So true. NT people are so frustrating!

The scenario which drives me insane is; someone tells me some popular mainstream narrative about why we should do something in a particular way. Essentially just parroting expert consensus on a similar topic. I tell them exactly why this approach wouldn't work in that particular case and they concede to all my points. They fully agree and don't push back on anything.

But then a few minutes later, they're still pushing for the exact same mainstream expert consensus approach and ignoring all my earlier points which they had literally just agreed to. WTF.

The impression I get is that they liked how my arguments sounded superficially and felt that other people in the meeting also agreed but they didn't actually understand any of it! It's like they only absorbed it in a very superficial way; just enough to allow them to rephrase it or to add a few supporting points but somehow they really didn't actually understand the essence of the argument.

This kind of situation reminds me of the wordcel vs shape rotator discussion from a few years back. NT people are like wordcels.

David Chase(the wonderful creator of The Sopranos) has said on more than one occasion that people don’t say what they mean.

I think in your scenario that’s applying both ways.