> These traits have self selected for a reason, and any issues encountered are a fault of modern society not the individual imo.

I mean, quite apart from the fact that you can be so profoundly autistic that you are vulnerable and cognitively limited, and so profoundly ADHD that you are incapable of keeping yourself safe.

I am as yet formally undiagnosed ADHD; it is obvious, so obvious to me that either I am in later life finally unable to blunder through with the ADHD patterns that are evident throughout my life, or I have early onset dementia (which is how severe it often feels).

It is in no way society's fault that I am impaired. I have no special talents from my condition that other people with better time management could not also have acquired (and often do, better than me).

There may be a benefit to society from my profound inability to manage time leading to me productively hyperfocussing on something that society wants, but this comes at a cost to my health.

So I don't really care for the idea that these traits might "select"; it is a disorder.

▲

danparsonson 9 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Sorry for your struggles. Not to speak to your specific experience but in evolutionary terms there are other ways to look at neurodivergence besides the challenges: https://complementarycognition.co.uk/

Hyperfocus for example can be highly beneficial if you manage to point it in the right direction, and in general neurodivergence tends to specialise either into explorers or exploiters, that is, those who are good at exploring the space of possible solutions, and those who are good at applying a specific solution to solve the problem at hand. Such skills can be problematic in isolation (as you've described), but in combination can be very powerful and could've therefore been instrumental to our past success as a species.

I understand this is not much comfort for an individual who is struggling, but I second the GP in saying that many modern societies are not setup to provide the best environment for the neurodivergent among us to thrive, to the detriment of everyone.

	▲	dofm 7 hours ago \| parent [-]
		> Hyperfocus for example can be highly beneficial if you manage to point it in the right direction If you have the social support to cope with the costs of hyperfocus: forgetting to complete other tasks, losing track of broader priorities, and the risk of burnout. Hyperfocus is dysregulation. It just looks productive to everyone so we trick ourselves into thinking it is a benefit. But it is stealing from your present (other tasks you are neglecting) or your future (burnout). People who can manage their time can generally get the same work done in actually a similar span of time without the downsides. Take a bit longer maybe but then won’t have days of being distracted or exhausted or ill. Viewed over any longer span of time it is clear that hyperfocus is not really a benefit to the brain with ADHD.

▲

ozlikethewizard 10 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Do you not think that if your life consisted of chasing a gazelle once or twice a week you'd be suited to it? Evolutionary timelines are long.

▲

dofm 10 hours ago | parent [-]

More suited to it than others? No.

There is no upside to what I experience.

The genes for ADHD and autism survive because their consequences do not kill all their bearers before they get a chance to breed.

The appalling thing for me is that I have spent my life telling myself there are upsides; I have now reached an age and a set of life experiences where it is very clear there never were.

	▲	benj111 9 hours ago \| parent [-]
		You can accept yourself though, which seems to be the important element. If you can't walk you have a disability, but that doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't live a fulfilling life. I do have Autism, rather than ADHD, so I appreciate we probably have different viewpoints on this.