"Startup, parenting, hobbies, friends. I think you can do 2 of these well. But you'll have to quite light on the others."

Someone on X, don't recall who, but it resonated.

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msteffen 5 hours ago | parent | next [-]

For “parenting” and “startup”, I would say that each is extremely hard to do well even when it’s the only thing on the list.

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anon291 4 hours ago | parent [-]

Parenting is easy. Kids don't need the fussy obsessiveness that has become characteristic of modern parneting.

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msteffen 4 hours ago | parent [-]

Uh, I think at the very least you have to caveat on the age of the kids. Babies need a lot of fussy obsessiveness. Kids arms aren’t long enough for them to wipe their own ass until they’re about 4. Don’t know when you get them to start doing laundry or dishes but that takes longer still.

	▲	_carbyau_ 2 hours ago \| parent [-]
		Watching my kid grow up I realise that despite the modern world having/wanting so many kids we really don't build affordances for them. Most kids 5-8 at the family dinner table are trying to eat from a plate at shoulder height. No wonder they don't care about cutlery use. It's pretty hard to put downwards force on a knife that is at shoulder height, let alone coordinate all the minor muscle movements required. The bathroom sink in most houses, similar height, and they struggle to reach taps and soap. Little stools abound around the home! But then you go out and public toilets have hand driers right next to their head. No surprise they complain it is too damn loud! In a world where we supposedly want kids, if for no other reason than to keep society going, we sure don't make it easy for them.

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anon291 4 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

It shouldn't be hard though. For me personally, I'm mostly friends with other dads with kids and I do my hobbies (music, rock climbing, skiing) with my kids. It's not that difficult.