is facing off against research programs, data analysis, engineering teams, product designers, financiers, operations teams, who all want to give them the best digital experience they possible can have.

They do not want to give you the best digital experience you can have, they want to give you the most addictive and exploitative digital experience they can legally get away with because they value the money that brings in more than they value anything else. They'll be content to see you hurt or killed if it makes them more money. They've knowingly been hurting and killing people, including children, for money. Meta, and the corporations like it, have leveraged all of their vast resources against the average person and the average person is always going to lose in that situation.

intended 2 days ago | parent [-]

Yup - “best”.

As in an experience so tuned to our hind brains that we are enraptured, past our ability to be concerned or switch off.

I’m being minimal in my invective and generous in my choice of words.

There is no fair fight against a corporation for an individual.

sershe 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Facebook has a "feeds" (or something like that) view, that is exactly your subscriptions in chronological order.

As for restricting nighttime usage and imposing daily limits, somehow my mom managed to do that (for video games) without any corporate features in the 90s, while being a single working mother. One time when I was particularly uncooperative she just went to the electrical panel and shut off the power to my room. That worked like a charm. Today, there are all kinds of parental control features instead.

However, how can you expect people to do parenting, when grown adults are apparently not even capable of basic self-regulation?

owisd 2 days ago | parent [-]

All the recent evidence (https://www.npr.org/2026/03/09/nx-s1-5736553/fast-food-scree...) is that people who are best at self-regulation don't do it by surrounding themselves with tempting things and will-powering themselves not to indulge in them, they do it by changing their environment so the tempting things aren't an option. They're changing the environment via the courts and the ballot box. The people with no self-regulation are the ones complaining about the possibility of having their dopamine toys taken away.

sershe 2 days ago | parent [-]

The first premise of the case is that it's to protect the children, so this doesn't make any sense - it's not people with self-regulation improving their own environment. Parents are the ones who are supposed to make sure their children have limits, in general, not just for social media. Social media/etc. makes it easy (or can make it easy) with parental controls.

Even construed more broadly, this makes no sense. All of these cases and the criticism hinge on harms of addiction, that pretty much by definition apply primarily to those with poor self-regulation. Those with proper self-regulation need them much less - so it's basically paternalism. Supposedly some people don't know what's best for them, they are "addicted" to watching cat videos. As, again, is obvious in this case, since the case is literally about children.

I, personally, like infinite scroll algo reels. I probably spend about 20 minutes a week on them, and if anything I'd prefer the algo to be more tailored / "addictive" cause it tends to over focus quickly and bore me. It sure sucks at addicting me. I don't want the state to interfere with what FB can or cannot do with the algo. If an adult gets addicted to reels, they are definitely not a victim.

inigyou 2 days ago | parent [-]

It's the same thing. Parents improve their children's "self-regulation" by using the courts to make sure the world isn't full of addictive junk.

triceratops 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

> The only thing I'm asking for is better control over my social media

Filter-tipped instead of unfiltered cigarettes basically.

pj_mukh 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

"I know you can do this with custom apps and I'm doing that but you have no clue how many non tech people beg me to share how"

Wait...I'm in tech and I'm begging you to share how. Is there a way on iOS?

I've mostly just stopped using these apps.

inigyou 2 days ago | parent [-]

iOS app installation (what some people call "side-loading") is done by signing up as a developer and then installing the apps as if you're developing them. You have to refresh them every 7 days in Xcode or they'll get deleted from your phone as that is one of Apple's anti-using-developer-mode-to-actually-install-things measures, and you can only install up to 3 apps this way, though apparently there's some kind of chameleon app that wraps multiple other apps with a menu.

JKCalhoun 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

"So meta won."

Unless we make sure in print to specify "Meta, the company found to have harmed children, …".

inigyou 2 days ago | parent [-]

So what? Media can write "Donald Trump, the confirmed child rapist and embezzler" but it won't actually make anyone stop liking him.

jdeaton 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

the only thing I'm asking for is better control over my cigarettes. Let me remove all the carcinogens, addictive substances and dont let me inhale things that are hazardous for my health. And do this by default on all cigarettes!

Helloworldboy 3 days ago | parent | prev [-]

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