At hobby scale, you don't have to care about the details. Just ship a zip or container image with docs and let the user figure out the rest. Self hosting is going to require some bit of expertise.

I personally don't like apps that ship the entire sink (complex stack) when I already have an opinionated setup that already includes TLS/access control/etc.

I really wish people would tell me what the dependencies are and NOT just ram everything into a container image so I have to reverse engineer what's required to just run the damn thing on the stuff I am ALREADY running.

Just tell me what the entry point is and what the dependencies are for it so I can decide if I already have enough to just sort it out myself.

By all means, create a kitchen sink container image as well, but don't have that be the ONLY artifact for running it.